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post #1 of 9 (permalink) Old 08-15-2019, 02:54 AM Thread Starter
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Hi I have a problem with staring at people. It started in 2011. it has effect me in the worst case I flunk outta college because the anxiety it cause me. In the last thirteen months I've quit five jobs. I have people thinking im gay or a creep. I worked at a place with one of my neighbors and spread a rumor that I'm gay because I stared down every guy in there. Every one is looking at me like I'm creep. I went to the store last week and some kid said to his there that gay guy. I don't know what to do anymore I'm bout to quit another job this week. Taking the bus or going to work is hell for me. I just want to stay home. Is any of you going through this? How do I make this stop
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Does anyone ever say anything to you about your staring? Could it just be a product of focusing on your self too much, and that you are not really staring at all? Or could it be homophobia; worrying that people think that you are gay? If someone notices your stare, and looks back at you, do you avert your eyes from them? Do you think that you are trying to make social contact with people? How would you rather act, other than to look at people?

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I actually have a mild version of this. When in gym. Yoga pants. Lol. Might actually be OCD though and not lechery, because I find it really ****ing hard to stop looking at people in the constant god dam mirrors, and there is a "don't look at person" thought, which creates a tension, which means I end up having to look.

Enough about me, lets talk about you, what do you think about me?
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What is going on in your mind while you staring at these people? Do you feel a negative emotion if you control this staring behaviour?

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I Just randomly stare at people. I can sense where they are at all time and see them through my peripheral vision. They get uncomfortable. I stare at men. And I'm not attracted to men nor gay. My whole neighborhood thinks I'm gay. And my workplace thinks I'm gay. I just want to die
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Hey Asmuchasocould, welcome to SAS.

Even if our scars donít match thereís no wrong you canít make better if you can figure out a way to change your mind.

And sure thereís things I regret not doing or doing. Those thoughts climb my spine like spiders, and then Iím really the stranger in my own bed,

and that ball of nervous gets pushed into every crack. Thatís whatís holding the bricks together.


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I Just randomly stare at people. I can sense where they are at all time and see them through my peripheral vision. They get uncomfortable. I stare at men. And I'm not attracted to men nor gay. My whole neighborhood thinks I'm gay. And my workplace thinks I'm gay. I just want to die

Have they told you directly that they think you're gay?
That's quite a strong assumption to make about someone on their workplace

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I've overheard conversations
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