Originally Posted by blue the puppy
if not, i would strongly urge you to. i've been having a really difficult time lately with SA and depression, and i got a failing grade in a class. also, im a doctoral student who has to put together a candidacy committee -- which for someone with SA, as you can imagine, is torture because i have to ask people to be on my committee.
i met with DSS (disability support services) awhile ago and didn't get anywhere, so i met with the director yesterday and she was amazing. she offered to accompany me to a meeting with the head of graduate studies in my department to sort everything out. she also helped me write the email to the head of grad studies asking her for a meeting.
anyways. just wanted to put that positive experience out there and urge you to take advantage of the services your school has to offer. if you have difficulty speaking in class, or speaking to professors, or concentrating and getting assignments done in time, DSS can probably help you.
I was reluctant to get help from these angels, I am glad my dad forced me, they help so much! I am forever a disability patient of the greater brighter future of my dreams. They got me accomodations and I am doing so much better in my classes it feels like I am succeeding and my grades show!
REPOST cuz it's important;
Even if you drop of of college, you can go back anytime, you can get financial aid at FAFSA and they help pay for classes and books if you qualify. Then you can enter a community college and take baby steps, you can work with the disability resources services like I did and they will talk to your teachers and tell them about your situation and offer accommodations for your social anxiety. Higher education will give you a brighter future.
My dad forced me to go to college right out of high school in 2008, he was authoritative and scary, and harassed me that if I don't go he will kick me out of the house and he will stop feeding me, and I was in my social anxiety issues and procrastination and probably also selective mutism, and trichotillomania, I was a nothing but I did what he told me, it made me stronger too, it made me so strong. I went to college with my social anxiety and my other problems, and I refused to get help from disability resources services in the beginning of my college, and also during my college, but then in the middle of my college my dad harassed me to go to a psychologist, psychiatrist, and get help for my disabling social anxiety cuz I used to depend on my dad way too much.
He harassed me about going to get help from psychologists, psychiatrists the same way he harassed me about going to college, he had to make the appointments for me, and everything, so he forced me to go in a way. He forced me to get help, so I got and they helped me alot and gave me meds too, so I took them one day when I decided, oh well what's the big deal I'll take them and change my sad life. And I did. So then after I was going to my psychotherapy I slowly started going into the possibility that I can use the disability resources services at my college, and one of the teachers talked to my psychologist about me and the teacher told the disability services about me and then I was famous.
So then I was with them and they helped me and I did better in my classes and my grades, because the disability people told the teachers my social anxiety and my disabling fear to interact socially. So the disability lady worked out accommodations with me and my teachers for me. My grades were so nice and they saw I am a smart student and I deserve to learn and go out there and study and learn just like any other piece of extroverted DNA that seems to have life way easier than us.
So now that I am on prozac again, cuz my bf took me off of it, cuz he is a retard********, I went to the disability lady by myself, before when I wasn't on prozac my dad had to talk for me, it was just to disabling for me. Now I talked to her and took care of business man, she said I gave her teary eyes lol, she was shocked by how prozacked I was. I still go to the disability resources services even if I am prozacked, they can help you man, don't have judgmental beliefs about the word "disability" like I used to, I made a quote for myself when I used to be and it went like this, "Just because I'm not social doesn't mean I have a disability." or something along the lines of that.
Good luck man, I'm still climbing up the college latter, hoping to transfer to university and live my dreams.