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If you drink or did was there one specific moment that made you moderate or quit drinking?


Was there one specific moment that made you moderate or quit drinking or doing drugs? Did you get arrested, lose a job, get divorced? I am interested in hearing about that moment. Your stories could be a warning for others to moderate or quite drinking or doing drugs?

I was never into drugs myself. Tried weed once or twice but didnt seem to do much for me. But have had some issues caused by drinking to excess. Made me realize I need to cut back and watch my behavior when I drink
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I had a lot of those moments, nothing absolutely spectacular where I ended up in jail, and no ruined relationships or friendships, just moments where the room starts spinning around, and getting super sick, also doing embarrassing things. I think it was just after a period of time, I started to find drinking with friends to the point of foolishness was no longer fun, and as I grew older the hangovers got worst so I naturally slowed down and moderated my drinking to a point that I enjoyed without feeling regret the next day in the form of feeling sick.


I never became an alcoholic, which is surprising to me. Moderating my drinking was not difficult, it was just a matter of not wanting to feel sick, and not enjoying losing myself to a stupor. Now when I drink, I get to a certain point and know that if I continue I will just feel sick the next day, so I stop. I haven't felt really drunk, in years now, I'm also a really slow drinker now, six drinks can take me five hours to consume, as I usually just sip away as I am doing something else such as playing a game or watching a movie.

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Earlier this year, I drank so much that I puked all over my bed and on the floor, and was so dizzy I couldn't even take a shower without wanting to puke some more. I had to wash my bedding 4x to get the vomit and smell out, and some of it wasn't salvageable. That made me enforce a limit on how much I consumed. It felt terrible and was disgusting.

Something similar actually happened when I was 16, and I didn't drink for many years afterward.
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When I was younger a few bad situations, using it excessively trying to socialise, 10 plus years ago now, puked in a bar, puked in a Co workers car, puked all over my room, was arrested, trying to commit suicide etc, non that made me stop.

I can drink a good amount now with little ill effects, haven't been physically ill in years, though mentally it can be a negative experience in the comedown, I now know how to pace myself & what to drink that agrees with me, though I gave up on the socialisation aspect, that was flogging a dead horse anyway, unless you count online.

I've been drunk alot of times while on this.






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Earlier this year, I drank so much that I puked all over my bed and on the floor, and was so dizzy I couldn't even take a shower without wanting to puke some more.
The dizzies are the worst, thank god I don't get that crap anymore






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I go off and on with alcohol. There are periods where I will drink everyday, periods where I drink nothing for several months, and periods where I only drink on weekends. Probably "only the weekends" is the most common. I've never been one to totally get bombed every day because I get very bad hangovers if I get completely bombed. And when I have a hangover I don't want to even see alcohol. I'll put the bottle away so I don't have to look at it.

When the coronavirus plague started up, I started drinking every day. Wasn't getting completely bombed was having at least 2 drinks a night. What is happening with the world kind of upset me. Then I started having really bad episodes of "sleepy attacks" in the late afternoon. Think the alcohol was interfering with my already messed up/low quality sleep. So now I'm in a no drinking at all period. I'm still exhausted but having less of these "sleepy attacks".
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.I've seen up close what alcoholism can do, so I don't want to be there, not even close. That's what ultimately stops me from excess, if not just the goal of maintaining a healthy body. Before, it was always a hard no. Maybe I'll have to reinforce it again cuz I'm relatively young.
It affects my skin and gives me a gastrointestinal surprise if I go overboard with it so that's no fun.
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I never was much for alcohol. I dabbled a little bit in the 2001 - 2005 years but it was more like a couple cans of Guinness 2-3 nights a week than anything hardcore. I have only been fall over drunk a few times and it was extremely unpleasant. Usually when I drank beer I didn't drink enough to get drunk. And I don't like the taste of strong alcohol so I decided the only reason I would even buy something like vodka would be if I wanted to get hammered (and I didn't want that so I hardly ever did).

My sister and I sneaked and got into a neighbor lady's beer once when I was a kid and it made my toots super skunky. Which kinda put me off beer.

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Now and again I'll finish off a bottle of whiskey or bourbon over the course of a week or so, but that's not very common. Other than that, I'm kind of a teetotaler.

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My sister and I sneaked and got into a neighbor lady's beer once when I was a kid and it made my toots super skunky. Which kinda put me off beer.
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I had a really bad problem with opiates and benzos. Opiates were definitely a bad addiction, the benzos weren't so much an addiction as they just made me black out and do things I would never normally do like steal and fight. For me what made me finally quit was getting arrested in 2011 and spending 10 1/2 months in county jail and then straight to prison for another 10 1/2 months. That was my reality check and hitting rock bottom I guess you could say.

It was the longest I'd ever been sober sitting in a cell thinking about how I'd wasted my life and all that I'd done wrong over the years. I just knew I'd had enough. I was a few months from being 30 years old when I got out in 2013 with absolutely nothing to show for my life. Dropped out of school at 17, no job skills and hadn't had a job since I was 21, convicted felon, no money, no friends, severe anxiety, etc. Was tired of having nothing and decided at that point I was going to turn my life around.

I can have a drink or two occasionally. It's been about two years since I have, but I've never been a big fan of alcohol either. I just can't do hard drugs or benzos. There's no moderation for me with those. It turns into crazy binges that don't end well.
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No specific watershed moment. It was just my millionth hangover, vomiting into a trash can for the billionth time, when it finally, FINALLY clicked that this is how it ends every time. I tried to moderate a hundred times in a hundred ways, but it never worked. If I got a drop in me, I was going balls to the wall. Alcohol took me to a hell I wouldn't wish on anyone, but nothing changed until I accepted that I can't drink at all. Period. I just can't.

I was sick of being sick.
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I stopped for a couple of months to save money and during that time felt a noticeable difference in my over all mental health so never went back to regular drinking.
I still like to get really drunk now and again but keep it down to once or twice a month instead of every weekend.
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I used to drink liquor straight from the bottle. No mixing for me I wanted to be buzzed or drunk fast. And I could never have just one or two shots. I could finish 2/3 of a bottle in one binge session.

I rarely drink now. I think my body got sick of being dehydrated. I can't tolerate much alcohol anymore. Once in awhile I try because I miss that warm happy feeling, but it lasts for maybe 10 minutes and I already feel like I have a hangover. It's weird. I guess the universe is trying to save me from alcoholism or something idk.
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When I was a kid my parents made me promise them I'd never smoke, drink or do any drugs. It was one of the few parts of their religion that I actually agreed with; all that stuff just sounds like a waste of money to me, and also drastically increases the chances that you'll do something you'll regret later -- not worth it. Smoking anything seems especially dumb, with the high likelihood that it will cause lung cancer.

Once when I was like 18 I got this cough syrup with codeine in it for a bad cold, and quickly started realizing how good it made me feel after I took it -- I think I actually managed a slight "high" from it. After my cold had gone away I remember finishing the bottle just because I liked that feeling -- and realizing then firsthand just how dumb drug use is.

Plus my dad told me about his younger years, before he met my mom, when he'd drink and smoke daily. Even after seeing his father die from cancer when he was like 15. Fast-forward to today and sure enough, he has bladder cancer -- probably influenced, if not directly caused, by the heavy smoking he did in his teens, plus the vaping that he kept a secret from my mom and I for the past five years.

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Most just from being self conscious when I and others were sharing about how much we drink, to realize how much more consistent drinking I was doing compare to just about all of them. Although my consistent drinking is usually just moderate drinking. While most others were binge social drinkers. They don't touch alcohol, and in weekends on social occasions they get **** faced. Despite this, I still figured to cut back. Waking up smelling like alcohol was also another big trigger for me to cut back. Although the cutting back didn't last long, with stress and crippling worries always hitting me in persistent waves.

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When I was younger I did some stupid stuff with my friends but that was social pressure I guess. I never understood why people would want to get drunk on a regular basis, I hate feeling dizzy and like my guts are coming out from puking. I don't do that anymore, I can moderate my drinking.
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I only liked drinking alcohol socially at house parties or bars/clubs/pubs, never saw the point if I was alone.

I did get really sick after the one time I got properly drunk, was badly sick for about a week. There were also two occasions where I hadn't drunk much but experienced excruciating lower back pain that only went away after throwing up. I went to the doctor's about that but they didn't find anything abnormal. I was also drinking drinks I'd had before and different drinks both times so who knows.

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I had many moments but it really ended one day when i was with a ****ty roommate and all we ever did was drink and smoke weed and we barely paid rent or ate. All our money went into getting high on something we could get at the time. Then one day i got angry at my life and the way i was and i quit everything cold for years.

Weed was the easiest to quit and alcohol was a bit hard. After, I drank once in a while in between by myself. I'd go buy a bottle of port wine and brandy and get drunk on that. But now i rarely accept a drink when offered and ill never buy it myself anymore. I think it's a victory when you think about buying something and you say "nah i don't need that"

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I had a really bad problem with opiates and benzos. Opiates were definitely a bad addiction, the benzos weren't so much an addiction as they just made me black out and do things I would never normally do like steal and fight. For me what made me finally quit was getting arrested in 2011 and spending 10 1/2 months in county jail and then straight to prison for another 10 1/2 months. That was my reality check and hitting rock bottom I guess you could say.

It was the longest I'd ever been sober sitting in a cell thinking about how I'd wasted my life and all that I'd done wrong over the years. I just knew I'd had enough. I was a few months from being 30 years old when I got out in 2013 with absolutely nothing to show for my life. Dropped out of school at 17, no job skills and hadn't had a job since I was 21, convicted felon, no money, no friends, severe anxiety, etc. Was tired of having nothing and decided at that point I was going to turn my life around.

I can have a drink or two occasionally. It's been about two years since I have, but I've never been a big fan of alcohol either. I just can't do hard drugs or benzos. There's no moderation for me with those. It turns into crazy binges that don't end well.
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I go off and on with alcohol. There are periods where I will drink everyday, periods where I drink nothing for several months, and periods where I only drink on weekends. Probably "only the weekends" is the most common. I've never been one to totally get bombed every day because I get very bad hangovers if I get completely bombed. And when I have a hangover I don't want to even see alcohol. I'll put the bottle away so I don't have to look at it.
I was never a everyday drinker as well. Liked to get hammered on Friday and Saturday nights when i was in my 20's and early 30's and was hitting the bars on the weekend. Still do that on occassion but a lot less now. So im a lot better at moderation
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