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Ever want a gf/bf just to keep you on track?


Like the title says... I have no real interest emotionally of being in a relationship, but lately I've really considered being in one just to have someone get mad at me when I'm being dumb lol I find I'm always so much more focused and on track in life when I'm not single.

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i think what you are describing is a parent.

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At one point, I definitely felt exactly like this. I remember thinking that the only way I was ever going to accomplish anything was if I was motivated by someone i genuinely cared about. (*examines current life... umm, maybe I was onto something).

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i think what you are describing is a parent.
Hmmm, well I only speak for myself, but my parents can't really motivate me to do ****.

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i think what you are describing is a parent.
Maybe you like to (have sexual relations) your mother, but no I'm describing a solid relationship.

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At one point, I definitely felt exactly like this. I remember thinking that the only way I was ever going to accomplish anything was if I was motivated by someone i genuinely cared about. (*examines current life... umm, maybe I was onto something).



Hmmm, well I only speak for myself, but my parents can't really motivate me to do ****.
Lol I'm 100x's more on track than my parents they were definitely not big motivational factors in life.


But yes, when I'm in a relationship I do things to make my gf happy which usually in turn have the side effect of keeping me out of trouble and on track.
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i know how you feel, a good g/f would really help me keep on track pity its not happening
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I wouldn't necessarily want a girlfriend to keep me on track. I would want one just to have someone to talk to besides my family members.
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Not at all!

If I can't motivate myself to get **** done on my own then I wouldn't deserve somebody who has it together enough to do that on their own either. Unless you want a co-dependant ****storm of a relationship. That is a very parent child scenario.
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it certainly helps. Everything else seems miniscule when you have somebody to care about and who cares about you. It makes me feel like I'm building towards something instead of just trying to get through the day.
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Not at all!

If I can't motivate myself to get **** done on my own then I wouldn't deserve somebody who has it together enough to do that on their own either. Unless you want a co-dependant ****storm of a relationship. That is a very parent child scenario.

that seems like a loy of pressure to put on yourself. Sure you deserve somebody. There are lots of people with problems and issues that have someone. Why shoudn't people with SA?
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I can kind of relate.

Most of the time I can't even be bothered to try and meet my potential, or to be the best that I can be, really. But disappointing someone that I care about? That kinda bothers me.

I really don't think codependent relationships are as bad as they're made out to be, either. (I draw the line at giving into self-destruction) I mean, doesn't every relationship has some level of codependency going on?



I dunno.. I guess I've always been a believer in the whole yin/yang theory.
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for me, I think just having a really close, solid friend base would do it.
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So where's all the pretty ladies that don't want love and just a bf, 1000/moCAD cheap cheap
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I don't know, man. I gotsta learn to keep myself on track - having a babe on my arm ain't gonna make no diff'rence.

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Your supposed to take care of your woman, not the other way around compadre.
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that seems like a loy of pressure to put on yourself. Sure you deserve somebody. There are lots of people with problems and issues that have someone. Why shoudn't people with SA?
I think everybody is responsible for themselves and is capable. It's just how I am.. I am independent i guess idk what to say lol
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Your supposed to take care of your woman, not the other way around compadre.
Welcome to 2011 bro.
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Welcome to 2011 bro.
I've been living in it as long as you have bro.
If your not strong without her, then your just dependant.


I take care of my girlfriends, not the other way around.
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I've been living in it as long as you have bro.
If your not strong without her, then your just dependant.


I take care of my girlfriends, not the other way around.
Who says I'm not strong? We're not talking needing a gf because you're weak or inept. Talking about just wanting a gf to have around to keep you out of trouble and what not, but not really wanting the loving aspect.

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