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post #1 of 21 (permalink) Old 11-09-2019, 07:06 AM Thread Starter
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Too cool for Facebook


I really wanna delete Facebook.


I joined it because I'm a member of a running club and all of the activities are posted on there.


However, now that I am on Facebook I see it for what it really is - a breeding ground for losers. All the club members are older than me and they post the most inane ****.



What's more, it's yet another form of social media which makes me feel ignored and left out.


Man I wanna quit this **** so bad but I don't know if people will take it the wrong way.
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post #2 of 21 (permalink) Old 11-13-2019, 07:05 PM
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If it's worth two wooden buttons I'm presently taking a break from facebook and should I not sign in within the next 30 days my account will be deleted (or as they say "They'll start the process of deletion in 30 days" whatever that means!)
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Just delete it and [maybe] give anyone who you care about a heads up about your decision via inbox?

I had maybe one or two people direct message me about their decision to permanently delete their FB—including this one old friend of mine who was living in a warzone.

Eventually, I jumped ship myself and permanently deleted FB back in 2016 as well. No personal messages, no status, nothing. Those FB groups are just a toxic hub for melodramatic cliques and stupidity.
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post #4 of 21 (permalink) Old 11-17-2019, 03:10 PM
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I just use it to keep in contact with my brother. I really want to get rid of it as I don't like Zuckerberg.
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post #5 of 21 (permalink) Old 11-25-2019, 03:00 PM
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I have never had a facebook account. Online communication is my biggest fear socially(forums like this one bug me too but i'm trying to challenge myself) My wife has one and it is kinda necessary for certain bike related events/meetups that I try to do to keep pushing myself. I know I could just lurk or whatever but I don't even want to do that. Thankfully though I have her to let me know what's going on. Having my name out there would bring friend requests and that scares me. Don't know why it bothers me so much. Same reason i'm not on Strava. I know a lot of runners use Strava too. Are you or your club on Strava?
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Facebook is whatever you make of it. If you add stupid "friends" and join groups of stupid people, you get stupid content. If you only add people you like and only join groups you like, you only get content you like.

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I use it mostly to read the transphobic **** my brother shares with everybody in my family.

Is it just me or is it getting crazier out there.
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The biggest problem with Facebook as a concept is that it operates like a people market.
You aren't a person anymore you are a commodity trying to prove your worth and that is why it makes so many people feel bad.
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I feel you, OP. I didn't have a Facebook and now feel I've been forced to join it because of the activities I'm involved in. It's Facebook or you don't participate in the conversation/dont' find out about the events/don't have social exchanges. And it sucks, hard. I've added no people as friends, didn't fill in a profile, didn't add a picture, created an account under a fake name, and yet it's still annoying as hell.

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Seems like most of the "cool" people now are mostly just using instagram and snapchat. Facebook seems to be only popular among baby boomers and/or Gen X-ers.

The truth is strictly what the ones in power perceives it to be.

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full of rubbish


only discovered when meeting friends via Skype real

if they didn't guide me to use it, i'd never know

always a boring moment with needing close

but all friends' news updates. many quit. nieces i not allowed see their progress.. ouch!

crashes, needing different browser
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The biggest problem with Facebook as a concept is that it operates like a people market.
You aren't a person anymore you are a commodity trying to prove your worth and that is why it makes so many people feel bad.
You're using it wrong. Facebook isn't for trying to attract friends. It's for keeping in touch with people you already know and trust, maintaining distant friendships, and keeping some level of awareness about the lives of semi-friends you wouldn't bother to exchange emails with. Keeping a toe in the door of somebody's life makes it possible for you to become better friends later if circumstances develop in that direction, of course. And if you've just met somebody who you're thinking about befriending then it can be a great way to learn about them quicker than in person conversations would allow. But if you're trying to fake a life in order to collect a higher friend count number, that's an utterly absurd way to waste your and their time.

Personally I've been on facebook regularly for 10 years, and it's a good experience because I like the 24 people I have there and the several groups.

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You're using it wrong. Facebook isn't for trying to attract friends. It's for keeping in touch with people you already know and trust, maintaining distant friendships, and keeping some level of awareness about the lives of semi-friends you wouldn't bother to exchange emails with. Keeping a toe in the door of somebody's life makes it possible for you to become better friends later if circumstances develop in that direction, of course. And if you've just met somebody who you're thinking about befriending then it can be a great way to learn about them quicker than in person conversations would allow. But if you're trying to fake a life in order to collect a higher friend count number, that's an utterly absurd way to waste your and their time.

Personally I've been on facebook regularly for 10 years, and it's a good experience because I like the 24 people I have there and the several groups.
Meh, I shouldn't need to rely on some crappy mega-corp's people farm to keep my "toe in the door" of other people's lives.
If people care about you enough they will make an effort to contact you without Facebook. Otherwise they are just being lazy.
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post #15 of 21 (permalink) Old 12-03-2019, 05:59 AM
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Dont go ... Facebook needs and loves you!! Whenever I'm feeling ignored and expendable I like to remind myself that I am important because Facebook needs me in order to generate millions of dollars per day off us in the belief that we need an app in order to socialise. I'm not sure how humanity ever survived before the internet was invented!
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post #16 of 21 (permalink) Old 12-03-2019, 06:40 AM
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Facebook bothered me a lot more when I was younger but I don't care these days. I only add people I actually know and join groups that I want to be part of, I also took the time to go through the settings to see what I could make private and if anyone was spamming useless stuff I would just change the settings so I don't see it on my news feed.
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post #17 of 21 (permalink) Old 12-08-2019, 09:39 AM
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I have deleted it several times,now i only use it for groups and promotion,i don't have any friends added,it's just for me.
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post #18 of 21 (permalink) Old 12-08-2019, 09:48 AM
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Yep.. we all need to get off Facebook, but what's keeping me there are people that I keep in contact with and I use it to keep up with events and message friends/family on it ..if it wasn't for that I probably wouldn't use it ..saying that, it can be useful if you want to apply for jobs and people want to add you to it, but I'd recommend LinkedIN as it's more of business version of Facebook and is a probably better alternative overall if you want to stick to professional only content without all the "inane ****" like you stated.
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I love it. I just use it to look up old friends and keep in touch with family. A lot less of a hassle than calling them up. I miss the old MySpace though.
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Their new security politics it's annoying. I deleted my account 4 or 5 years ago, then I decided to make a new account just because of sport streaming, I didn't even added anyone, only liked a sport page, and they blocked me just one day after because I didn't uploaded a profile picture. Never unblocked me since.
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