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Should a person have/follow dreams, dream jobs?


Is it healthy/worth it to try and pursue your dreams? Or is it better to simply accept/be gratified in whatever you're doing here/now?

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I think you need to find a balance. In my opinion, if you pursue a dream you need to have the stability in your life to not be affected negatively by the outcome.
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I think you need to find a balance. In my opinion, if you pursue a dream you need to have the stability in your life to not be affected negatively by the outcome.
That makes sense I think. There can definitely be crippling mental or even financial fallout to a dream falling through. Think I came from the generation that got told to follow their dreams, but wasn't prepared for the reality that it's not that simple.

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i think its important to do what you want, however lofty or simple one's dreams are.
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I think you need to find a balance. In my opinion, if you pursue a dream you need to have the stability in your life to not be affected negatively by the outcome.

Agree.
Also heard something that resonated. Don't "find" your passion. Develop it. Because sometimes it will be hard. If it gets tough or boring don't just assume you didn't pick the right thing.
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I'm living proof that following your dreams can lead to complete disaster. But at least I can say I tried. And I did learn something valuable from the experience: that I really am not good at anything, lol.

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I think a person needs goals. But you also need to accept the things you cannot change as well.
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I think following your dreams is the only authentic way to live. But it is different from making plans for your future and expecting them to turn out the way you want. The future is always unwritten and to struggle against it is to suffer. It seems to me that if you want to be happy, you have to accept that your life could change at any moment and that ultimately you can't control the future. For the same reason it's dangerous to get too wrapped up in your dreams.

Like @aqwsderf said - balance.

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Accept reality and practicality, while venture into your aspirations and dreams in your free time if you can afford to, in hopes it actually flourishes into something bigger, to the point of it being your primary reality and practicality.

The truth is strictly what the ones in power perceives it to be.

Enjoy any good things, even the little and menial ones, as you will never know what impending distresses could descend upon you in a moment.
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Accept reality and practicality, while venture into your aspirations and dreams in your free time if you can afford to, in hopes it actually flourishes into something bigger, to the point of it being your primary reality and practicality.
Pretty much this. So yes, if it's practical to do so.

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I would say dream big. Hope and dreams are what keep many people going.
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Accept/be gratified in whatever you're doing here/now, yes. At the same time pursue your dreams! Don’t settle for a “job”. Have a career, a business, or better yet find something you really enjoy that you can earn a living pursuing. Don’t focus on the money, it’s the adventure.

No, it’s not easy, but “hold on tight to your dream”. ELO, for those old enough….
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People accept with what they are given. Factors that include with what your dreams are can determine as to whether or not you will succeed on those dreams. It's a two-sided coin as to how people utilize with what they are given.
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