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post #1 of 59 (permalink) Old 12-30-2020, 01:41 PM Thread Starter
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What's a common thing that you can't relate to?


I would say the party lifestyle and going on holiday and drinking alcohol.
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I struggle with some social stuff. I just don't get Christmas. At. All.

I can't for the life of me understand why it would be so important it was worth risking the spread of the covids to "give people some fun in a terrible year" when Christmas is a ****ing nightmare of obligation, hanging around people you don't even like, and being relentlessly peer pressured into falling off your diet by people who don't respect boundaries. But a lot of people hate it, so I wonder if its a case of the emperor's new clothes.

New years ****ing sucks too, and don't even get me started on new years resolutions and the people who repeatedly start going to the gym for 2 weeks in January. ****.

The main thing I struggle with though, is mainstream T.V. Tv shows with loud audiences and ****ty celebrities and just lots of noise and flashing stuff.

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Traveling and seeing various places with people. All the times I've done it in the past, I don't really think I've enjoyed them. Being with people and the social stress usually distracts me from really enjoying the travels. Solitude traveling, I actually enjoy more, as bad as it is an idea for someone like me in terms of safety.

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I relate to the superficial stuff that most people here can't like finding some popular music TV and films likeable, I like(d) drinking, clubbing can be fun, I like music concerts, holidays/travel if I'm not feeling depressed etc (it's not something I have the opportunity to do though.)

I don't relate to the stir crazy due to covid thing because I've had no social life for about a decade anyway (it disrupted a few plans but I don't care that much I guess,) being married or having kids. Being in love. Feeling understood. Feeling content most of the time (if anyone does these days.)

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1. Facebook and Twitter (and pretty much all of the similar types of sites)

2. The desire to work (I know that working is necessary for survival for most people but the implication that it is normal for a human to enjoy being a slave is not relatable to me)

3. The desire to have kids. If I thought I had exceptional genetics and had enough money to make sure they'd never have to struggle financially, I might feel differently but I can't relate to being someone who lives paycheck to paycheck and/or has to borrow money to buy anything and wanting to have kids. I would otherwise have to believe that nothing could possibly go wrong and my kids would not have problems that would make them miserable in life.

4. Watching sports (I used to like wrestling and boxing. Boxing might be considered a sport I guess but wrestling was scripted so it was more like maybe a circus or something). I don't like football, basketball, baseball, soccer, hockey or anything like that. Never did and never will.

5. Having the intellectual capacity to learn anything a person might want to learn. That seems like it is normal for most people but it doesn't work like that for me.

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I have trouble relating to being a normal, functioning human being - because I'm definitely not one myself.
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I have trouble relating to being a normal, functioning human being - because I'm definitely not one myself.
This too.

Although I guess it depends on how you define "normal". What's considered to be normal for a human being now was definitely not what was normal 100 or 1000 years ago. So the definition of "normal" pretty much changes every day (and also where you are and so forth). And there are billions of us. So if normal changes every day, it stands to reason that eventually the latest definition of normal is going to not apply to a significant number of people.

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This too.

Although I guess it depends on how you define "normal". What's considered to be normal for a human being now was definitely not what was normal 100 or 1000 years ago. So the definition of "normal" pretty much changes every day (and also where you are and so forth). And there are billions of us. So if normal changes every day, it stands to reason that eventually the latest definition of normal is going to not apply to a significant number of people.
Yeah, I know what you mean. I'd just like to be able to work, hold down a job at my own sort of level - or at any level tbh, not wonder how I'm going to feel every day etc.

Would also be nice to not get manic or how I felt yesterday - whatever the hell that was. Also not have to take medication - I hate it.
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I should also say I'm fine with travelling, but I only truly like it when I do it by myself. Otherwise the people I'm with annoy the crap out of me. I've only really done travelling by myself once, which was a few years ago when I went to the UK by myself, which I wanted to do because since I moved away many years ago I had only been back for a few hours at a time, usually while waiting for a connecting flight. It was great because I was able to see everything I wanted to see without any annoying people slowing me down with their snail-pace walking and saying "let me get 50 pictures of you standing in front of that building" or "let's go to this stupid shop and look at clothes for 3 hours". I'm very efficient when seeing sights - I just speed-walk from place to place, take my pictures, look at the things and drink them in, then move on to the next thing.

Also when I go places, I only really like sightseeing (which includes taking walks and public transportation rides) and eating, not any human nonsense like going to strange night clubs or strip clubs, socialising with the locals, learning about the local culture through conversations with the locals and hearing their life stories, lying on the beach, etc. In other words, I hate the Anthony Bourdain type of travelling. I never liked that guy's show because he was all about having boring conversations with people, not enough walking around and seeing things. (I guess that's another common thing that I don't relate to - everyone seemed to love Anthony Bourdain while I found him boring.)

I like "sightseeing" in my own city too, and I go walking and biking all over the city to the ravines and other places, and I obviously go by myself. It feels like travelling even though I'm not even leaving the city. If I had to do it with someone else, it would be annoying, and they would object to me going through rough terrain and messy woods and all that. And that time I got trapped in a cemetery.... that would have been a nightmare if I had someone with me.
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Every goddamn thing mother****er. Every goddamn thing.

I am the son and the heir of a shyness that is criminally vulgar. I am the son and heir of nothing in particular.

You shut your mouth. How can you say I go about things the wrong way? I am human and I need to be loved, just like everybody else does.
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Fashion, or in general not dressing for comfort or utility. It all seems so vain and objectively pointless.
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Being religious and wanting children. Can't wrap my mind around either of them. Believing in something with no evidence whatsoever and letting this belief shape your life or wanting something that's going to drain all your money, time, and energy for decades just makes no sense at all to me.
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Most social things and stuff that's popular to do or watch.

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