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What's the nicest thing you've done for someone.


Just to cut away at the negativity for a second. Let me tell you mine:

Senior year of high school, prom season is starting to approach. Girls are getting asked left and right, and I've already made the decision that I didn't want to go. However, once the whole proposal phase was over, I noticed that this one particular girl still didn't have a date. I knew her for a long time and she was such a sweet person, but she was completely overlooked by every guy in the school. I remembered that she didn't have a date the previous year, either. I thought, "Going to prom is the highlight of most girls' high school careers. I feel bad that she has to go without a date again." After thinking about it for a few days, I decided to take her myself, even though I knew that I would absolutely hate the event. I asked her, and she said "Yes". I've never seen a girl's eyes light up the way hers did after I asked her. I knew she legitimately wanted to go with me and was grateful that I asked. Leading up to the prom, I noticed that she seemed much happier overall, like she came out of her shell. The event came... and it was just as bad as I thought it would be. Horrible music, obnoxious peers, and the popularity contest that was the prom king and queen. I had a horrible time, but she had an awesome time, and that's all I wanted. In hindsight, I think I did the right thing, even though the outcome wasn't the best. That was probably the most "selfless" thing I've ever done that I wasn't obligated to do.

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Wow,good subject and very nice thing you did even though it was hard for you to do.It gets better after HS...I think.okay lots of ups and downs
My SAD was so bad in HS I never went to prom.But like you it was not really something I would like to do anyhow.
I did go to a dance in the 8th grade and even had A girlfriend for a few weeks at the same time.

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I gave a stranger a jump start when his truck would not start at the shopping center.and it worked.
I'm sure I can think of something better latter....I hope

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That's a lovely thing to do! I don't think I have done anything particularly nice for anyone, actually.

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I would probably say I spent over 1000 for my brother's 40th birthday when I treated him two nights (three days) in London in August. A posh four star hotel about a fifteen minute walk to the north of Hyde Park, then various food and drink when we were out and about.

I blogged about it at the time if you want more details (both here on SAS and on my wordpress blogsite). We both had a good time and I have no regrets in doing it. Infact, given the funds, I would love to do it again someday. I felt this was a positive step forwards for me in tackling my social anxiety.

As a side note, when I turned 30 last year, do you know how much was spent on me? 15. Nothing was done for me.

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Took out 5 grand from the bank to save someones life. I had the money, she didn't have a ton of time...seemed like a no brainer.
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I gave a stranger $500 worth of camera equipment because I didn't use it and they were going to school for it. I gave my old roommate an ipad when I moved out.

And these are the reasons why I am poor, I give a lot even if I get nothing in return.

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****, I don't remember. I must be a piece of ****.

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Yeah I've got nothing. I'm a selfish ******* after all.

OP's story makes me think of the girl who asked me to prom. She was an extreme drama queen and just wanted attention; she didn't actually like me. I had known her for a year or two before then and had caught her in outright lies more than once, some of which really hurt me. I dunno, maybe it would have been "nice" to accept but I didn't, because I didn't want to get involved in her drama again. And I never regretted it.

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****, I don't remember. I must be a piece of ****.
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****, I don't remember. I must be a piece of ****.
Hey, what about when you gave me those odor-destroying insoles. That was pretty nice!

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I don't want to tell the story cause I just don't.....but it was more excruciating for me than 10 job interviews one after another. I had to put myself way out there.

But then this person pissed me off a few years later and I thought, "oh my god, why did I ever do that for you?"

And then my next thought was - I'm never going that far out of my way for a person ever again. Lol
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Hey, what about when you gave me those odor-destroying insoles. That was pretty nice!
Well, I'll be darned. Ain't that somethin'?

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Cant think of anything really. Havent interacted with people that much lol.
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Hey, what about when you gave me those odor-destroying insoles. That was pretty nice!
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Hey, what about when you gave me those odor-destroying insoles. That was pretty nice!
Were they gellin'?

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Were they gellin'?

They're not Dr. Scholls or anything. He's nice, not rich!

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hahaha that's incredible!
Sounds exactly like me, too.

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In high school one of my friends came to high school crying. I asked him what happened and he said his mom blamed him for her cancer in his birthday. I tried to be supportive and make him feel better, so since he was kind of a hardcore gamer, I promised to "boost" his account in an online game. When I got his account it was in Gold 2 league, but since he had only champions I didn't know how to play I got demoted to Bronze 3 in only 2 days. He thought I did it on purpose and said he was going to commit suicide and I was a scumbag. That is the nicest thing I have done to someone.
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I initially thought I didn't do anything major enough for others that worth mentioning, but then I remembered this.

In my last year of college, I had a roommate who was in a romantic relationship with a classmate. Back then I was just trying to be normal after virtually not speaking for 4 years, so I was by no mean close to this couple.

The girl was going back to her home town for a job. The boy wanted to go with her, but had some difficulty and needed money. I loaned them a few thousand RMB, which is probably a few hundred dollars.

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