MyViewsMatter
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Deep self-reflection question to ask yourself
Ask yourself this question:
WILL YOU LIKE YOU IF YOU MET YOU?
WILL YOU LIKE YOU IF YOU MET YOU?
Remember, your views and what you have to say matter to others AND to yourself
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No.
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If Other Me was as gung-ho to chat about and engage in our special interests as I am, yes.
But since bad experiences trying to do this with other people have damaged me so severely that I'd no longer be able to do so even if the other party insisted they were genuinely interested (so far, nobody has been), I wouldn't believe Other Me means it, I'd be certain Other Me would bail out the minute she realizes how damaged I am (she would probably insult me a few times, too), and I would refuse to engage. Plus, if Other Me is as damaged as I am, she wouldn't even bother trying to engage with me in the first place because she has all the same damage and knows that trying to socialize with others is too painful and pointless.
So...no. -_-
But since bad experiences trying to do this with other people have damaged me so severely that I'd no longer be able to do so even if the other party insisted they were genuinely interested (so far, nobody has been), I wouldn't believe Other Me means it, I'd be certain Other Me would bail out the minute she realizes how damaged I am (she would probably insult me a few times, too), and I would refuse to engage. Plus, if Other Me is as damaged as I am, she wouldn't even bother trying to engage with me in the first place because she has all the same damage and knows that trying to socialize with others is too painful and pointless.
So...no. -_-
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yeah. might feel a little redundant though lol. how could we not like each other? I like me.
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Sure. Doesn't say much, keeps to herself, leaves me alone. Lol
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*would
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No lol.
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We'd prolly be happy to use eachother to work on our flaws.
And train bjj together. That would actually be very interesting
And train bjj together. That would actually be very interesting
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This question is too deep for me. 🤔
If it weren't for my anxiety issues (and other mental health issues I'm sure) then yes. I mean I'd probably have a lot in common with myself. haha
The reality is that I do have severe anxiety issues so I'd most likely scare myself away without giving myself a chance to get to know myself. 🤔
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If it weren't for my anxiety issues (and other mental health issues I'm sure) then yes. I mean I'd probably have a lot in common with myself. haha
The reality is that I do have severe anxiety issues so I'd most likely scare myself away without giving myself a chance to get to know myself. 🤔
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This only made me ask myself an even more puzzling question. Where would I even meet me at? Depending on the scenario would be my answer to the first one though.
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I stay patient
I stay patient
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Well of course I would. WE HAVE SO MUCH IN COMMON!!
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Yes, we'd have a romantic evening 
And all our yesterdays have lighted fools the way to dusty death
Out, out, brief candle! Life's but a walking shadow,
A poor player that strut's and fret's his hour upon the stage and is heard no more,
It is a tale told by an idiot, full of sound and fury, signifying nothing. - Macbeth
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They do say that you have to learn to love yourself. 
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Originally Posted by Fever Dream
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They do say that you have to learn to love yourself.
And all our yesterdays have lighted fools the way to dusty death
Out, out, brief candle! Life's but a walking shadow,
A poor player that strut's and fret's his hour upon the stage and is heard no more,
It is a tale told by an idiot, full of sound and fury, signifying nothing. - Macbeth
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Probably.
Unfortunately I can't envision how much I would annoy myself with my SA behavior.
Unfortunately I can't envision how much I would annoy myself with my SA behavior.
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Its true though, all the fears & weaknesses we beat ourselves up for constantly are more or less the same as the majority of humanity, most are stronger, hide it better etc.. so if we can't love ourselves we'd never truly be able to love anyone else.
However, if the man has succeeded in loving himself, then he will already have high value and be fulfilled. There no more dependency. He can finally give love to the woman without being needy because he's already fulfilled. He can finally truly experience his woman for who she is instead of coming from a mindset of "taking" to be fulfilled.
Remember, your views and what you have to say matter to others AND to yourself
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However, if the man has succeeded in loving himself, then he will already have high value and be fulfilled. There no more dependency.
And all our yesterdays have lighted fools the way to dusty death
Out, out, brief candle! Life's but a walking shadow,
A poor player that strut's and fret's his hour upon the stage and is heard no more,
It is a tale told by an idiot, full of sound and fury, signifying nothing. - Macbeth
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Absolutely not.
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yes
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Seemingly and ok person, but sad and pathetic life, don't know anyone or met anyone to that extreme of this. I feel very bad and sorry for this person. But this person seems to be content with it and living like this amazingly, probably as a way to suppress their pain. I have no idea how this person is trudging along like this for so long. I am a bit worry because no human can keep going on like this for that much longer. Eventually one day they might just snap and you know...
That said, I don't really feel rewarded or feel like I can get anything from building or retaining a friendship with this person. In fact, I find it to be more distressing. So maybe I will just be nice and just remain strictly casual acquaintances with this person, no more. But I do hope this person does find people who will be willing or feel rewarded to give more. Just not me, because I lack the energy and traits to do this for this person, because I am kind of been chronically suffering through the exact same thing as this person.
That said, I don't really feel rewarded or feel like I can get anything from building or retaining a friendship with this person. In fact, I find it to be more distressing. So maybe I will just be nice and just remain strictly casual acquaintances with this person, no more. But I do hope this person does find people who will be willing or feel rewarded to give more. Just not me, because I lack the energy and traits to do this for this person, because I am kind of been chronically suffering through the exact same thing as this person.
The truth is strictly what the ones in power perceives it to be.
Enjoy any good things, even the little and menial ones, as you will never know what impending distresses could descend upon you in a moment.
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