I'm looking for advice on how to make friends in mid 20s.
My entire childhood to high school life, I was super shy and awkward with no friends. In college, I made some friends and became better socially, however, I started to learn that I like being by myself.
Now out of college, I've grown away from my previous friends, due to not really being the same type of people as me. All I do now is work and go home. Sometimes I'm happy with this lifestyle, other days I'm bored and wish my life had more purpose. However, I have no idea how to make friends, and I do not want to make friends from work, since I really want to stop thinking about work (I have a salary job that is actually pretty stressful and requires a lot of social contact.)
If anyone has a similar experience, can they please advise me on how to get out of this boring situation?
Well, I would like to meet you maybe, lol.
I find it hard myself, but I think it's easier to make friends in an easy environment- that is, in a place where people are not high stress or just trying to get things done. Where that would be is tricky, but I think tourist type areas are one place. Having something to talk about can be tricky with people. If people are together for a purpose (lets say a convention or rally, etc), then it's only natural to go over and say "What's this about?" Church groups can be good.
Kinda advice for myself, lol. I know when I was working that I was both anxious and unable to connect with people, and my attempts at socializing flopped most of the time. I spent a lot of time thinking about jumping into traffic or feeling life was useless. When I was a homeless traveler I was better, partly because I needed charm to survive, but also I met more people I could really connect with- though it was few and far between.
I connected with very lively christian people in one place, and the acceptance and purpose they had was infectious. Sadly, I've turned into a misanthrope of late.
I guess I can summarize it this way- either meet people having fun or people together for a cause. People like that are more open.