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post #1 of 10 (permalink) Old 10-12-2020, 04:30 PM Thread Starter
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Hi again (back after 3 year hiatus)


Hi all


Hope you've all been well - as I've been out of the scene for some time. Rather than appear out of nowhere, I thought I'd do this quick reintroduction.


All is well with myself fortunately - I've basicallly managed my social anxiety for mamy years now (albeit it never was as severe as other cases in this forum).


For reasons I'm fine to share, recently I've felt that I want to again help those seeling advice from a social skill perspective.


Actively guiding people through building social circles like o did before is likely impractical in today's Covid climate. However, I can share some insights here and there, and am hoping they will be helpful to someone.


Look forward to speaking to you 🙂

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post #2 of 10 (permalink) Old 10-14-2020, 07:53 AM
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Hi Macky that sounds amazing! I would like to know how you did all of that. I’m very curious

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Hi Macky that sounds amazing! I would like to know how you did all of that. Iím very curious
Hi Ellie - thank you for making me feel welcome. Your curiosity is indeed very valid - and welcome!

I did try to type a response but - because as you can imagine, overcoming social anxiety is quite a broad topic, even trying to boil it down to a few points is not too easy. Also, I could certainly be in danger of waffling for days!

Hence, I hope you don't mind me answering in a different way - but is there a specific aspect of social anxiety, or of my above post, that you'd like me to share my insights on?

I tend to respond better when giving something specific to focus on (which just so happens to be one way I tackled my issues). Just to pre-warn - I've never had professional therapy or medication for my anxiety, in case you wanted to ask about that.

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All is well with myself fortunately - I've basicallly managed my social anxiety for mamy years now (albeit it never was as severe as other cases in this forum).


For reasons I'm fine to share, recently I've felt that I want to again help those seeling advice from a social skill perspective.




Look forward to speaking to you 🙂

Glad your back. Sounds like you have improved. How does SA affect you on a daily basis these days?
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post #6 of 10 (permalink) Old 10-16-2020, 08:00 AM Thread Starter
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Glad your back. Sounds like you have improved. How does SA affect you on a daily basis these days?
Hi Chris - thanks for commenting.

Well when I was here last, I'd already basically "managed" my SA (which took many years prior). However, the job I've been in since has brought new (and welcome) challenges. There's heavy reliance on networking, influencing and representing others basically encourages me to be less apologetic about any anxiety traits I have, being a good role model and being a ource of reassurance for others.

I'm currently wishing to move upwards in the organisation - and unfortunately, job interview anxiety is still a big problem for me - and so this is now holding me back slightly. Fortunately I'm using all manners of work resources to aid this, including a mentor and my current manager's support.

So socially I'm more outgoing when I want to be, and have a better grip in things - to the point of being able to influence the social setting. There's always room to improve but again, I'm currently more focused on enhancing my job interview prospects, and so socialising is less of a priority. Plus, I'm still an introvert at heart, and so still need to "recharge" after a lot of socialising.

Incidentally, this career ambition involves analysis. The more I learn about this, the more I'm able to see patterns and structure in how I approached my challenging of social anxiety. although I'm personally more on auto-pilot nowadays, I felt this new mindset might increase my ability to help others, which perhaps has influenced me to come back. Seeing others progress through SA has always been very inspiring

So there you go Chris - another affect is my ability to ramble on and on, but I'm sure you'd never believe me if you told you

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post #8 of 10 (permalink) Old 10-18-2020, 02:07 PM Thread Starter
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post #10 of 10 (permalink) Old 10-22-2020, 08:55 AM Thread Starter
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Hi Alexdiago. If you're referring to help regarding SA then, as I've pretty much overcome most of my own SA setbacks, there's no doubt more forum members in need then myself. But I appreciate the offer all the same

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