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post #1 of 11 (permalink) Old 06-02-2020, 12:51 PM Thread Starter
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Hello,

I'm 43 and have had social anxiety for a long time. It hasn't gotten better over the years, it has gotten much worse. I just left my job after struggling as the social pariah there. My two co-workers, whom I thought I was working with well, accidentally sent a text in which they were talking negatively about me to a group text that accidentally included me. Oops on their part. I left, I just can't go back. I'm so quiet and awkward and, at this point, fragile. I've lived in this cliquish town for 10 years and do not have one single friend. So, I'm here. I'm here to talk to others, to maybe learn a little something, and to not feel totally alone.
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post #2 of 11 (permalink) Old 06-02-2020, 12:58 PM
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Welcome to SAS!

Sorry, to hear about your problems at work!

Hope, you'll find some comfort and support here!
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Hi, welcome.

I'd be really upset at that too. I've lived at my current place for maybe 10 years, don't have any friends either. Just people I "know" but don't hang out with.
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post #5 of 11 (permalink) Old 06-03-2020, 04:40 AM
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hey okie.....welcome to the community here at SAS, we're glad to have you......i understand what you say......im 44 and have had social anxiety since i was 18, its a major pain in the as*

i think you did the right thing resigning from your job.....i would nt work there if youre feeling uncomfortable and if youre colleagues were talking negatively about you......good for you for quitting!
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Hey okie, welcome to SAS.

Even if our scars donít match thereís no wrong you canít make better if you can figure out a way to change your mind.

And sure thereís things I regret not doing or doing. Those thoughts climb my spine like spiders, and then Iím really the stranger in my own bed,

and that ball of nervous gets pushed into every crack. Thatís whatís holding the bricks together.


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post #7 of 11 (permalink) Old 06-03-2020, 07:26 AM
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post #8 of 11 (permalink) Old 06-03-2020, 07:31 AM
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since you've left your job but still live in a town that is basically a larger version of your last workplace, what are the possibilities of you moving somewhere else?

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post #9 of 11 (permalink) Old 06-03-2020, 08:59 AM Thread Starter
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Thank you and hello to everyone. Pied Vert, you're very right. The place I worked is just a concentrated, micro version of this town. I can commute to other towns nearby, or possibly work online...those are really my options. Unfortunately, hide and disappear from society for a while isn't much of an option.
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post #10 of 11 (permalink) Old 06-03-2020, 03:22 PM
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wow wtf they said?


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post #11 of 11 (permalink) Old 06-04-2020, 04:38 PM
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I'm sorry that you can't move houses to another city But the options you listed sound like they could still improve things

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