I have trouble with names, too--even names of bosses and co-workers, which made for really awkward situations for me when I worked regular jobs. And I can't remember names of movies, or actors' names, so I can't describe movies worth a crap when I'm trying to socialize.
Every once in a while, though, I experience clarity, and can think like normal people. I wonder if it's ADHD or something.
Yeah, not being able to remember names makes small talk really difficult. Easier just to avoid talking. I don't follow news/politics for that reason. I can't remember any of the people involved.
I have a list of the names of the people in my family on my phone so I can refer to it when I have to. It's embarrassing to not be able to remember things like your gf's name, or when your own birthday is, both of which have happened multiple times.
It's not noticeable online because I can look everything up before I type anything, but it's a conversation killer IRL.
yeah and recognizing people, at least for me. I've often had people recognize me and expecting me to recognize them, and I'm like thinking "I have no idea who you are". Unless I saw the movie yesterday or many times I ain't having much conversation about it. If you took 200 people under the age of 70, I would be a strong favourite to have the worst memory of any of them. People complaining of memory loss after a stroke still have a better memory than me.
I've tried everything imaginable to try to improve it. Like everything. And nothing does much good. For example I do at least some HIIT and resistance training every day, eat everything you're supposed to, tried all kinds of nootropic substances, tried reading a lot, tried watching tv a lot and remembering the episodes/characters later (as like practice for when I need it), I tried social meetup groups - because you know how for older people they say socializing helps prevent cognitive decline, brain training games. The only thing that I really think has any effect is the HIIT and resistance training, that's backed up by studies.
I don't know why it's so bad. I never had learning problems in school though I did struggle a bit sometimes in highschool/university and the only reason I did decent is because I didn't really have any life. I went under general anaesthetic when I was 14/15 and I always wonder if maybe I was accidentally deprived of oxygen or something during that time, because that can happen and lead to permanent memory loss. I also underwent it at least twice previous to that to get adenoids out, I really wish I hadn't as any of them might have caused memory loss as well, I think that should be illegal.
The worst thing is when some incident happens, then a few months or maybe years for a bigger incident, and I forget it either completely or forget the details. And other people can see this and they don't know or understand why I didn't remember it. Like that's what happened and this is when it happened, why don't I remember it. Why don't I remember the person's name I spoke to.
I'm going to a neurologist as a final roll of the dice but 99.9% sure he will find nothing and have no way to improve anything, especially since I already had a MRI a few years ago where nothing showed up.
My memory is pretty normal aside from proper names and numbers/dates, I think. I can remember faces usually, even if I don't remember their name, and I remember a lot about my childhood. But if you can't attach a name, it's almost impossible to talk about, so it seems like I don't remember things, or that I'm not very bright, even though my comprehension is good. It made exams very difficult for me, because even if I understood the material, I still often couldn't answer the questions. By the end of high school I was failing all my courses even though I spent a lot of time studying. I couldn't have made it through university.
I am a big fan of neuroplasticity, though, so I'm going to try to find some kind of creative workaround.