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Highly emotional hot heads are such a pain. Ugh. Any little thing you say to them will set them off. She's so into being a victim and her suffering. Like in her mind it's okay to be a flake since she has problems/issues in her life. And if you dare ask her not to be a flake you are mean, selfish, and not considerate of her pain and suffering.
I assume it would be pretty much impossible for you to go and get your stuff? Normally it wouldn't be worth it but if it has special meaning there's no real way to put a price on that.

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Awww, Grumpy Cat has died at age 7. So young. What a bummer. She was so adorable. That makes me sad.

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I got on a bus that isn't my regular one, which came from a "baddish" area of the greater city. Immediately upon the bus doors opening I was assaulted by an overpowering, disgusting skunk smell. A few years ago I would have thought that someone on the bus had been sprayed by an actual skunk, but now I realize that it's a pot smoker. If they didn't light up on the bus, they probably just put out their blunt before getting on and were exhaling that vile stench when they got on. Absolutely disgusting.

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I don't think my neighbor works anymore. She's a lower-end-of-conventionally-attractive woman in her late 20s, and it used to seem like she was rarely home. Currently she is home just about constantly, at least in the daytime before I leave for work. I heard her talking to someone about being relieved not to be at a sh!tty job anymore, but what is she doing for work? She seems to leave in the morning but come back after an hour. Sugar daddy? Whoring? Don't know. I guess neighbors who never leave is a pet peeve of mine. The guy above me (and now his sister too) almost never leave the building, and they're only in their 50s or 60s. The woman who used to be in this girl's place was in her 80s, so her rarely going out was understandable. This chick isn't loud, so that's at least something.

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I don't think my neighbor works anymore. She's a lower-end-of-conventionally-attractive woman in her late 20s, and it used to seem like she was rarely home. Currently she is home just about constantly, at least in the daytime before I leave for work. I heard her talking to someone about being relieved not to be at a sh!tty job anymore, but what is she doing for work? She seems to leave in the morning but come back after an hour. Sugar daddy? Whoring? Don't know. I guess neighbors who never leave is a pet peeve of mine. The guy above me (and now his sister too) almost never leave the building, and they're only in their 50s or 60s. The woman who used to be in this girl's place was in her 80s, so her rarely going out was understandable. This chick isn't loud, so that's at least something.
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I don't think my neighbor works anymore. She's a lower-end-of-conventionally-attractive woman in her late 20s, and it used to seem like she was rarely home. Currently she is home just about constantly, at least in the daytime before I leave for work. I heard her talking to someone about being relieved not to be at a sh!tty job anymore, but what is she doing for work? She seems to leave in the morning but come back after an hour. Sugar daddy? Whoring? Don't know. I guess neighbors who never leave is a pet peeve of mine. The guy above me (and now his sister too) almost never leave the building, and they're only in their 50s or 60s. The woman who used to be in this girl's place was in her 80s, so her rarely going out was understandable. This chick isn't loud, so that's at least something.
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Why can't I just sleep, dude, body, just stop. Like fr real. I wanted to sleep in, not wake up bright and early for the one of 3 vacation days out of the American work year!!!??!!! 1 of 3. Srsly. Sorry...
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I wonder if I’d be as cruel as I sometimes think I would to that guy if I was given carte blanche to do so
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Well, that was a useless, frustrating conversation. Tried to talk to my dad about my sister's situation but he is so out of it.

My sister is now saying she is moving out of the old man's apartment (she's been there about 10 months now). The old man is getting worse and more unpleasant. Screamed at her when they went to the supermarket together after taking him to a medical appointment. Apparently he asked her to order something at the bakery and then he wandered off, got lost, caused a commotion and screamed at my sister in front of everyone for not staying with him. He had forgotten he'd asked her to order something at the bakery. And he's been asking for money from her and the other girl for utilities and such. The other girl gave him $200 and then he asked for more. The other girl has also been useless. Disappears for days on end so my sister is burdened with all the care when it's supposed to be split evenly.

My sister, of course, has not found a job yet and is only doing under the table work part-time. She can't afford to get a place of her own, so she is moving back in with a friend that she stayed with before moving into the current situation. They live in the burbs (not NYC proper). There is no spare room, so my sister will be on the couch.

Now she's talking about preparing for looking for job interviews again. Dyed her hair, has her interview suit all ready, and is planning on getting a haircut. Hasn't had a cut in many months. She has always been real big on prepping for potential interviews. Figuring out what clothes to wear, the right shoes, fashionable haircut, briefcase, some fancy folder to hold her resume and other paperwork. Like everything has to be perfect before she tries.

My dad kept going on and on about my aunt (mother's sister) and keeps comparing her to my sister. I barely even know this aunt. Like the last time I talked to her was probably when I was 13. My dad hasn't stayed in contact with her and dislikes her. But he sure does love talking about how horrible she is and what a mess her life has been. I told him that they are different people and didn't see the point in bringing up the aunt all the time. He got all pissy and said well they are related and it may be in the genes. Like it's genetic that neither of them work and try to sponge off men and family. He really has given up on my sister and just wishes that she doesn't kill herself. He has such low expectations. I mean, okay, that might be realistic but having such extremely low expectations of your child is an awful thing. I just feel that my sister and that aunt are completely different people and don't have a whole lot in common, so it's just ridiculous how every time we discuss my sister he brings up the aunt. Every freaking time.

The aunt went to college for many years, never got a degree. Worked a tiny bit here and there but basically lived off men for many years. Married an older man for a while, then got divorced. Met a guy closer to her age, had one kid, lived with him for a few years, then separated. Dated a few much older men for a while. Eventually got too old for that and has been homeless off and on for many years. Living in her car and such. Doesn't work. My dad claims she said that she is "too sensitive for work." Ironically she is the only one that is still alive of her siblings. It was girl-boy-girl-boy. Oldest boy killed himself with a rifle in his early 30s. My mom, the oldest, died over 20 years ago. Then the youngest boy died a few years ago of heart disease. He had 2 sets of families. Divorced both women. Kids from the 2nd set still teenagers when he died. So yep, she is the only one left.

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I don't think my neighbor works anymore. She's a lower-end-of-conventionally-attractive woman in her late 20s, and it used to seem like she was rarely home. Currently she is home just about constantly, at least in the daytime before I leave for work. I heard her talking to someone about being relieved not to be at a sh!tty job anymore, but what is she doing for work? She seems to leave in the morning but come back after an hour. Sugar daddy? Whoring? Don't know. I guess neighbors who never leave is a pet peeve of mine. The guy above me (and now his sister too) almost never leave the building, and they're only in their 50s or 60s. The woman who used to be in this girl's place was in her 80s, so her rarely going out was understandable. This chick isn't loud, so that's at least something.
Most likely going out to buy food. Might be living on unemployment benefits and/or savings.

I had one really annoying roommate that I posted about here before. She didn't tell me till 2 weeks after I moved in that she wasn't going to work for a few months. Not for any particular reason, just cause she didn't feel like it and had enough savings to live on. She seemed to only leave the apartment twice a day. Two hours in the late afternoon, she'd go to Starbucks. Of course, she'd come back home right after I got back home after my long day at work....so I never got any alone time. Then she'd cook her stinky kimchi meals. Barf. She'd also leave for like 20 minutes at around midnight to go buy some food after her late night Skype session with her love interest (who she was paying money to for some sort of life therapy). She had 2 Skype sessions per day with this guy. Think she felt reinvigorated after the session and would get the munchies. Which is all fine and good but she left the ****ing front door unlocked. We were living in NYC and on the 1st floor!!

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Most likely going out to buy food. Might be living on unemployment benefits and/or savings.

I had one really annoying roommate that I posted about here before. She didn't tell me till 2 weeks after I moved in that she wasn't going to work for a few months. Not for any particular reason, just cause she didn't feel like it and had enough savings to live on. She seemed to only leave the apartment twice a day. Two hours in the late afternoon, she'd go to Starbucks. Of course, she'd come back home right after I got back home after my long day at work....so I never got any alone time. Then she'd cook her stinky kimchi meals. Barf. She'd also leave for like 20 minutes at around midnight to go buy some food after her late night Skype session with her love interest (who she was paying money to for some sort of life therapy). She had 2 Skype sessions per day with this guy. Think she felt reinvigorated after the session and would get the munchies. Which is all fine and good but she left the ****ing front door unlocked. We were living in NYC and on the 1st floor!!
That's the curse of the shared apartment - no alone time. But I don't think your roommate is to blame, the place belongs to all who live there equally (and kimchi is delicious). The front door thing is really annoying though. I had someone leave the front door open when I lived in a squat (basically, had the wrong person walked in, we could have lost our home immediately).

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That's the curse of the shared apartment - no alone time. But I don't think your roommate is to blame, the place belongs to all who live there equally (and kimchi is delicious). The front door thing is really annoying though. I had someone leave the front door open when I lived in a squat (basically, had the wrong person walked in, we could have lost our home immediately).
I think she hid the fact that she planned on not working from me when I came to see the place (the interview). If I had known that I would not have moved in. Her cooking really smelled bad and she cooked like twice a day. She certainly didn't think it was equal since she had all these 80 zillion asinine rules. Her name was on the lease and mine wasn't so she probably figured she could be as bossy as she wanted to be.

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I think she hid the fact that she planned on not working from me when I came to see the place (the interview). If I had known that I would not have moved in. Her cooking really smelled bad and she cooked like twice a day. She certainly didn't think it was equal since she had all these 80 zillion asinine rules. Her name was on the lease and mine wasn't so she probably figured she could be as bossy as she wanted to be.
Right, bad one. Whenever I see "live-in landlord", I shirk away. There are some exceptions, but pretty much no landlords know how to keep things equal in the house when they live with their tenant. Your roommate may not have been your landlady, but you kind of end up with the same situation if you're not on the lease.

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I think she hid the fact that she planned on not working from me when I came to see the place (the interview). If I had known that I would not have moved in. Her cooking really smelled bad and she cooked like twice a day. She certainly didn't think it was equal since she had all these 80 zillion asinine rules. Her name was on the lease and mine wasn't so she probably figured she could be as bossy as she wanted to be.
Kimchi actually doesn't smell bad unless I bought kimchi that is made different or something. There was a certain brand I was looking at that had anchovy paste or something in it and I put that back fast.

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I'm almost 31 and still have trouble getting close to people. Despite being at my job for a good amount of years, I haven't made a real connection with anyone there. People virtually don't know me, and my presence discomforts and perplexes them. I have a bad rap for being aloof, awkward and extremely quiet. I'm a great worker, just a lousy coworker. I ridiculously want to leave my job for this reason, because I haven't been able to get over this, and it's embarrassing. I feel so small and unloved there. I don't know why it's so hard. I don't know how and why it's gone on for so long. Each passing year it gets more awkward and awkward, especially with the ones that have been there for years. I just want to start over again at another place. I can't seem to do it at this place with these people. I don't want to spend anymore time feeling this way. It's such a waste of life. I feel so stagnant. The stress from this has ruined and stunted me.
Outside of work, I have a few acquaintances that I met through a meetup and family members that I talk to and hang out with sometimes. I also have an amazing boyfriend, and we've been living together and dating for a good amount of years now too.
...I don't know where I'm going with this anymore. I guess I'm just ranting.
I want a new job. I really want a girl friend, a friend that understands and accepts my struggle with anxiety and depression. I want to meet another unconventional, introverted Latina that, like me, struggles with Spanish...

She searched the city for anyone. I ran into her on a bus stop. And then she asked me for a light, and then I asked her, "Are you alright?" She said, "I think there's something wrong, I don't belong, I don't belong."
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I'm almost 31 and still have trouble getting close to people. Despite being at my job for a good amount of years, I haven't made a real connection with anyone there. People virtually don't know me, and my presence discomforts and perplexes them. I have a bad rap for being aloof, awkward and extremely quiet. I'm a great worker, just a lousy coworker. I ridiculously want to leave my job for this reason, because I haven't been able to get over this and it's embarrassing. I feel so small and unloved there. I don't know why it's so hard. I don't know how and why it's gone on for so long. Each passing year it gets more awkward and awkward, especially with the ones that have been there for years. I just want to start over again at another place. I can't seem to do it at this place with these people. I don't want to spend anymore time feeling this way. It's such a waste of life. I feel so stagnant. The stress from this has ruined and stunted me.
Outside of work, I have a few acquaintances that I met through a meetup and family members that I talk to and hang out with sometimes. I also have an amazing boyfriend, and we've been living together and dating for a good amount of years now too.
...I don't know where I'm going with this anymore. I guess I'm just ranting.
I want a new job. I really want a girl friend, a friend that understands and accepts my struggle with anxiety and depression. I want to meet another unconventional, introverted Latina that, like me, struggles with Spanish...
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