Social Anxiety Support

Girl_Loner · 10-18-2009, 04:46 PM

I had been thinking of this challenge for a while now,
and now I've done it.

I caught a train into the city waiting at the station was scary since I don't really live in a fantastic area. But once I was on the train it was great
seeing all the graffiti and painted characters and people. Once it got into town I walked around went into a magazine store read some art mags.
Bought some cute girl things, asked the retail girl some questions about the stock.
She had forgotten the security tag and the alarm went off as I tried to leave. Seemed more funny than embarrassing.

Bought some sneakers, chatted kinda awkwardly to a friend of a friend who works there. But I talked!

Bought a coffee, (usually get someone to do that for me)
drank it alone in the store (would normally hate doing that)

Then went to my appointment at a fancy hairsalon
^
this would have been a mission in itself for me, feeling like everyone
is thinking I am in the wrong place. Not good enough to be there etc.

Got my hair done, very happy with it. I am never cutting my own hair again haha. Anxiety or not I'm going back there..guess my vanity is stronger? lol

Train-ed back home

The end/beginning

RaSwa · 10-18-2009, 05:31 PM

Thats awesome! sounds like you have made some major steps forward! I'm sure your hair looks great, and congrats on the whole store alarm thing I would have had a mild heart attack and be flushed red in .3 seconds flat!

Have fun in the city again!

Catching Fire · 10-18-2009, 05:46 PM

That's awesome going into the city alone is not easy.

fictionz · 10-19-2009, 12:13 AM

That is great! Reading it alone I am sure it must have felt great to be able to do that on your own. It is never easy when you thought you could never do those things, but you still managed to.

Me too, I hope to always be able to do things on my own. They are always taking me a step further in my life, even when other people think they are just ordinary things that anyone could do.

strawberryjulius · 10-19-2009, 12:41 AM

Congrats!

Breakfast0fChampions · 10-19-2009, 03:43 AM

Wow, that sounds like quite a day, SA or no. I'm very happy for you!

Great job!

pita · 10-19-2009, 04:09 AM

Sounds like you had a fantastic day. Nicely done =)

mind_games · 10-19-2009, 04:15 AM

Nice going GL, esp the hair salon visit! And well done on having the coffee in the store. I normally retreat to a 'safe' place to have mine - kinda like those big cats that drag their kill into the bushes before they begin eating - hmm maybe they have SA too

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Got my hair done, very happy with it. I am never cutting my own hair again haha. Anxiety or not I'm going back there..guess my vanity is stronger? lol

Could be, or maybe .. you're more confident than you give yourself credit for

solasum · 10-19-2009, 02:34 PM

Congratulations! And I'm jealous about the train thing. Where I live, I have to drive everywhere. Hell, I'd have to walk 15 miles just to get to the nearest bus stop.

Girl_Loner · 10-19-2009, 07:36 PM

Thanks guys

, it sounds really dorky but it's nice to have people
to share my achievements with.

Other people in my life just wouldnt understand how
much of a big deal it was to me.

Thanks again
x

sadfox · 10-19-2009, 07:42 PM

good going iv not been out 4 days now but ill try to today get some food use self service checkout though

millenniumman75 · 10-19-2009, 09:37 PM

Not bad

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itdoesntmatter · 10-21-2009, 11:32 AM

Everytime I'm in public, I think people are looking at me and snickering, thinking how hideous I am. I feel like I'm too ugly to live... My life consists of waking up at 1 p.m., wasting time on the computer (exhibit A), watching TV, or washing the dishes...and when I'm REALLY feeling brave and frisky, I'll go to the mailbox and see if I received anything from Welfare. Boy, my life is sooo exciting. I am almost 22 years old and do I LOVE my life. *sarcasm* -_- ...I can't live like this anymore.... I'm useless. I see nobody throughout the day and nobody sees me. I spend my life in a darkened basement (which is where my apartment is located), and I do nothing. I'm so sick of this computer, the TV, the kitchen, the bathroom, my room... I can't believe my life has come to this. If only I had a job, but that's impossible. I've realized that after three long years of searching.

All of this has to do with the fact that I'm too afraid to show myself to the world. I'm scared to take a walk around my block, that's how bad it is. I make other people run my life for me. I'm like a slave. "Oh dear, what will people think of me if I go out in these sweatpants and not enough makeup?!" Sh*t like that.

forever_dreamer · 10-25-2009, 12:16 PM

Congrats! I don't live in a fantastic area either and in high school I used to take the bus home from school and walk home (until dad retired my senior year) so I don't know what the big deal is (ok besides the fact that an old man who seemed to be intoxicated approached me once and I saw another man walking around with a wooden stick and a female-probably both high on something and he seemed like he wanted to pound someone with the stick so I kept my distance lol that was scary) ok I kinda see what the big deal is now lol but I went into stores by myself and I'm pretty sure I can go out by myself. I actually sort of feel like going out by myself now but maybe some day I'll be brave.

I admire your bravery!

Akira90125 · 10-25-2009, 07:35 PM

wow you must be quite the optimist seeing your going to the city as a positive step. if i did that i probably wouldn't acknowledge it as such, good job!

bwidger85 · 10-25-2009, 07:51 PM

Yes, very nice job! It's always nice to hear of people doing things like this to overcome their problems. If you keep it up I'm sure things will get easier for you

10-18-2009, 04:46 PM	#1 (permalink)
Girl_Loner Status: SAS Member Join Date: Mar 2009 Location: Cardboard Box Gender: Female Posts: 524	Went to the City by myself. I had been thinking of this challenge for a while now, and now I've done it. I caught a train into the city waiting at the station was scary since I don't really live in a fantastic area. But once I was on the train it was great seeing all the graffiti and painted characters and people. Once it got into town I walked around went into a magazine store read some art mags. Bought some cute girl things, asked the retail girl some questions about the stock. She had forgotten the security tag and the alarm went off as I tried to leave. Seemed more funny than embarrassing. Bought some sneakers, chatted kinda awkwardly to a friend of a friend who works there. But I talked! Bought a coffee, (usually get someone to do that for me) drank it alone in the store (would normally hate doing that) Then went to my appointment at a fancy hairsalon ^ this would have been a mission in itself for me, feeling like everyone is thinking I am in the wrong place. Not good enough to be there etc. Got my hair done, very happy with it. I am never cutting my own hair again haha. Anxiety or not I'm going back there..guess my vanity is stronger? lol Train-ed back home The end/beginning

10-18-2009, 05:46 PM	#3 (permalink)
Catching Fire Status: SAS Member Join Date: Apr 2009 Gender: Male Posts: 454	That's awesome going into the city alone is not easy. __________________ No chains on my feet but Im not free- Bob Marley

10-19-2009, 12:13 AM	#4 (permalink)
fictionz Status: SAS Member Join Date: Nov 2006 Location: somewhere out there Age: 21 Posts: 89	That is great! Reading it alone I am sure it must have felt great to be able to do that on your own. It is never easy when you thought you could never do those things, but you still managed to. Me too, I hope to always be able to do things on my own. They are always taking me a step further in my life, even when other people think they are just ordinary things that anyone could do. __________________ You're always capable.

10-19-2009, 12:41 AM	#5 (permalink)
strawberryjulius Status: ^_^ Join Date: Jun 2009 Location: Australia Gender: Female Age: 18 Posts: 1,569	Congrats! __________________ Last.fm▪Anime "And if you've been let down, it might not be the last time. Cheer up, it will hurt much less tomorrow. We're all tired of **ing up and that's not just being sorry. It means brush the dirt off, get up and try again." NaNoWriMo Word Count: 470/50,000**

10-19-2009, 03:43 AM	#6 (permalink)
Breakfast0fChampions Status: Resist. Unlearn. Defy. Join Date: Feb 2009 Location: In My Tree Gender: Female Age: 21 Posts: 674	Wow, that sounds like quite a day, SA or no. I'm very happy for you! Great job! __________________ I'mma do the things that I wanna do I ain't got a thing to prove to you - Weezer, Pork and Beans Had my eyes peeled both wide open, and I got a glimpse Of my innocence... got back my inner sense... Baby got it, still got it - Pearl Jam, In My Tree Facebook - SuperBetter! A multi-player way to beat SA - Writerly

10-18-2009, 05:31 PM	#2 (permalink)
RaSwa Status: SAS Member Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: USA Gender: Female Age: 21 Posts: 19	Thats awesome! sounds like you have made some major steps forward! I'm sure your hair looks great, and congrats on the whole store alarm thing I would have had a mild heart attack and be flushed red in .3 seconds flat! Have fun in the city again!

10-19-2009, 04:09 AM	#7 (permalink)
pita Status: SAS Member Join Date: Jan 2004 Gender: Female Posts: 2,171	Sounds like you had a fantastic day. Nicely done =)

10-19-2009, 02:34 PM	#9 (permalink)
solasum Status: SAS Member Join Date: Nov 2008 Location: Louisville, Kentucky Posts: 914	Congratulations! And I'm jealous about the train thing. Where I live, I have to drive everywhere. Hell, I'd have to walk 15 miles just to get to the nearest bus stop.

10-19-2009, 07:36 PM	#10 (permalink)
Girl_Loner Status: SAS Member Join Date: Mar 2009 Location: Cardboard Box Gender: Female Posts: 524	Thanks guys , it sounds really dorky but it's nice to have people to share my achievements with. Other people in my life just wouldnt understand how much of a big deal it was to me. Thanks again x

10-19-2009, 07:42 PM	#11 (permalink)
sadfox Status: SAS Member Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: hamilton scotland Gender: Male Posts: 78	good going iv not been out 4 days now but ill try to today get some food use self service checkout though

10-19-2009, 09:37 PM	#12 (permalink)
millenniumman75 Status: Super Moderator Join Date: Feb 2005 Location: Dayton-Cincinnati, OH Gender: Male Age: 34 Posts: 38,669	Not bad . __________________ millenniumman75 You are a success story waiting to happen! Live and let live VACUUMS more than a Hoover.... Live and HELP live is better!

10-21-2009, 11:32 AM	#13 (permalink)
itdoesntmatter Status: SAS Member Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: Nowhere. Gender: Female Posts: 5	Everytime I'm in public, I think people are looking at me and snickering, thinking how hideous I am. I feel like I'm too ugly to live... My life consists of waking up at 1 p.m., wasting time on the computer (exhibit A), watching TV, or washing the dishes...and when I'm REALLY feeling brave and frisky, I'll go to the mailbox and see if I received anything from Welfare. Boy, my life is sooo exciting. I am almost 22 years old and do I LOVE my life. sarcasm -_- ...I can't live like this anymore.... I'm useless. I see nobody throughout the day and nobody sees me. I spend my life in a darkened basement (which is where my apartment is located), and I do nothing. I'm so sick of this computer, the TV, the kitchen, the bathroom, my room... I can't believe my life has come to this. If only I had a job, but that's impossible. I've realized that after three long years of searching. All of this has to do with the fact that I'm too afraid to show myself to the world. I'm scared to take a walk around my block, that's how bad it is. I make other people run my life for me. I'm like a slave. "Oh dear, what will people think of me if I go out in these sweatpants and not enough makeup?!" Sh*t like that.

10-25-2009, 12:16 PM	#14 (permalink)
forever_dreamer Status: SAS Member Join Date: Jul 2008 Location: Dreamland ; ) Gender: Female Posts: 291	Congrats! I don't live in a fantastic area either and in high school I used to take the bus home from school and walk home (until dad retired my senior year) so I don't know what the big deal is (ok besides the fact that an old man who seemed to be intoxicated approached me once and I saw another man walking around with a wooden stick and a female-probably both high on something and he seemed like he wanted to pound someone with the stick so I kept my distance lol that was scary) ok I kinda see what the big deal is now lol but I went into stores by myself and I'm pretty sure I can go out by myself. I actually sort of feel like going out by myself now but maybe some day I'll be brave. I admire your bravery! __________________ "The purpose of life is for you to grow up into the best human being you can be." -Barbara De Angelis, Secrets About Life Every Woman Should Know "When my eyes are closed, dreams and reality are the same"-Utada Hikaru "In my room" excerpt (English translation)

10-25-2009, 07:35 PM	#15 (permalink)
Akira90125 Status: SAS Member Join Date: Jun 2009 Location: Bloomingdale, IL Gender: Male Posts: 74	wow you must be quite the optimist seeing your going to the city as a positive step. if i did that i probably wouldn't acknowledge it as such, good job!

10-25-2009, 07:51 PM	#16 (permalink)
bwidger85 Status: SAS Member Join Date: Nov 2005 Location: Ohio Gender: Male Age: 24 Posts: 706	Yes, very nice job! It's always nice to hear of people doing things like this to overcome their problems. If you keep it up I'm sure things will get easier for you __________________ Album #3 (download my complete third album as it is right now!)