Do you enjoy being middle aged? - Social Anxiety Forum
Reply
 
Thread Tools
post #1 of 29 (permalink) Old 05-15-2019, 08:57 PM Thread Starter
SAS Member
 
Join Date: Apr 2019
Posts: 41

Do you enjoy being middle aged?


Some things are better, but is it crazy to say life was more magical as a young adult?
DeliveryDude is offline  
Sponsored Links
Advertisement
 
post #2 of 29 (permalink) Old 05-16-2019, 06:32 AM
SAS Member
 
Twocky61's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jun 2014
Location: Dorset uk
Language: English
Gender: Male
Age: 58
Posts: 1,557
My Mood: Angelic
I suppose being middle aged you are wiser than you were when you were younger & less experienced

While you SCREAM at your woman, there's a man, wishing he could talk softly in her ear...

While you HUMILIATE, OFFEND, & INSULT her,
there's a man flirting with her, & reminding her, how wonderful she is.

While you HURT your woman,
there's a man wishing he could show her love

While you make your woman CRY,
there's a man stealing smiles from her.
Twocky61 is offline  
post #3 of 29 (permalink) Old 05-16-2019, 05:26 PM
SAS Member
 
WillYouStopDave's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jul 2013
Location: United States
Gender: Male
Age: 45
Posts: 27,213
My Mood: Relaxed
I don't think I've ever exactly enjoyed being any age. The only thing that was really good about being young was basically perfect general health.

------------

In case of emergency, my husk can be used as a flotation device.
WillYouStopDave is online now  
 
post #4 of 29 (permalink) Old 05-16-2019, 06:22 PM
SAS Member
 
Hank Scorpio's Avatar
 
Join Date: Oct 2008
Location: Underground
Posts: 2,251
Hell no. Your body is breaking down and all you do is work.

Work a little bit harder on improving your low self-esteem, you stupid freak.
Hank Scorpio is offline  
post #5 of 29 (permalink) Old 05-16-2019, 10:05 PM
untitled document
 
Paul's Avatar
 
Join Date: Sep 2005
Location: California Republic
Language: None
Age: 38
Posts: 6,055
There was nothing even slightly magical about my young adulthood.

I'm not ready to admit that I'm middle aged yet, but until I lose my health I'm not going to miss being younger.

SA Game | Sacramento SA Meetup

"Many people need desperately to receive this message: 'I feel and think much as you do, care about many of the things you care about, although most people do not care about them. You are not alone.'" ― Kurt Vonnegut
Paul is online now  
post #6 of 29 (permalink) Old 05-17-2019, 12:58 AM
SAS Member
 
W00DBINE's Avatar
 
Join Date: Sep 2016
Location: UK
Gender: Male
Age: 35
Posts: 252
My Mood: Tired
When you're younger you still have hope, but as you get older and things don't get better that hope fades away. I'm dreading reaching 40 and still not achieved anything, 5 more years don't feel that long.
W00DBINE is offline  
post #7 of 29 (permalink) Old 05-17-2019, 03:05 AM
experimental sincerity
 
rabidfoxes's Avatar
 
Join Date: Apr 2016
Posts: 833
I'm not middle aged yet, I don't think, but it's nice being older. People make a lot of stupid assumptions about youngsters, and at my age they are starting to leave me alone and accept that I am an adult. I am better off work-wise and my housing is more stable. Health has deterioriated a little, but not so much as to cause serious hassle. What's not to love?

Leonard Cohen (Bird on a Wire): I have tried in my own way to be free
Mrs Hudson (BBC Sherlock): Sherlock! The mess you've made!
rabidfoxes is offline  
post #8 of 29 (permalink) Old 05-17-2019, 07:28 AM
SAS Member
 
ideasunlimitedonline's Avatar
 
Join Date: Apr 2019
Location: Sugar Land, TX
Gender: Male
Posts: 89
I don't feel middle aged at all. I've been exercising and eating good, so I'm in better shape than I have been in a while. I felt like having a kid, not getting older, really affected how my body started to break down. But with those issues being resolved, I feel much more comfortable in my body. I'm also a lot more sure of my identity and confident in who I am at my age. You spend a lot of your 20's insecure about the world in general.

ideasunlimitedonline.com
ideasunlimitedonline is offline  
post #9 of 29 (permalink) Old 05-17-2019, 03:53 PM
SAS Member
 
Join Date: Oct 2013
Posts: 376
Early 30s isn't middle aged you knob.
typicalanimal is offline  
post #10 of 29 (permalink) Old 05-17-2019, 03:59 PM
SAS's Chief Meteorologist
 
Maslow's Avatar
 
Join Date: Dec 2003
Location: Denver
Gender: Male
Posts: 7,415
Middle aged is 45 to 65.

... Hold on, let me check my calendar. Nope, nothing planned for the rest of the year.
Maslow is offline  
post #11 of 29 (permalink) Old 05-17-2019, 04:28 PM
Greasy prospector
 
blue2's Avatar
 
Join Date: May 2013
Location: The salty spitoon
Gender: Male
Posts: 8,893
My Mood: Lurking
Indubitably.






And all our yesterdays have lighted fools the way to dusty death
Out, out, brief candle! Life's but a walking shadow,
A poor player that strut's and fret's his hour upon the stage and is heard no more,
It is a tale told by an idiot, full of sound and fury, signifying nothing.
- Macbeth
blue2 is online now  
post #12 of 29 (permalink) Old 05-17-2019, 08:05 PM
All Nightmare Long
 
Scrub-Zero's Avatar
 
Join Date: Feb 2004
Posts: 13,876
My Mood: Twisted
Feels about as good as it looks.

Gather your party before venturing forth. And if you don't have a party, at least you don't have to wait on anyone.
Scrub-Zero is offline  
post #13 of 29 (permalink) Old 05-18-2019, 11:53 AM Thread Starter
SAS Member
 
Join Date: Apr 2019
Posts: 41
Worldwide, the average life expectancy at birth was 71.5 years (68 years and 4 months for males and 72 years and 8 months for females) over the period 20102015 according to United Nations World Population Prospects 2015 Revision, or 69 years (67 years for males and 71.1 years for females) for 2016 according to The ...
DeliveryDude is offline  
post #14 of 29 (permalink) Old 05-18-2019, 11:54 AM Thread Starter
SAS Member
 
Join Date: Apr 2019
Posts: 41
So 36 is technically middle aged
DeliveryDude is offline  
post #15 of 29 (permalink) Old 05-18-2019, 12:10 PM
Greasy prospector
 
blue2's Avatar
 
Join Date: May 2013
Location: The salty spitoon
Gender: Male
Posts: 8,893
My Mood: Lurking
Quote:
Originally Posted by DeliveryDude View Post
So 36 is technically middle aged
...Yeah but you can't really go by life expectancy cause it's different for everyone, if someone lives to 100 that means they technically weren't middle aged till 50, if someone dies at 40 years old they were middle aged at 20 .....in general I would class middle age as 40 to 60 though I suppose the lines could get blurred either side : /






And all our yesterdays have lighted fools the way to dusty death
Out, out, brief candle! Life's but a walking shadow,
A poor player that strut's and fret's his hour upon the stage and is heard no more,
It is a tale told by an idiot, full of sound and fury, signifying nothing.
- Macbeth
blue2 is online now  
post #16 of 29 (permalink) Old 05-18-2019, 01:16 PM
SAS Member
 
Join Date: Oct 2013
Posts: 376
Quote:
Originally Posted by DeliveryDude View Post
So 36 is technically middle aged
No it's not. "Middle aged" is its own term, it does not mean "in the middle point of your life expectancy".

If you say someone has "one foot in the grave" you don't literally mean they have one foot inside in their grave, "technically" or not technically. When you say someone reaches the "age of majority", that doesn't mean they've reached the age where the majority of their life is probably finished. When someone calls their spouse "baby" that doesn't mean they think they are extremely young and undeveloped, it's just a term.

Language doesn't work by you doing fresh interpretations of idiomatic terms on the fly.
typicalanimal is offline  
post #17 of 29 (permalink) Old 05-18-2019, 03:17 PM
SAS Member
 
Join Date: Feb 2014
Gender: Female
Posts: 123
no. my body feels like ****
LostAndFoun D is offline  
post #18 of 29 (permalink) Old 05-19-2019, 12:10 AM
SAS Member
 
spitfire444's Avatar
 
Join Date: Feb 2014
Location: -!-!-!
Gender: Male
Age: 36
Posts: 1,776
My Mood: Sleepy
Quote:
Originally Posted by typicalanimal View Post
No it's not. "Middle aged" is its own term, it does not mean "in the middle point of your life expectancy".

If you say someone has "one foot in the grave" you don't literally mean they have one foot inside in their grave, "technically" or not technically. When you say someone reaches the "age of majority", that doesn't mean they've reached the age where the majority of their life is probably finished. When someone calls their spouse "baby" that doesn't mean they think they are extremely young and undeveloped, it's just a term.

Language doesn't work by you doing fresh interpretations of idiomatic terms on the fly.
Well said. Elegantly proffered.
spitfire444 is offline  
post #19 of 29 (permalink) Old 05-19-2019, 01:22 AM
bipolar
 
harrison's Avatar
 
Join Date: Apr 2012
Posts: 12,384
Well I'm 60 and I don't think it's that great. (no kidding) I think I stopped thinking of myself as middle-aged about 5 or 10 years ago. I guess there are positives - but it obviously depends completely on the individual and their circumstances.

I think in many ways my mental health was better when I was younger - and I had a much busier life. My family life was great and my social life was good too. It's sort of depressing when you get older and your looks fade - you become invisible. I wasn't invisible before - I was pretty vain tbh.

I also worry about getting old - actually moreso for my wife. I hope she doesn't get something horrible like Alzheimer's. That would really break my heart to see that.

Edit: I guess the only really good thing is you no longer have obligations, or at least they are a lot less than before. I'm lucky that I have a pretty full life to look back on, plus I have an ex-wife that I'm still close to and a great son. If I had lived a solitary boring life I think I would be very depressed now.
harrison is offline  
post #20 of 29 (permalink) Old 05-19-2019, 01:38 AM
SAS Member
 
komorikun's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jan 2009
Language: 英語と日本語
Gender: Female
Posts: 26,892
Hard to say. I don't have any major medical issues yet. I don't have kids. So I still feel relatively the same.

I suppose the decline is less obvious for me because I was never beautiful, nor was I ever full of energy even when I was 20. I've always been low-energy and sloth-like.

Kitty Therapy

The Meaning of Life

The Grim Reaper

We're going riding on the freeway......
komorikun is offline  
Reply

Thread Tools
Show Printable Version Show Printable Version
Email this Page Email this Page



Similar Threads
Thread Thread Starter Forum Replies Last Post
Enjoy being bonkers versikk Frustration 1 01-29-2019 12:28 AM
middle of the night insomnia feelinghopelessandstuck 30+ Members 7 05-28-2018 09:31 PM
Death of the Middle Class sabbath9 Society & Culture 42 11-16-2016 03:59 PM
Co-Workers Middle Schooler Son Has SAD Too! wmu'14 Coping With Social Anxiety 2 12-01-2015 10:35 PM
Enjoy the Ride TruSeeker777 Spiritual Support 2 09-21-2005 01:58 AM

Posting Rules  
You may not post new threads
You may not post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is Off
Trackbacks are Off
Pingbacks are Off
Refbacks are Off

 
For the best viewing experience please update your browser to Google Chrome