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Yeah, I know what you are saying about people being nervous or busy, but still. To me, if someone has the time to talk to other people online, but never comes to you at all, to me that is a huge red flag that they only care about you on their terms and possibly have a manipulative personality. I hope I can find someone who actually cares enough to consistently be supportive. That was a problem too, sadly, along with some red flags in stories about her past, including violence by her own hand.

Thanks for wishing me well Shelby. I hope you find someone too. Almost-relationships are the hardest to forget.
I absolutely agree. That is a definite red flag. :/ In time, I hope you do. Good luck. Violence is a huge no no. I'm so sorry. There's no excuse for anyone being violent.

I know everyone's different when it comes to being busy but imo I find it fairly easy to send replies...at least short replies even on busy days. It might be tedious to send long replies or something but with short replies, I seem to have time to do. Haha. But then again, I'm not constantly busy.
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Thanks. I'm trying... just not hard enough. lol

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It is so hard to trust health professionals...or psychotropic drugs for that matter. The first act like emotional prostitutes: they feign empathy and care, but it is all a monetary transaction at the end of the day. The latter, based on my experience, offer little help.

I sure hope that things improve for you.
Well, I mean. I don't expect a personal relationship. I know that it's just a job for her, as much as she may or may not actually care about the welfare of her patients. What really sort of crushed me was that, after a long slew of condescending pricks who didn't believe me about my physical ailments, she really seemed to... She was kind, listened to me, and actually ordered tests. She seemed invested in helping me. But we weren't making much headway.

At one point, out of random curiosity and boredom, I happened to click through some appointment notes one day... and found written, right in my record where all future doctors could see, that she was apparently "fairly certain" I was "just a hypochondriac."

I was gutted.

Haven't gone back since.



Incidentally, this is also why I almost wish I'd never admitted my anxiety officially in the first place.



Anyway, thanks for the well wishes, though. They're appreciated.
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Thanks. I'm trying... just not hard enough. lol



Well, I mean. I don't expect a personal relationship. I know that it's just a job for her, as much as she may or may not actually care about the welfare of her patients. What really sort of crushed me was that, after a long slew of condescending pricks who didn't believe me about my physical ailments, she really seemed to... She was kind, listened to me, and actually ordered tests. She seemed invested in helping me. But we weren't making much headway.

At one point, out of random curiosity and boredom, I happened to click through some appointment notes one day... and found written, right in my record where all future doctors could see, that she was apparently "fairly certain" I was "just a hypochondriac."

I was gutted.

Haven't gone back since.
Oh man. Doctors who act concerned to your face and then dismiss you completely behind your back are worse than incompetant doctors who at least try (IMO). There should be no secret records but I have even heard of doctors making up code speak for things they put in people's records to say the patient is a pain in the butt so future doctors will refuse to treat them. It's criminal, IMO. If they're going to refuse to treat you they should tell you why to your face and not be cowards and leave you to wondering what went wrong.

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Dealing with a toxic person, gives me anger, which makes me grumpy, and naturally I start unleashing my temper on others. These others will feel horrible, which will then anger them, and they will feel grumpy, so they start unleashing their temper on others. This keeps spreading and spreading. It all starts with that one toxic person. Unfortunately if that toxic person is a constant presence and they will not change, they are just going to be a fixed negative social catalyst that gradually will make more and more people miserable.

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Oh man. Doctors who act concerned to your face and then dismiss you completely behind your back are worse than incompetant doctors who at least try (IMO). There should be no secret records but I have even heard of doctors making up code speak for things they put in people's records to say the patient is a pain in the butt so future doctors will refuse to treat them. It's criminal, IMO. If they're going to refuse to treat you they should tell you why to your face and not be cowards and leave you to wondering what went wrong.

This conversation reminded me of a headline I read a while back in which Doctors openly insult and berate a patient who is under anesthesia . All because the patient was persistent about suffering from physical ailments but the Doctors could not find an explanation so they branded him crazy...

See for yourself:




As a side note. My baby sister always complained about headaches but the Doctors always dismissed her symptoms as the ramblings of a child that is imitating her crazy mother... then she died of a brain hemorrhage caused by an aneurysm according to the autopsy.




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Oh man. Doctors who act concerned to your face and then dismiss you completely behind your back are worse than incompetant doctors who at least try (IMO). There should be no secret records but I have even heard of doctors making up code speak for things they put in people's records to say the patient is a pain in the butt so future doctors will refuse to treat them. It's criminal, IMO. If they're going to refuse to treat you they should tell you why to your face and not be cowards and leave you to wondering what went wrong.
No disagreement there.
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No disagreement there.
It's like they want people to trust their doctors more than anyone else but then they go behind your back and do all sorts of sketchy **** like this at the same time they're telling you that they're helping you. How can you trust someone who just summarily dismisses everything you have to say and on top of that, tells other doctors to do the same thing without even telling you?

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It's like they want people to trust their doctors more than anyone else but then they go behind your back and do all sorts of sketchy **** like this at the same time they're telling you that they're helping you. How can you trust someone who just summarily dismisses everything you have to say and on top of that, tells other doctors to do the same thing without even telling you?
Yup. It's beyond twisted.

And I just don't have the energy to deal with it anymore. Sigh.
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Thanks. Nice to see you too. Your avatar is adorable.
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