I love it when people who clearly never experienced certain types of hardship or been in situations where they'd feel like it's either life or death tell others as to how they should be going about them as if it's a walk in the park.
With hardship, people talk about what they have done in their life regarding similar situations. More a suggestion that the person either takes because it might help or leaves as doesn't work in that situation. A lot of people forget to say suggestion.
With life and death situations, it is easy to see afterwards what one could have done. But when under stress in that life or death situation, a person is not really thinking properly.
When I go over situations like that in my life, I could have handled them better. But could have turned out worse if I tried another route.
Sometimes have to live with the decisions we make.
There's a difference between wanting to help and just flat-out patronizing. Seems like the majority think by doing the latter that it accomplishes anything (for their ego's sake.)
I have had tons of advice that I never thought would help, thought was patronizing, but ended up helping. Sometimes people don't like to listen for whatever reason and have to learn the hard way with life issues.
Like my mate did something, said that is crap, won't work properly. I suggested something and worked flawlessly. Because I understood how it was designed to work. But I'm not perfect and get things wrong sometimes like that or other.
General rule of thumb (social etiquette) is to keep out of others lives and only suggest some things that might or might not work if asked.
Like this post is one example of that and I apologize if it offends you in any way by me stepping over that line.