Why do people invite others to things if they don't want them to go? - Social Anxiety Forum
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post #1 of 2 (permalink) Old 09-15-2020, 10:53 AM Thread Starter
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Why do people invite others to things if they don't want them to go?

My roommate invited me to hang out with her and her friends because they were going to watch the sequel to a movie (after they had watched the first in our room and invited me to watch with them) a few days ago, however last night they watched it in a different dorms lounge and though she told me she was going to text me when they were going to, she never did. I understand we don't have to be close as roommates, but my question is why even bother inviting me if she didn't want me to go? Was it just an obligatory polite invitation that she didn't expect me to accept? I genuinely don't understand.
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post #2 of 2 (permalink) Old 09-15-2020, 11:45 AM
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Maybe it came together quickly and they didn't want to wait to coordinate with another person. Maybe her friends decided to watch on the spur of the moment after they'd gathered there and she felt awkward about delaying them to wait for you. Maybe one of her friends didn't want you there since you're not part of their friend group.

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