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post #1 of 47 (permalink) Old 12-14-2019, 12:07 PM Thread Starter
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I miss the old internet


My family first got the internet in 2003. We had AOL dial up and the internet would disconnect when the phone rang. It was pretty bad.



But back then the internet was novel and accessible. I didn't have to venture far to speak to people, as there was AOL chat and MSN messenger.


A year or two later I started posting on forums, mainly music forums but also social phobia world and social anxiety support.


Back then it seemed like people were easier to talk to. That's what I meant when I said the internet was accessible. I made online friends and met some of them in person. We had a social anxiety meetup one time. Another time I went to a gig.



Unfortunately, they all one by one went their separate ways due to finding partners, starting jobs or simply getting bored of internet forums. Then the forums seemed to start dying. In 2012 I saw my one remaining friend for the last time before she drifted away after getting a partner.



I haven't had any friends since 2012. I've had acquaintances, but no one I could to relate to like my old online friends.



I've tried to make online friends since then but either no one wants to talk or I can't relate to them. Of course I still try to socialise in real life but there are cliques everywhere and I never see anyone on their own like I am.


Can anyone relate to these ramblings? Maybe I need to search harder but I feel alienated everywhere. This forum isn't too bad but it's not as good as it used to be. I like to read old posts.
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the internet was even better in the 90s. Websites were informative text and photos, where anyone could make them. It wasn't all corporate and ad-based. AOL had celebrities chat in their online board, and they would publish the schedule in the newspaper when they'd appear. There used to be an unlimited number of chatrooms about any subject, and you'd spend hours just texting about anything, and it wasn't full of hate or divisive politics or anything.

and everything about the internet felt brand new.

I imagine mobile technology (apps) is kind of like that. It's probably really fresh to teenagers, like how the "internet" was with me, but it's way too visual and omnipresent now compared to the "internet" of the 90s and very early 2000s...before facebook ever existed.

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Yea. I liked the sound of the dial up internet and it was exciting in the beginning because it was new. But, I didn't use any forums or meetups like you that I can remember.
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The internet was pretty great before social media ruined it. Now it's mostly just boring people looking for social validation.
People aren't interested in having friends, they want to be worshipped.
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The internet as a whole was terrible back then. It was full of popups, nauseating animated GIFs, RealPlayer, haphazard plugins like Shockwave, and the like. Websites were designed for particular browsers and operating systems and even particular screen resolutions.

But I do miss when forums and instant messengers were more popular. Around 2010 was the best, just before mobile-first design started ruining desktop websites.

And really the fundamental problem is that the web these days is phone-oriented. All the instant messengers today are designed for phones and don't even bother with desktop options, the websites are designed for phones, forums are unpopular because that sort of long-winded writing isn't easy on a phone, etc. Companies are just too lazy to do things twice to provide a good experience for PCs as well as phones, so they spend all their time on the more popular of the two.

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Yeah, I hear you. The internet used to be for nerds. Now all the normies are here with their selfies and twitters.
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We had AOL dialup till 2009 lol. I'm actually 28 so all my peers had broadband by the time we were about 11, but my family didn't, actually we only got dialup when I was about 11. I would have to wait forever for a YouTube video to fully load.

I like the personalisation in the early 2000s internet, even with forums being a thing many people had their own website which they customised in all kinds of ways. Lots of really ugly aesthetics lol but still. @zonebox posted a search engine in another thread recently that can take you to random old websites:

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Oh hell. I didn't even bother with videos when I had dialup. Had to wait forever and a day and the quality was still absolute ****. I didn't get broadband until 2005 and I still have the same speed I had then.

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It was fairly easy to find someone to hook up with in the AOL/Yahoo chatrooms. Problem was sometimes the person you met didn't match the pic she sent you.

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The internet was pretty great before social media ruined it. Now it's mostly just boring people looking for social validation.
People aren't interested in having friends, they want to be worshipped.

agreed!
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Got internet in the summer of 1996. Bought my first PC computer myself. Had dialup. Almost had a heartattack when I got the phone bill. Didn't relieve the server number I was dialing into was long distance. Bill was like $100 when normally it was $14 per month. The phone company was a small company and they waived the fee and signed me up for a little more per month so it would be toll free calling into that server. It was $19 per month for the internet service. First computer had a 33.6 kbps modem then the second computer I bought a year later later had a 56 kbps modem.

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Sometime in the late 90s I got a dedicated phone line for the internet and set up a Linux box that kept the connection alive 24/7. If the connection was dropped it would automatically redial. I think at the time it had a 28.8 modem but I soon upgraded to 56k. The Linux box also acted as a router for the home network. Any request for an internet address was routed to that box. It was all very primitive but it worked.
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Yeah, I hear you. The internet used to be for nerds. Now all the normies are here with their selfies and twitters.

Yes that's it.
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what do you miss exactly?

everything is the same as it was before. yeah there are corporations everywhere now and advertisement but you dont have to use these sites.
the only thing i miss from the old days is that everybody used to have a website. you had to make your own site, not use facebook or myspace or all the other things.

gaming clans had their own websites back then.
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what do you miss exactly?

everything is the same as it was before.

That's not really true. Usenet is pretty much gone unless you pay for it. Sure you can still make a website but good luck getting anyone to come to it.
The whole culture of the internet has changed and the internet has also changed the overall culture we live in as well.
Corporations ruin everything. As soon as a corporation touches anything it ceases to be genuinely cool. A corporation is like the tacky rich uncle at the beer party. He ruins the good time with his boorish behavior but nobody kicks him out because he brought the beer.
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The whole culture of the internet has changed and the internet has also changed the overall culture we live in as well.
Exactly. It's mind boggling to see people deny this.

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Yeah, I agree. Internet culture has gotten worse because it has become centralized in the hands of a few social media companies.
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Ditto @Morpheus
The internet today seems ultimately confusing. Compared to 10 years ago, I'm not even sure if pirating is all that simple anymore. Chatrooms are dead, there's no livejournal. Its just an explosion of memes and group think..yea? :/
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