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What's a common thing that you can't relate to?

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#1 ·
I would say the party lifestyle and going on holiday and drinking alcohol.
 
#2 ·
Having the ability to get sex, wanting to get together with people despite covid, wanting to get together with people even in normal life, liking games that are primarily about fighting or shooting, anime, comic books (and especially comic book movies), most modern music, going to the beach just to lie there and get sunburnt, people wanting to hang out with their friends even though they're married or have a girlfriend / boyfriend and have therefore achieved the ultimate goal in life, ....
 
#3 ·
I struggle with some social stuff. I just don't get Christmas. At. All.

I can't for the life of me understand why it would be so important it was worth risking the spread of the covids to "give people some fun in a terrible year" when Christmas is a ****ing nightmare of obligation, hanging around people you don't even like, and being relentlessly peer pressured into falling off your diet by people who don't respect boundaries. But a lot of people hate it, so I wonder if its a case of the emperor's new clothes.

New years ****ing sucks too, and don't even get me started on new years resolutions and the people who repeatedly start going to the gym for 2 weeks in January. ****.

The main thing I struggle with though, is mainstream T.V. Tv shows with loud audiences and ****ty celebrities and just lots of noise and flashing stuff.
 
#4 ·
Traveling and seeing various places with people. All the times I've done it in the past, I don't really think I've enjoyed them. Being with people and the social stress usually distracts me from really enjoying the travels. Solitude traveling, I actually enjoy more, as bad as it is an idea for someone like me in terms of safety.
 
#6 ·
I relate to the superficial stuff that most people here can't like finding some popular music TV and films likeable, I like(d) drinking, clubbing can be fun, I like music concerts, holidays/travel if I'm not feeling depressed etc (it's not something I have the opportunity to do though.)

I don't relate to the stir crazy due to covid thing because I've had no social life for about a decade anyway (it disrupted a few plans but I don't care that much I guess,) being married or having kids. Being in love. Feeling understood. Feeling content most of the time (if anyone does these days.)
 
#7 ·
1. Facebook and Twitter (and pretty much all of the similar types of sites)

2. The desire to work (I know that working is necessary for survival for most people but the implication that it is normal for a human to enjoy being a slave is not relatable to me)

3. The desire to have kids. If I thought I had exceptional genetics and had enough money to make sure they'd never have to struggle financially, I might feel differently but I can't relate to being someone who lives paycheck to paycheck and/or has to borrow money to buy anything and wanting to have kids. I would otherwise have to believe that nothing could possibly go wrong and my kids would not have problems that would make them miserable in life.

4. Watching sports (I used to like wrestling and boxing. Boxing might be considered a sport I guess but wrestling was scripted so it was more like maybe a circus or something). I don't like football, basketball, baseball, soccer, hockey or anything like that. Never did and never will.

5. Having the intellectual capacity to learn anything a person might want to learn. That seems like it is normal for most people but it doesn't work like that for me.
 
#9 ·
This too.

Although I guess it depends on how you define "normal". What's considered to be normal for a human being now was definitely not what was normal 100 or 1000 years ago. So the definition of "normal" pretty much changes every day (and also where you are and so forth). And there are billions of us. So if normal changes every day, it stands to reason that eventually the latest definition of normal is going to not apply to a significant number of people.
 
#11 ·
I should also say I'm fine with travelling, but I only truly like it when I do it by myself. Otherwise the people I'm with annoy the crap out of me. I've only really done travelling by myself once, which was a few years ago when I went to the UK by myself, which I wanted to do because since I moved away many years ago I had only been back for a few hours at a time, usually while waiting for a connecting flight. It was great because I was able to see everything I wanted to see without any annoying people slowing me down with their snail-pace walking and saying "let me get 50 pictures of you standing in front of that building" or "let's go to this stupid shop and look at clothes for 3 hours". I'm very efficient when seeing sights - I just speed-walk from place to place, take my pictures, look at the things and drink them in, then move on to the next thing.

Also when I go places, I only really like sightseeing (which includes taking walks and public transportation rides) and eating, not any human nonsense like going to strange night clubs or strip clubs, socialising with the locals, learning about the local culture through conversations with the locals and hearing their life stories, lying on the beach, etc. In other words, I hate the Anthony Bourdain type of travelling. I never liked that guy's show because he was all about having boring conversations with people, not enough walking around and seeing things. (I guess that's another common thing that I don't relate to - everyone seemed to love Anthony Bourdain while I found him boring.)

I like "sightseeing" in my own city too, and I go walking and biking all over the city to the ravines and other places, and I obviously go by myself. It feels like travelling even though I'm not even leaving the city. If I had to do it with someone else, it would be annoying, and they would object to me going through rough terrain and messy woods and all that. And that time I got trapped in a cemetery.... that would have been a nightmare if I had someone with me.
 
#12 ·
Every goddamn thing mother****er. Every goddamn thing.
 
#14 ·
Being in a relationship, traveling, having close friends
 
#15 ·
2020 being a uniquely terrible year in terms of mental health and social isolation.
 
#16 ·
Being religious and wanting children. Can't wrap my mind around either of them. Believing in something with no evidence whatsoever and letting this belief shape your life or wanting something that's going to drain all your money, time, and energy for decades just makes no sense at all to me.
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#21 ·
Drugs and wanting kids. I have no desire at all for either. lol 😒😒 I'd rather eat my own puke than do drugs or have kids.

I don't play videogames. I used to play them when I was 11 but quit when I was like 17 then got back into it for a very short time when I was 21 and got bored of it.

Don't like watching sports but wouldn't mind playing basketball again. I loved basketball when I was a kid.

The need to want to take care of something in general. Not a fan of it.

For the most part I don't like cleaning unless I have time for it like on my off day. Nad it's boring. Everything just gets dusty or dirty in no time and it's redundant unless it's something that has to be done like washing dishes or laundry or if the house is a legit mess and it just has no choice but to be cleaned. But I don't have to clean often unless it's to organize my room and to wash my dishes or sweep my bedroom floor. Organizing is sorta fun to me though. Well, I wouldnt call it fun but it's aight. 😒
 
#22 ·
I don’t care about any holidays but to many people they are important.

I don’t play any video games at all & to many people that’s bizarre in our generation.

I don’t use or care about Twitter or most other social media

Covid isolation restrictions haven’t affected me in any way at all in terms of my mental health or the way I live

Being a parent is beyond me...so too being in any kind of long term dating relationship
 
#28 ·
I have a hard time relating to people who feel they know the truth, about anything really. I even have come to hate the word "truth" because of the way it is so often used by people now. It should just be called unwavering faith. People throw around the word truth, and true, as though it has some sort of power - but those words usually tell me that the person using them are just really faithful in what they are saying, not that what they have said is factual.


I don't have that sense of certainty in me, in any one topic, because of that I really have a hard time relating to people who do. When I do talk to others, I try to stress that as well - it is opinion that I usually speak, not truth, and it is not often held with very much conviction and prone to change. What is more, it is not very important for me to convince others of whatever views I may hold to be the correct ones. It is just really not that important to me, I would rather be away from people than to try to change them to accommodate me :lol
 
#30 ·
Not completely hating everything about your appearance/body.

Being able to wear clothes that you like.

Enjoying the company of someone in your own family.

Wanting bad things to happen to people you don't like.

Not reading books! :eek:
 
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