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What does Powerlessness mean to you?


A few years ago, I heard the term ‘boundaries’ and am still learning about it. Lately, ‘powerlessness’ has been coming up. I’m eager to learn other people’s ideas on this...
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It means you're not making decisions, they're being made for you.

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I think it can also mean an inability to influence your world. You have no power to alter your life situation or how you experience it, or other people's life situations for that matter
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Having aspects of your life controlled by abusive narcissists who enjoy hurting you. Living situation, employment, people pretending they care about you or that they're you're friends and allies in order to acheive selfish gains etc. At least that's how I feel/felt.
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Thank you. Interesting
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For an alcoholic I assume it means they are powerless to stop drinking on their own. For al-anon, I am powerless to stop the other person's drinking, and I'm powerless to stop my own bad behaviors like trying to control the other person's drinking. For my social anxiety, I'm powerless over other people's perceptions of me or whether they accept or reject me, which ultimately leads to the conclusion that all I can do is just be myself and stop worrying about it, to turn my will and my life over to the care of God as I understand him. I think the main point is to get to a point where you can release that tightly-held, fear-based control over the thing that you're allowing to dominate your life and just let yourself be you. I really don't have any power over my fear, and when I try to control my fear my fear controls me instead.
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When your life becomes unmanageable. Be it a substance or a mental framework
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When you're repeatedly mentally ****ed and passed on like some loose wh*re. All I will say.
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It means no matter what you try to do, they don't respect you or your wishes, and they'll do whatever it takes to get what they want or to make themselves feel better even if that means hurting you. Eventually it feels like you're caged and smothered... Like you technically do have a say but it's pointless because they aren't listening to you anyway since it's contradictory to what they want. It's when you try to do and say everything to protect yourself from being hurt and disrespected and having the other person selfishly disregard that.

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It means that I have to search for the only choices I have that will give me back control of my life (Surprisingly, there are very few).

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To me, it means being in a situation where, no matter what you do, you will only make things worse. Getting stuck in a quicksand is a perfect example of that: if you do not struggle, you cannot get out, but if you do struggle, then you will only get even more stuck.

In social situations, it may mean encountering an authority figure that abuses their authority at your expense, and if you try to fight back, then you will get into an even worse situation. It is common in totalitarian states: you are being abused by the government, and if you try to fight back, then the government will only abuse you more - and you obviously cannot beat the government at its own game. But even in regular states, it may be a nasty boss, an unfair research advisor, a police officer with a stick up their butt, or even a group of bullies at school.
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Powerlessness like depression is a lie we learn from a society that only cares about money and cares not for real life. It's all a sham. Pretend that people are meaningless and expensive crap is what is valued. Keep the peons under control so the balance of power is not changed.

And I always thought this would be
the land of milk and honey
Oh but I came to find out that it's
all hate and money
And there's a canopy of greed holding me down.
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Things you want to do (even small simple things) being held back due to expectations of someone else or your fear of going against their expectation and possibly triggering conflict with them.


Enjoy any good things, even the little and menial ones, as you will never know what impending distresses could descend upon you in a moment.
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Power, too me would mean self control.
(focus on self)


Powerlessness, would mean giving up such ownership. Giving up self to life.
(lack of focus on self)

Best way for me to describe it cause, its more of an experience.
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And I always thought this would be
the land of milk and honey
Oh but I came to find out that it's
all hate and money
And there's a canopy of greed holding me down.
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Not being able to stop the anxiety or the mania - except for taking a ****ing pill.
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Anything you do, amounting to nothing no matter how hard you try, how much you sacrifice, how much of your soul you trade in, nothing will change. It's ****ing ****.

I'd just be the catcher in the rye and all. I know it's crazy, but that's the only thing I'd really like to be. I know it's crazy.
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When you are riding in a vehicle that you're not in control of and you can't get out of or influence it's speed, direction or destination in any way.

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