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Do you google what to say?


I realized sometimes when texting my friends or a lady am interested in ,I find myself googling how to respond. It makes me feel like I don't have a personality. Is this common with SA .


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Hi, welcome to the forums (that section of the forums).

Depends, if finding information to help someone with some mental health or similar issues I would search. Just point towards where they can find info.

Otherwise I have learnt it from experience or other people I know experiences.

I wouldn't worry, as some people use dictionaries, etc back in the days to help with english.

A search engine is no different to that these days.

Everyone does things in different ways.

Nothing wrong with that way you are doing it.

You are learning to one day not need it, so all good.
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My bad, I started a thread in the welcome forum,I didn't even realise. General discussion forum would have been more appropriate I guess. "You are learning to one day not need it" I never looked at it like that. That is a great way to look at it.


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What am currently on:
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The link is audios,videos and by that Irish guy Barry McDonagh(one of my favorite Social Anxiety authors ). Sharing is caring.
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No worries mate, we all make mistakes. All good.

A mod might move it later when they see it.

We are constantly learning throughout life.
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Strangely enough I've never had that problem. I can see how it'd be helpful though - nothing wrong with it at all OP.
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Yeah, if I want to try to respond with a witty comeback.
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I do that, and I feel the same way about it as you. Sometimes it's just because I don't know how to express what I'd like to say (English isn't my native language), but more often it's because I'm afraid that what I write will sound weird or inappropriate. I used to do it almost all the time, but as my anxiety improved and I got more comfortable and used to texting, it automatically got less and less frequent.

So, I don't know if this is common - doesn't seem to be judging from the responses here so far - but at least you're not the only one.
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I google the right prepositions to use
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I don't think it's odd. People ask for advice about what to say all the time. You're just asking Google.

I think the difference is that SA people tend to have much less exposure to social interaction, and tend to be so anxious when they are part of it, that they don't pick up the common responses that other people are making. So you have to artificially boost your exposure by looking up responses directly.

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Not really. Whatever you find on the internet WRT how to respond to a given thing, it is usually kinda ****ty advice and/or isn't really a one size fits all type of response.

I'm more into figuring out WHY people say the things they do. I find it isn't usually that I don't know what I should say. It's usually more a matter of I'm not really sure what they're trying to say or what they're trying to accomplish by saying it. I need to understand what they are trying to do with their communication and then I can make a personal response with my own words.

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I do this if it's a business or formal response I might need to give.

If it's a more personal nature with a friend or woman. Maybe depends on if they presented me with something I've not experienced.

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Yes, every once in a while. I have so many thoughts but struggle with writing and verbally expressing them to others in a coherent, organized manner. I also don't have much a personality myself to be honest.

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It depends what you're googling. Some actually don't have a personality, or much of one, and don't understand some human emotions, so have to learn to mimic them.

If you're googling stuff like this, which is what Chris Watts googled even though he'd been married for 8 years with two kids, then you and others you come into contact with are maybe in trouble.

“What do you feel when someone tells you they love you” and “How does it feel when someone says I love you.”

If you have to google that, then you don't have a normal human range of emotions. People who do, don't need to google stuff like that.

Chris Watts is a Narcissistic Sociopath, possibly somewhere on the autistic spectrum too.

I am weary of people who say they feel like they have no personality tbh, but it all depends on what you're googling.
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Nope... But this is not bad idea though... I should save it for later...

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