Good summary. For me though, it was to feel wanted. I change my mind after a close brush. Now, it's whenever and I don't care. There's too much porn out there to keep me happy in the meantime.
Make my day, leave me a VISTOR message*--whatever it may be honestly. You'll be a a bit higher in confidence, and if I can reply I'll better myself too.
I can do speak and write objectively, like answering a question; It's a mechanical process that I've been trained to do...but natural rhetoric has left me.
*thanks to the anonymity of the internet. expect to be trolled if you pm me something absurd.