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can you be happy with SA? I mean if I just be alone and dont bother fixing my problem sweeping them under a rug.
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No, I doubt it - not if you just do that. We need people to have meaning in our lives - unless you're maybe a classic introvert.

I could never be happy like that - I'd go insane. (well, more crazy than I am already)
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You can be happy with SA, but you near guaranteed won't be happy with SA if you avoid your problems. That is a one way trip to miseryville. You can dig yourself such a big hole it takes a gargantuan effort to dig your way out. All you are doing with avoidance is just borrowing from your future happiness. At some point its going to come crashing down.

I speak from experience.

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You can be happy with SA, but you near guaranteed won't be happy with SA if you avoid your problems. That is a one way trip to miseryville. You can dig yourself such a big hole it takes a gargantuan effort to dig your way out. All you are doing with avoidance is just borrowing from your future happiness. At some point its going to come crashing down.
Exactly - well-put Bob.
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Happiness is ever elusive, it comes and goes so yes you can experience happiness with SA but you can't experience long term peace and joy with it.
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Well, since SA is a personality type and not something you can just discard like a worn out car, if you can't be happy with your personality, you're in big trouble.

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Not easy to be happy with it but it can be done. You will be really happy if you overcome it and are able to appreciate what you accomplished
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post #10 of 14 (permalink) Old 08-23-2019, 04:27 PM
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Hey

I think you can be happy while having SA. But not by sweeping it under the carpet - running away from problems for the rest of your life will keep you from being happy. Facing it, accepting the situation and finding a way to live with it can allow you to be happy. You'll feel more peaceful once you find a way to see your SA not as an obstacle or threat, but simply something you find a way to live with!x

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Happiness is ever elusive, it comes and goes so yes you can experience happiness with SA but you can't experience long term peace and joy with it.
I disagree, you are never happy long-term whether you are the most stable person on the planet. Everything in life is transient, you can only get a small grip on happiness but never hold onto it for very long. The only difference with SA is that it forces people to withdraw and avoid situations or never leave their house, or if they are put in situations they tend to freak out.
You don't experience more long-term peace and joy without SA, just a different kind
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Yes, because it depends on the severity of your SA and I don't think it could ever 100% go away, anyway. (Anxiety, even in social situations, is something everyone normally experiences, after all.). If you learn to manage it to the point where it is only an occasional, minor inconvenience then it shouldn't be any barrier to your happiness.



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All you are doing with avoidance is just borrowing from your future happiness.
Totally agree. you don't live in an island alone, eventually you are going to deal with people whether when it comes to looking for a job or wanting to have a relationship, if not this year maybe the next one.

so while you aren't dealing with many problems, it's better to work on it before dealing with the hard way.
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So many sacrifices keep me alive
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