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Do you blow horn often?


I drive, but I don't blow my horn often. Usually if I use it, is if birds/animals are in road. I rarely honk at other cars unless the light has been green for several seconds and they're not paying attention or they are otherwise blocking the road or about to crash into me.

I blew the horn last week because I was at a four way intersection and I did not have a stop sign and the other driver did. Just as I was getting into the intersection, they proceeded to make a right turn right in front of me. Fortunately no traffic was coming, so I swerved into the left lane and blew the horn. I couldn't imagine how they didn't see me coming. If I hadn't been able to move over they would have hit me.

At things like right on red intersections or left on green intersections, I don't ever honk. I guess if it was abundantly clear there was no traffic approaching, or they had a green protected arrow and they still wouldn't go, I might, but even then I might be cautious because there could be a pedestrian or something I can't see, that they can. I really don't like when people honk at me at places like this because I don't need them to tell me when it's safe to go from their perspective. One time I was at a left on green with a line of traffic in the oncoming turn lane and I couldn't see anything. This semi behind me laid on the horn and I wanted to say "Maybe you can see, but I'm not going to turn and get smashed just because you blow your horn."

Often at those left on greens I just won't go if I can't see. Sure, I could try creeping into the intersection until I could see if anyone's coming, but my fear is somebody will be going way too fast and I won't see them until the last second. It's just not worth it.

Plus some lights have signs prohibiting right on red, but they put the sign so far back that you can't see it when you're at the light. So in that case I'm even more skeptical of turning or blowing the horn.

I've even been known to take side streets to avoid an upcoming right on red intersection or one with just a stop sign if it's particularly busy, or also if there's already an aggressive driver behind me, speeding, riding bumper or otherwise seems they will cause issues if I feel uncomfortable turning on red.

At night I am especially cautious, because I find it really hard to tell what lane the cars are in, all I can see are a lot of pairs of headlights. The lanes they are in I can't really discern, so I find it best to wait until there aren't any approaching cars for quite a ways.

One thing that annoys me though, is when I'm going down a road and people at side roads, will drive right through the stop signs without even attempting to slow down, just so they can pull out right in front of me, much less stop. Totally stupid. I really shouldn't do it, but I've been known to speed up in those situations just so they feel like they really messed up. I've got to stop doing that though.

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Just to attract ho's over to my car.(jk)...

No I very rarely use it aggressively, maybe beep at somebody I know occasionally.






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Not to toot my own horn, but I have a tenor saxophone I don't play nearly as much as I would like, and that's what my mind went to reading the thread title. It's physically demanding compared to a guitar or digital keyboard and can be a hassle to clean unfortunately.
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Have never used the horn, even when I saw a car crashing into mine. It's a social anxiety thing, like not shouting.

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I use the horn when somebody isn't paying attention and doesn't notice the light has changed. They get a tidy little beep. Somebody doing something egregious that could cause an accident gets a blast that can only be interpreted as "WTF do you think you're doing? Pay attention!"
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Only when it's really needed.

Like few weeks ago when one lady was walking across parking lot (she was on her phone obviously without paying any attention around her) right on front me while I was driving and looking for better space to leave my car

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Wait, people actually use horn? I thought it was a movie cliche. I've never used horn in traffic and never been in a situation, where it has been even remotely necessary to honk. So what if the car doesn't move on the exact millisecond the light changes? Personally I've only heard anyone honking in traffic about once in my life. I have honked, but only for testing it, after doing rewiring, etc.

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Only when people aren't paying attention and almost slam into me. When I had a grey car people almost always didn't see me and would try to go into my lane where I was and nearly hit me.

One car almost hit a pedestrian in the crosswalk and I honked at them and they stopped and got mad at me but it spared someone they almost flew through and hit.

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Wait, people actually use horn? I thought it was a movie cliche. I've never used horn in traffic and never been in a situation, where it has been even remotely necessary to honk. So what if the car doesn't move on the exact millisecond the light changes? Personally I've only heard anyone honking in traffic about once in my life. I have honked, but only for testing it, after doing rewiring, etc.
I won't honk right when light turns green, but if it does and they're still sitting there after 15-20 seconds or so and they're texting or not even looking up, I'll give it a light tap and wait until they move. Nothing more. Now if someone is going to swerve over and hit me or they clearly aren't paying attention and going to cause a crash, I'll blow it a little longer.

I've rarely had to use it though, mostly just when birds are in the road and don't move.

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I never have. Lol

If there comes a day when someone is about to hit me I might do it then even if I get nervous and hesitant to. And I might look like that in my avatar doing it.
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Hardly ever. It just feels wrong to blow the horn at someone out of irritation (especially) because I hate confrontation and it would be a really stupid way to get yourself hurt if the person did some kind of road rage nonsense just because someone honked at them.

The only time I can remember doing it was when someone in front of me at a drive thru started backing up and didn't look like they were gonna stop. Very large truck. And even then he gave me a dirty look (even though I'm pretty sure he didn't see me and would have hit me if I hadn't honked). It's another one of those "you never know what's going on in someone else's mind" sort of things.

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Yeah I've honked my horn a few times. Is a quick way to say 'pay attention before you kill someone'.
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Not a lot, but probably more often than I should out of irritation. In the mornings, on my way to work, I have to make a left turn out of my neighborhood across a major street. Everyone else is headed to the right so traffic gets backed up into the intersection. There have been times when I've been blocked from making the left because the person going straight ignored the backup and continued into the intersection on the yellow light (the term I've heard is "blocked the box" - not sure how common it is). In that situation, I've honked out of irritation. There's nothing more frustrating than sitting there waiting and waiting for a green light only to be blocked.

I hate right on reds and left turn yield on greens, too. I always feel pressured to go, even if the person behind me doesn't honk.

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I hate right on reds and left turn yield on greens, too. I always feel pressured to go, even if the person behind me doesn't honk.
I have a left turn yield on green I have to use a lot and it's really annoying because if you're in a car and the person sitting at the opposing light waiting for the turn is in a truck, you can't see past them and can't know if anything is coming. Really scary. They should fix that.

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You had me a bit worried with that title on the other page.

I used to a lot more than nowadays. I was more in a hurry back then and would blast them to get the hell out of the way. It depends how I'm feeling - plus I don't drive much nowadays, which is probably a good idea. (no car - although I use my wife's sometimes)
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Not a lot, but probably more often than I should out of irritation. In the mornings, on my way to work, I have to make a left turn out of my neighborhood across a major street. Everyone else is headed to the right so traffic gets backed up into the intersection. There have been times when I've been blocked from making the left because the person going straight ignored the backup and continued into the intersection on the yellow light (the term I've heard is "blocked the box" - not sure how common it is). In that situation, I've honked out of irritation. There's nothing more frustrating than sitting there waiting and waiting for a green light only to be blocked.

I hate right on reds and left turn yield on greens, too. I always feel pressured to go, even if the person behind me doesn't honk.
On my way to work there's a somewhat busy intersection that makes me nervous about pulling out sometimes. I have trouble with depth perception and telling how fast cars are coming sometimes, so I admit sometimes I don't go when I could. I've gotten better about it though. One time this guy that was in a hurry blew his horn and crept around me but I didn't realize he was coming around me until I was about to pull out, and I almost ran into him and I laid on the horn. I was really mad, and then I blew the horn again when he turned off down the road. I shouldn't have done it obviously and I felt bad afterwards.

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I have a left turn yield on green I have to use a lot and it's really annoying because if you're in a car and the person sitting at the opposing light waiting for the turn is in a truck, you can't see past them and can't know if anything is coming. Really scary. They should fix that.
There's an intersection here I go through about once a week that's like that where I have to make a U turn to go to a restaurant. What usually happens is there's a whole line of cars at the opposing light so I can never see anything and some people will creep into the intersection to try to see around them, but I refuse to do that. I usually just wait for the light to turn red and then get the green protected arrow before I go. Nobody's ever gotten pushy there that I remember but it does make me nervous.

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I don't honk the horn very often. Some examples of when I do are if I see an animal at the side of the road and I hope the honk will scare it away, I'll also honk the horn if someone isn't paying attention, I almost got hit head on one time because the guy was texting on his phone and swerved over into my lane. I've done it too if I see someone out walking that I know and try to catch there attention with a honk and wave.
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I don't honk the horn very often. Some examples of when I do are if I see an animal at the side of the road and I hope the honk will scare it away, I'll also honk the horn if someone isn't paying attention, I almost got hit head on one time because the guy was texting on his phone and swerved over into my lane. I've done it too if I see someone out walking that I know and try to catch there attention with a honk and wave.
Jesus I hate that. People need to stop all this crap with their phones - at least while they're in the car. My wife hangs up if she calls my son and he's in the car - even if he says he has it on hands-free.

When I was younger in Sydney people used their horns a lot more - or they seemed to. I remember this old lady in a Mercedes blasted me and gave me the finger one time. They were fairly expressive with their emotions up there though.
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