well, I'm 46 now, and... well, I feel the same way. I don't want to live in the city i'm in, but I also nearly never get interviews for all the jobs I apply for. I apply for jobs in-town out of town, and out of state. Dozens every month, at minimum. No traction. No job offers. Always just email notes about "thanks but no thanks".
I have two college degrees and I have yet to secure a job that requires a bachelor's degree.
I keep being tempted to apply for a local apartment but my income is not quite comfortable to afford rent.
I got invited for most of the position I applied for but I never get passed the interview. I just sit at home now afraid to face the society because according to a society, a normal grown up must work a job, otherwise, he is abnormal.
My biggest regret is studying science at university. I spent 3 years doing a bachelors degree and I did so well that they offered me a place on a funded masters degree. I did that for another year. What a waste of time and stress.
I should have studied something useful like medicine, nursing, electrician etc. I could kick myself.
I have savings in the bank and I am resigned to the fact that I will have to "re-train".
When I look back, I can see all the things I did wrong. I was far, far too timid and didn't socialise. I didn't take any risks and do the things I wanted to do. My friends were too geeky. I didn't approach girls enough.
No time like the present though, I suppose. I run as a hobby and started volunteering at local events. I have told my parents that I will tide myself over with a retail job for now and do some classroom assistant work. My parents are nagging me to get a car.
I often feel completely lost if I'm honest.
Yup too timid and afraid to socialise are two of my many problems. I went for funded postgrad studies as well but I never regretted or getting stressed out of it. I was actually enjoy it because I can do the research on my own pace and my advisors are quite supportive in my research.
If you haven't yet, I think you should take medication to alleviate SA, then you would at least start getting out of the house more often for a start. Take one step at a time!
To be honest, I don't know where to get help. Mental issues are not something we openly to about here, unfortunately.
Same...Im 30, live at home, and work in a call center. Ive been trapped as a caregiver for my dad, and now mom my whole life. We're poor. I don't even have a car.
I got myself a pre-owned car a couple of years ago. My mom helped me to pay 30% of the total cost of the car. Of course, till these days I haven't pay back my mom.
I can relate to being mid 30's (34) currently and having no direction in my life, no goals, no ambition, my life is just where it is. By now I have only achieved, graduating high school, being a black belt, having 1 job I failed at, having 2 relationships, 1 which I failed at and the other is nowhere near where I thought it would be. I don't have my own place, a car, a stable job, I'm just wondering through life.
I feel like a failure in life, still living at home, taking care of my parents, cleaning, drinking. So I can relate, I'm the same, I have 2 friends now (my current GF) being one and my friend Paul, and I have nothing worthwhile to show in my life,I am too scared to meet new people for the very same reason you are, I'm afraid they are going to ask me what I do.
I wish you success and hope things do improve for you but I don't feel like I have any hope of it happening for me
Thank you. But I don't feel like there's hope. Anything that could go wrong will go wrong for me eventually.
How old are you now? The college age years and your 20's where you are just starting your career are tough and confusing times for a lot of people. Do you have a job at all right now? What do you do job wise?
My advice is you have to start setting small goals. Careers goals, social goals and financial goals. Physical fitness goals as well. Dont worry if your behind other people. You want to be the best version of you that you can be. We all have different issues and struggles we have to deal with.
Motivation can be tough so like I said set small goals. Set a specific goal each day. Apply for x number of jobs. Hit the gym or workout x times per week and try to start conversations with people x times per day or week. Do that you will look back a year from now and see you made some great progress. Write your goals down really helps as well you dont want to just want them in your head.
I'm now 36. To be honest, I'm kind of give up finding job. My last application was in March. Went to the interview and of course, as always, got rejected.
I'm in a similar tangle. Covid19 crisis has messed up plans even more for me I'd say. I was doing okay, had a weekend job, which then shut down. I am now unemployd, I live with husband and 2 children. But I'm not building on my job experience. I was also, on top of the weekend job, a head chair of an art show (this year had to be virtual) that is held once a year. I have to manage the committees and it is all volunteer. I literally fall sick before a meeting where I have to speak in front of 40 people or so. I accepted teh position because like you I am 34 years old and have not landed a "career job" yet. My weekend job was a salon as receptionist/front desk person. Not good pay and not that interesting. I really want a job as a web designer/developer. And again, now with covid19 everyone is after same work from home positions. Too much competition and I look awful to be out of the work force too long , not even ever having much experience in my chosen field. Ugh.
I'm not downplaying your struggles but it sounds like you're miles ahead of me. You also sounds like a brave and responsible person for yourself, your partner and kids.
You talk about a lack of motivation. Do you really have no motivation for anything at all?
Yes as if I got no hope left. Why even try right? The best I can do is to feel sorry for myself.
If memory serves me right, aren't you the one who went for postgrad as well? Did you further phd?