Well, that was a useless, frustrating conversation. Tried to talk to my dad about my sister's situation but he is so out of it.
My sister is now saying she is moving out of the old man's apartment (she's been there about 10 months now). The old man is getting worse and more unpleasant. Screamed at her when they went to the supermarket together after taking him to a medical appointment. Apparently he asked her to order something at the bakery and then he wandered off, got lost, caused a commotion and screamed at my sister in front of everyone for not staying with him. He had forgotten he'd asked her to order something at the bakery. And he's been asking for money from her and the other girl for utilities and such. The other girl gave him $200 and then he asked for more. The other girl has also been useless. Disappears for days on end so my sister is burdened with all the care when it's supposed to be split evenly.
My sister, of course, has not found a job yet and is only doing under the table work part-time. She can't afford to get a place of her own, so she is moving back in with a friend that she stayed with before moving into the current situation. They live in the burbs (not NYC proper). There is no spare room, so my sister will be on the couch.
Now she's talking about preparing for looking for job interviews again. Dyed her hair, has her interview suit all ready, and is planning on getting a haircut. Hasn't had a cut in many months. She has always been real big on prepping for potential interviews. Figuring out what clothes to wear, the right shoes, fashionable haircut, briefcase, some fancy folder to hold her resume and other paperwork. Like everything has to be perfect before she tries.
My dad kept going on and on about my aunt (mother's sister) and keeps comparing her to my sister. I barely even know this aunt. Like the last time I talked to her was probably when I was 13. My dad hasn't stayed in contact with her and dislikes her. But he sure does love talking about how horrible she is and what a mess her life has been. I told him that they are different people and didn't see the point in bringing up the aunt all the time. He got all pissy and said well they are related and it may be in the genes. Like it's genetic that neither of them work and try to sponge off men and family. He really has given up on my sister and just wishes that she doesn't kill herself. He has such low expectations. I mean, okay, that might be realistic but having such extremely low expectations of your child is an awful thing. I just feel that my sister and that aunt are completely different people and don't have a whole lot in common, so it's just ridiculous how every time we discuss my sister he brings up the aunt. Every freaking time.
The aunt went to college for many years, never got a degree. Worked a tiny bit here and there but basically lived off men for many years. Married an older man for a while, then got divorced. Met a guy closer to her age, had one kid, lived with him for a few years, then separated. Dated a few much older men for a while. Eventually got too old for that and has been homeless off and on for many years. Living in her car and such. Doesn't work. My dad claims she said that she is "too sensitive for work." Ironically she is the only one that is still alive of her siblings. It was girl-boy-girl-boy. Oldest boy killed himself with a rifle in his early 30s. My mom, the oldest, died over 20 years ago. Then the youngest boy died a few years ago of heart disease. He had 2 sets of families. Divorced both women. Kids from the 2nd set still teenagers when he died. So yep, she is the only one left.