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Would you want kids?


Simple question, any answer is welcome. If your answer is yes I'd like to hear your thoughts on how you would deal with SA as a parent.
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Yes.

I would look into the disorder and see what I can do to help my kidz. I know mine isn't genetic...there might be a predisposition, but situation had a lot more to do with it.
I am a pretty outgoing guy when I feel comfortable with people. I would want to focus on that.
Seeing my nephew grow up (he just turned two), it gives me a hint of what to look for.

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Yes and no. Yes because it must be incredibly satisfying at an old age to look at your kids and see where they got in their lives thanks to you, and because it gives a lot of meaning to your life. No because of how stressful it is and how much time away from your life raising your kids takes.

I decided to let my potential spouse make this decision.
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No. I don't remember ever wanting kids at all, but I think when I was a kid myself I thought it was just an inevitable part of life. Then I got older and realized it was a choice and I knew I wanted to be childfree. Wouldn't give that up for anything.
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Yeah, but probably too old to now.
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Infants make me uneasy. And the idea of caring for something that came from inside of me terrifies me. I have never imagine having a child around. It is something I never saw myself having or desiring. I honestly imagined myself being happily alone. No thoughts of child bearing or being in a relationship because I am content with just me. Maybe as I become older I may desire to have children. It is possible but as of right now where my thinking is at I don't want any.

I'll ONLY have children if I have a husband and if he want some. I'm not going to deny him children.
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No, I'm quite happy just being godmother to my niece
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I'll handle it like every other parent that has it, all part of life. Hills and Valleys, I'll be fine.

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I'm very glad I have my son - and my wife. At this point in my life I think it would feel sort of empty without them - having them has given my life meaning and it's wonderful seeing my son doing everything he does.
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I don't really like how it's a gamble. You don't know what you are getting. You could get a healthy, smart, easygoing kid. Or you could get a hyperactive, sadistic, anger control management case. Or even worse it could have a severe disability and you will be stuck caring for it until the day you die or end up in a nursing home yourself. Can't return it back to sender.

It's amazing that people can even afford it these days. Preschool/daycare is over $1,500 a month.


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with the right guy, i might feel more receptive to having kids. no way am i having kids w/ a guy that doesn't treat me right and is not there for me.

i think w/ the dad's support, i might feel ok about being a parent and the challenges.
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I don't really like how it's a gamble. You don't know what you are getting. You could get a healthy, smart, easygoing kid. Or you could get a hyperactive, sadistic, anger control management case. Or even worse it could have a severe disability and you will be stuck caring for it until the day you die or end up in a nursing home yourself. Can't return it back to sender.

It's amazing that people can even afford it these days. Preschool/daycare is over $1,500 a month.

There's actually a kid like that next door to me now. I hear him through my wall - or when he's banging on it or kicking it. I think he's often there with his grandmother - I feel sorry for her, would be very hard dealing with that.
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Maybe one day. Right now though? Probably not. There's still things I know I need to work on and improve on.

With the right person however, yes of course. Just not right now.

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I'm not going to get anyone pregnant. other than that I'm pretty open to whatever happens

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Absolutely not. I would not want to pass these genes on to my worst enemy.

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I can't really say my sister didn't know what she was getting herself into because she did babysitting for years (on top of home health and waitressing) to pay for college. She knew what she was in store for but I think she has still been overwhelmed. I think maybe "in the long run" doesn't really have the same meaning and force behind it when people are young and ambitious and full of go power.

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Only if I had a mine. :P

I can barely take care of myself, why would I selfishly bring kids into that environment?
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NO, NEVER EVER!!! I hate them, they're horrible and annoying to me...
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