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post #1 of 11 (permalink) Old 07-16-2019, 06:31 AM Thread Starter
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I’m new and awkward


I’ve been really socially blocked off for a few years. I went through several very traumatic experiences that caused me to curl up into my shell. I wouldn’t go out with friends, the grocery store and mall were scary, I don’t remember how to have a conversation. I’m at a place now where I want to get past this. I put in a lot of work before my recent trauma, to get over my childhood trauma that had me feeling quite socially awkward. It almost feels like it was all for nothing, but I’m here to do the work again. Also willing to get help from whoever is willing to offer.
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post #2 of 11 (permalink) Old 07-16-2019, 07:49 AM
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Welcome! I'm new here too ^_^
I also have a childhood trauma that caused me to be like this. And I feel so relatable to you
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Welcome Ksolo. Don't give up. I've been incredibly awkward in the past, but things have been much better recently.

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Welcome Ksolo. Don't give up. I've been incredibly awkward in the past, but things have been much better recently.
@Squirrelevant What did you change that has cause things to be better?
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Welcome! I'm new here too ^_^
I also have a childhood trauma that caused me to be like this. And I feel so relatable to you
@ReivenVI What makes me relatable to you?
Would you feel comfortable with us sharing our childhood traumas with one another?
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@Squirrelevant What did you change that has cause things to be better?
It's a complicated answer that I plan on making a thread about soon, if I can just motivate myself to do it. Basically I have cultivated an attitude that is in line with the teachings of an ancient Greek/Roman school of philosophy called Stoicism. It also helped a lot to practise directing my attention outwards towards the world rather than inwards towards myself via something called attention training. There's also a bunch of other things that I think have helped, but it's too involved to go into it in much detail. I'll explain more in my thread sometime.

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Basically I have cultivated an attitude that is in line with the teachings of an ancient Greek/Roman school of philosophy called Stoicism. It also helped a lot to practise directing my attention outwards towards the world rather than inwards towards myself via something called attention training.
I just discovered stoicism myself. Very interesting philosophy. I can see the benefit of a lot of there tenets like determining what you can control and what you can not. Dont agree with all of it but a couple good concepts I like. As it been helpful for you and what parts of it?
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@Squirrelevant What did you change that has cause things to be better?
It's a complicated answer that I plan on making a thread about soon, if I can just motivate myself to do it. Basically I have cultivated an attitude that is in line with the teachings of an ancient Greek/Roman school of philosophy called Stoicism. It also helped a lot to practise directing my attention outwards towards the world rather than inwards towards myself via something called attention training. There's also a bunch of other things that I think have helped, but it's too involved to go into it in much detail. I'll explain more in my thread sometime.
@Squirrelevant Thank you for sharing that. I’m going to look into the things you referenced. I’ll also be looking out for that thread. 😊
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