Like the title says... I have no real interest emotionally of being in a relationship, but lately I've really considered being in one just to have someone get mad at me when I'm being dumb lol I find I'm always so much more focused and on track in life when I'm not single.
At one point, I definitely felt exactly like this. I remember thinking that the only way I was ever going to accomplish anything was if I was motivated by someone i genuinely cared about. (*examines current life... umm, maybe I was onto something).
Hmmm, well I only speak for myself, but my parents can't really motivate me to do ****.
If I can't motivate myself to get **** done on my own then I wouldn't deserve somebody who has it together enough to do that on their own either. Unless you want a co-dependant ****storm of a relationship. That is a very parent child scenario.
that seems like a loy of pressure to put on yourself. Sure you deserve somebody. There are lots of people with problems and issues that have someone. Why shoudn't people with SA?
it certainly helps. Everything else seems miniscule when you have somebody to care about and who cares about you. It makes me feel like I'm building towards something instead of just trying to get through the day.
Most of the time I can't even be bothered to try and meet my potential, or to be the best that I can be, really. But disappointing someone that I care about? That kinda bothers me.
I really don't think codependent relationships are as bad as they're made out to be, either. (I draw the line at giving into self-destruction) I mean, doesn't every relationship has some level of codependency going on?
I dunno.. I guess I've always been a believer in the whole yin/yang theory.
Nope. Actually I found having a g/f to be quite draining at times...though she was very dependant, so thats probally why it was exhausting.
...but my answer is still no. I can take care of myself just fine.
So you'd like somebody to keep an eye on you, slap your hand when you touch the hot stove, and fool around with you, but no emotions? Yep, sounds like a typical guy to me. Good luck. Those girls are out there, but I think you'll find it actually WAS better being single, even if you don't see it now. Gets too messy. Never ends well.
HELL NO! As much as I can see how it would keep you more focused on real life issues and tasks the fakeness and unwanted intimacy would be too much to handle for me. I could have gone down this route last summer, and while I can't speak from experience because we didn't last that long I know it would have been a horrible mistake.
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