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post #1 of 10 (permalink) Old 11-21-2019, 02:51 AM Thread Starter
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I Had enough


Hey, first post out here.
Basically I had enough, spent my entire 23 years long lifetime as a shy, introverted, self diagnosed social anxious person.
Just started first year at the university away from home living in the university's dorms. feels like the SA is taking over my life, having a hard time making friends, feeling uneasy at every class and especially between them while social interactions usually happen and basically barely leaving my room. Feel like Im ashamed to speak about this topic even wuth my closest friend fearing they will look at me differently.
Determined to make a change but its hard cause in every social interaction Im trying to put myself in I just pretty instantly starting to feel like Im left out, trying to control my negative thoughts and emotions without success and feeling like I have nothing to say worth saying pretty often.
Thank you all in advance dear fellow anxious dudes
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post #2 of 10 (permalink) Old 11-21-2019, 07:21 AM
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Welcome. So in what situations do you feel socially anxious? Speaking in class? One on one situations?
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Hey Introvertdude, welcome to SAS.

Even if our scars donít match thereís no wrong you canít make better if you can figure out a way to change your mind.

And sure thereís things I regret not doing or doing. Those thoughts climb my spine like spiders, and then Iím really the stranger in my own bed,

and that ball of nervous gets pushed into every crack. Thatís whatís holding the bricks together.


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hi. I remember the dorm living nightmare. did not have a good time. you dont need to feel ashamed by it. it's not a good environment for some people. I would stay in my room and not talk to anyone and stopped eating in the dining hall. my grades were bad also because I couldn't concentrate. I even started to get auditory hallucinations.

what would I have done differently? idk. I was too scared to go and see a counsellor back then, and they've been fairly ineffective anyway. going to meetups helps me now and it's good because its away from other places and people and exists in it's own bubble. clubs were too scary for me to join.

I wouldnt blame myself or compare myself to those other people so much now. and I dont get disoriented like that anymore, that's probably a confidence thing. I would still hate the dining hall and prefer to eat in privacy. but yeah I think I could make decisions which cater to my needs rather than just go along with what seems normal. that would have helped.

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I quit highschool, so at least you made it to the university xD.
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Hey, welcome to SAS! University is tough with SA, especially while living away from home. There's no need to feel ashamed, there are a lot of people here who have been in the same boat.

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