Join Date: Mar 2017
Location: Rainforest <-> Tundra
My life was made worse by having a partner. Sometimes people hide who they really are until you're attached, and then irrational fears about never finding someone else again keep you from moving on. A lot of relationships are sad, angry, toxic, and just incredibly dreadful - and it pulls you under. Some people never get back out (my parents are a fine example of this). It is the saddest life you could possibly ever live, and yes, it is worse than living with your mom at 30 (which isn't even that bad or weird).
Not only that, but what if your partner becomes unemployed and needs to rely on you financially? There was a thread on SAS from a guy who was supporting his leech of a girlfriend, and needed to pick up a second job to fund her lifestyle. (He couldn't easily get rid of her as they shared a lease or something, I don't recall exactly). I became a lot poorer just due to my partner's poor choices and his abusive behaviour, including breaking down my bedroom door, holding me down and screaming in my face, and forcing me to find a hotel on no notice in the middle of winter.
Or, what if they become disabled? Can you care for them? Knowing they not only need a lot more time and energy from you, they are likely to NOT be grateful and will instead be angry and self-pitying of their situation.
So. I hope my post was convincing in some small way. Wait for the right person and really get to know them, and cut bait as soon as red flags come up. Do not give people the benefit of the doubt, and be extremely picky. People with SA are so goddamn vulnerable to as.shole behaviour, including me, and I'm a hypocrite who wishes I knew all this beforehand.
Tl;dr - Stay single, keep money and sanity, and go have fun without the burden of a partner.