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What did you get out of SAS?


What did you get out of SAS? I am asking because SAS is a more than just a community where people join just to post. It is a support community with information available. Some of us come here because we are either lonely, lost, frustrated and depressed. There feelings are understandable but are people actually using the tools and the resources to help themselves? It feel like SAS has become a social media where people talk random stuff but on a forum setup. Are people actually working on their social anxiety or mental illness?
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For myself the only thing that has helped is me trying to do voice and video recording. I never put myself out there before. It helped a little. It made me feel a little more open to keep trying to be vocal since I struggle with confidence, being shy and being sure of myself.
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It is sort of a connection point I suppose. The more connection points you have, the more likely you're forced out of your comfort zones which is probably about the only true way to improve and deal with your anxiety. I doubt I get anything groundbreaking to help break established patterns of behavior from being here, and more times than not, I'm probably avoiding doing something else.
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Well I feel better when I write things out and put my thoughts into words. It's nice to share them with people and know you're not alone in the way you feel. I also value any advice people can offer me, especially if they've gone through a similar situation. I like giving advice too whenever I can if it'll help.

It's also a nice distraction. Even with the silly stuff. It helps me not be so in my head all the time.
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Friendships and memories, both good and bad, wonderful and painful. Basically the kinds of things most people get irl.
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There's some people here I like.
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I'm not sure about any tools or resources to help myself but I can relate to some of the things I read on this site. I guess in a way that helps me cope with my own issues.
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What did you get out of SAS? I am asking because SAS is a more than just a community where people join just to post. It is a support community with information available. Some of us come here because we are either lonely, lost, frustrated and depressed. There feelings are understandable but are people actually using the tools and the resources to help themselves? It feel like SAS has become a social media where people talk random stuff but on a forum setup. Are people actually working on their social anxiety or mental illness?
SAS has been pretty inactive the past few years but whenever it is a little more active, this question comes up a lot and my answer is always the same. SAS is a forum. Forums are informal. If you need serious help, a forum isn't going to give you what you're looking for. That's why people pay for therapy.

Also, "support" (IMO) is whatever you need. Mostly people here just want someone to listen or somewhere to post their thoughts without being judged too harshly. It doesn't mean you're going to come here to get cured. And if you have a specific question, someone will probably answer it.

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I've made a couple friends here and sometimes I make threads to hear other peoples opinions that are struggling in the same way. A lot of my posts are random thoughts and at times I try to be supportive to people here.

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I can express myself from time to time and also read some interesting thoughts from other people.

no I'm not working on my neurodiversity (aka "mental illness"). my thoughts on that have changed a lot. I'm living with it and learning to deal with the worlds discrimination and bad treatment and realising how glorious life is regardless of other people's bs.

I haven't made real friendships here but I like some people a lot - from a safe distance - and that works for me.

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Nobody judges me so harshly for living a semi hermitish life, having little friends, no relationships etc, can vent my thoughts, I also like some people here & alternative lifestyle thoughts (cause the norm isn't really working from an environmental viewpoint foremost).. different stories.

It's a fairly diverse place with people scattered across the globe, so you can try to get an overall feel of humanity & the state of the world vicariously.






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Mental support, I guess? I can ask stupid questions here and never got a negative answer. Everyone was encouraging and some of those answers I read here gave me more support than any person in real life.
I would like to connect more with other users and such, but I don't usually post that much.

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I've met valuable people here. Pretty much all my current online contacts are from SAS.
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Relationships - both platonic and romantic. This is one of the few places where I felt like I "fit in", especially when my anxiety was at its worst. I felt comfortable venting without being judged too much.
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Never learned this unknown skill of SAS

my profession is only SQL

so all career over as I was Born in 1970s
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post #16 of 34 (permalink) Old 02-20-2020, 12:09 AM
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I've never really used it for the resources on here, I don't think I really see it as a place to help with my mental health. Although I like talking to a few people on here - and I used to like talking to a few that are now gone.

I need to be careful what I read on here because it can trigger some very unpleasant feelings for me - but if I'm careful it's okay.

I also see it more as a social media site - sort of like a very small Twitter or something. It's sort of somewhere just to put down your thoughts a bit.
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I got some great demonstration seminars about data management and analytics. A must for anyone running or looking on starting a big business. Especially in tech.

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I've used SAS to talk to people. I've met some people I like here, and there's a sense of a (dysfunctional) community, which feels nice on some days. In some ways, there's little judgement - if someone wants to start a thread to discuss their microwave, that's cool, and people will join in. That can be relaxing after the braggathon of social media.

I've largely dealt with my issues and now things are very manageable, so I don't really use SAS as a resource for anxiety. I don't know if it would be helpful. When I used SAS a lot, my anxiety was actually worse (although this doesn't imply a causal relationship).

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Know your ACE (adverse childhood experiences) score?
Sometimes, SA is a symptom of significant developmental, attachment or interpersonal trauma (emotional neglect counts). If you're still stuck after you've tried SA treatments such as CBT and exposure, research C-PTSD and see if it resonates. Here's an awesome resource. Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving
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