Would you start all over again given the option? - Social Anxiety Forum
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post #1 of 25 (permalink) Old 11-15-2019, 11:05 AM Thread Starter
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Would you start all over again given the option?


In a scenario where you start back from day 1, and growing up, while you don't retain your memory--you do receive hints from your past life that help you avoid mistakes you've made and inform you on opportunities you missed.

Wish I could. I fantasize about doing things differently, that and I just want to be a child again and enjoy doing everything and being able to do everything. Nothing is fun anymore or even fulfilling. Instead of being lazy I'd use that drive I had to pursue my dream I always wanted, and could've done had I not wasted time. Not falling into the slippery slope called depression and taking a backseat from getting involved with people and focusing on myself would've been nice too.
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post #2 of 25 (permalink) Old 11-15-2019, 12:23 PM
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I'd have to retain my full memory, otherwise it wouldn't be worth going through being a kid again
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Would I still have anxiety and doubt myself? If I did then there wouldn't be much point would there?
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I’d like to think that if I could start over I would make a better go of things, however, the thought of having to do it all over makes me tired just thinking about. So I’m going to say no and hope there’s either some cool afterlife or a chance of reincarnation as someone normal lol! 🙂
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The whole thing wouldn't be necessary, if I could redo from teenage years on, I think I could steer myself right & be able to appreciate things more & try to help my dad more during the last few years of his life, doesn't really matter anyway it's a season ticket on a one way ride.



I love one of the top comments on this:

"The fact that there's a highway to hell & a stairway to heaven says alot about anticipated traffic numbers".






And all our yesterdays have lighted fools the way to dusty death
Out, out, brief candle! Life's but a walking shadow,
A poor player that strut's and fret's his hour upon the stage and is heard no more,
It is a tale told by an idiot, full of sound and fury, signifying nothing.
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post #6 of 25 (permalink) Old 11-15-2019, 01:39 PM
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Nah. I like the idea of getting a chance to do certain things differently, but I wouldn't want to endure my childhood and teenage years again.
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post #7 of 25 (permalink) Old 11-15-2019, 03:41 PM
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No. I have no idea where this life will take me. I (hopefully) have many more years to live. A few bad years doesn't dictate the outcome of the next 70.
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The only fantasies I have involving going back in time end with birth control or abortion. I was not meant to be. Period.

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Yes, definitely. I also fantasise about this. Except there is some memory so I know what goals I want to pursue and how I want to be, and also start at age 13 or so rather than day one. I screwed my life up so much that I desperately want, and need, to start over again.
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No I'd turn out just as screwed up due to **** personality and looks.

"It's a gift to exist, and with existence comes suffering. There's no escaping that."
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I'd be too afraid of making things worse, or ending up with a knowledge of the future but helpless to change it.

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post #12 of 25 (permalink) Old 11-15-2019, 05:25 PM
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No, definitely not. If my past had been different, I would most likely not be where I am today, and I would certainly not be who I am today, and I'm happy with both. I worked for years towards this point, there's no way I'd risk to lose all that.
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Would I still have anxiety and doubt myself? If I did then there wouldn't be much point would there?
Perhaps you could guide a younger you away from the events that triggered the onset of your anxiety?

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post #14 of 25 (permalink) Old 11-15-2019, 06:40 PM
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If it means coming back as a trans person, no. There's no point coming back as a trans person.

For forty-seven years I've put up with it now. I must stop Christmas from coming ... but how?
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post #15 of 25 (permalink) Old 11-15-2019, 06:43 PM
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Wish I could, really, but only with retained memories. The younger me really could have used someone like an older me for guidance.

I would also hesitate to go back any earlier than 17. I was my parents' and grandmother's emotional punching bag as a kid and I don't think having extra knowledge would have changed anything, being a minor. Don't think growing up fcked up was avoidable for me.

Definitely would have moved out at 18 instead of almost 22.
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post #16 of 25 (permalink) Old 11-15-2019, 07:12 PM
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I voted no but I agree with Steppenwolf, It's never too late to start all over (again)



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"It's Never Too Late"

Your eyes are moist, you scream and shout
As though you were a man possessed
From deep inside comes rushing forth
All the anguish you suppressed
Up on your wall hangs your degree
Your parents craved so much for you
And though you're trained to make your mark
You still don't quite know what to do

It's never too late to start all over again
To love the people you caused the pain
And help them learn your name
Oh, no, not too late
It's never too late to start all over again

Well, it's much to late to start again
To try and find a little bliss
So on your woman and your child
You release your bitterness
You drift apart some more each day
You feel the guilt and loneliness
And the God of your childhood you can't find
To save you from your emptiness

It's never too late to start all over again
To love the people you caused the pain
And help them learn your name
Oh, no, not too late
It's never too late to start all over again

You say you've only got one life to live
And when your dead your gone
Your family comes to your grave
And with tears in their eyes
They tell you, you did something wrong
"You left us alone"

Tell me who's to say after all is done
And you're finally gone, you won't be back again
You can find a way to change today
You don't have to wait 'til then

Repeat Chorus


And I always thought this would be
the land of milk and honey
Oh but I came to find out that it's
all hate and money
And there's a canopy of greed holding me down.
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post #17 of 25 (permalink) Old 11-15-2019, 07:43 PM
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I probably wouldn't want to start over right from the beginning, instead I'd go back to when I was 15 and redo from those years till now.
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post #18 of 25 (permalink) Old 11-15-2019, 07:49 PM
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No, because overall I've had a decent life so far, despite my anxiety. Also, how would 'hints' work - by choosing to go with a 'hint' one time, would put you on a completely different time line and render any future 'hints' from your past life invalid. Not only that but what may have appeared to be a better choice at the time may lead to a person having a worse outcome long term (e.g. butterfly effect).

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post #19 of 25 (permalink) Old 11-15-2019, 09:37 PM
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Nope.
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post #20 of 25 (permalink) Old 11-16-2019, 01:45 AM
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Perhaps you could guide a younger you away from the events that triggered the onset of your anxiety?
No offence, but I don't really look at it like that. Not for me anyway. I think my problems were probably genetic and just the luck of the draw. I've had no really terrible things happen to me - no bullying, no teasing, I had every opportunity given to me and I had plenty of friends/girlfriends etc.

I think in the scheme of things I'd have to be pretty stupid to complain about my life because it's been pretty good overall. I have my problems but they're no big deal - my life could have been so much worse it's just ridiculous.
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