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post #1 of 52 (permalink) Old 06-12-2019, 12:58 AM Thread Starter
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What was your favourite age?


If I think about it I think I really felt good in my 40's. Twenties were okay but I had no idea what the hell was going on. Much the same in my 30's - I got married when I was 30 and we had my son when I was 35. Jesus that scares the hell out of you. I still had no idea what the hell was happening - lucky my wife always had a lot more sense than I have.

I think 40's is a great age - you feel a lot more settled. I think I did anyway. Fifties was okay - especially when you're still in the early ones. Then as you make your way through them you realise you're almost 60 - and you're back to realising you have no idea what's going on again.

So which age did you like the best?
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This age, more wiser.
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This age, more wiser.
If you're around the age I think you are mate I think you're approaching peak age.
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If you're around the age I think you are mate I think you're approaching peak age.
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This age. Every year gets better since I was 27. First 26 years sucked.

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Probably 18-20. No anxiety, out of high school, was training a lot, going out and having lots of fun.
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Probably 18-20. No anxiety, out of high school, was training a lot, going out and having lots of fun.
I wouldn't say I liked that age tbh - even through my 20's. Even though I had girlfriends and stuff and a lot of good times I think I was just very immature - and probably very insecure. Always worrying about something.
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I don't think I matured properly until in my 40's some time - I was just a kid before that.
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I wouldn't say I liked that age tbh - even through my 20's. Even though I had girlfriends and stuff and a lot of good times I think I was just very immature - and probably very insecure. Always worrying about something.
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I don't think I matured properly until in my 40's some time - I was just a kid before that.
I don't think I matured until about a year or two ago. In a lot of ways I still feel a lot like I'm in my early 20's.
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I'm surprised at the answers. Mine is probably between 7 and 12 or so. Not a worry in the world. The few memories I have of this period are all heavenly. At that age the world is still full of magic and adventure.
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I had a brief window in my early 40s where I felt good about myself and had high expectations and hopes for my future, including my career and social life... I guess it was ages 40-42. It just didn't work out.

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Childhood before I turned 8. Back before the move that made me bitter and jaded, before I ever had to make "new" friends. Specifically 6-7 when a girl and I played at "boyfriend and girlfriend" at school. Probably rose-colored glasses but I'm okay with that.

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I'll go with pretty much everything before 30. That was when everything really started to nosedive way more than before. Things were still kinda OK for a few years (inertia) but once the real health problems of getting older and so forth started to kick in, things started sucking much harder than before.

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I guess my 18, early 20's because right after high school despite not knowing what to do with myself in life I spent a most of my time on an online forum. It was so fun there. I made friends, talked with people, got into some toxic situations that I would had never gotten into in the real world. It felt like I was living a double life online through my mind. In a way I somewhat lost in touch with reality for a good 5 years. I'm somewhat still stuck in it. Add 3 more years to my 5. A total of 8 years.

Recently at the age of 26 I feel like I am getting back in touch with reality and with the real me. When you have no direction in life, or if your life is slow and at a standstill you will spend your time online. In reality it appear as if I wasn't experiencing but in vitural reality I was experiencing a LOT of social situations. It felt like a vitural training hologram deck.

If I think about it deeply I prefer this age of 26 and beyond because I feel wiser than what I was in my 18 and in early 20's life.
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Probably before school started, but I don't remember that time. It's hard to pick an entire year tbh, more like specific events or maybe days or weeks. I guess I'll go with 7. After that probably 18/19.

Edit: actually 6/7 the thing is I remember things more in terms of academic years, and my birthday is about half way through that.

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Probably around 8-9? At least looking back. It's hard to remember but I played soccer then and I was awesome at it (because I wasn't the smallest and weakest on the team yet) and I had some fun times with teammates. I got to have a short haircut which I liked a lot better than my shoulder length hair. I still went to summer camp which was fun, although it was maybe better around 7-8. (By 9-11 things change. Kids start telling you that you can't have friends of the opposite sex without liking them romantically and stuff and I never coped well with that.) I was the near perfect daughter, student, etc. I was quiet but people were willing to let that slide, back then.


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I'd have to go with 34. Just because I was in a relationship that year, which got me to explore the world and myself more than I manage on my own. It really had nothing to do with the age, just circumstantial luck. In general things get better with age though.

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I'm surprised at the answers. Mine is probably between 7 and 12 or so. Not a worry in the world. The few memories I have of this period are all heavenly. At that age the world is still full of magic and adventure.
Not if you're a skeptical, cynical, social phobic hermit 7-12 year old like I was. I have way more fun and adventure now than I ever did as a kid.

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35 has been awesome so far. My childhood wasn't great because of bullying and my parents' divorce, and teens and 20's were mostly bad because of mental health issues and drug problems related to mental health issues. Now that I have some stability and make enough money to really enjoy my hobbies and travel a bit life is pretty good most of the time. I wish I'd figured this stuff out when I was younger, but better late than never.
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