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post #26 of (permalink) Old 06-21-2015, 02:16 PM Thread Starter
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Originally Posted by Farideh View Post
You're making it seem like feeling ugly leads to social anxiety. That's not the case for everyone. It can be depression. It can be anxiety. People can be dealing with one of those two or both.
Well that's not quite the point, self acceptance means accepting different things for every one of us. It can be looks, health, feelings, "social status", you name it.

Originally Posted by thedevilsblood View Post
I agree with some of your points, but I don't think it's possible to experience rejection and simply shrug it off, especially when you're used to loneliness. You need some validation at some point in your life. All people with a healthy sense of confidence have experienced validation, it's easier for them then to dismiss the negative experiences.
All I'am saying is, it will be much easier to deal with them once you accept yourself. You will much rather think about how you can improve or that simply you don't "click" with that person rather than taking it personally and dwelling on it. The rejection itself will only "prove" what you've already accepted about yourself - so effectively not much bad news since you are not trying to deny reality in the first place. It's hard to fail and not learn a handful of social skills in the process with this mindset.

And just as a side note, lack of social skills is often nothing more than anxiety or fear of anxiety, especially if one can communicate and participate in conversations perfectly well with close friends or close family members, so it could be "learnt" much more easily than the term suggests.
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