Social Anxiety Support

CrashMedicate · 10-19-2009, 06:11 AM

At work today I said Hi to a few people (before they said hi to me).

Some people will say hi back, some people won't acknowledge that your greeting was directed at them, and some people will make small talk with you.

One lady I said Hi to kept chatting with me all day and being very friendly. I avoided a lot of anxiety during the conversations by remembering to smile, laugh, and keep the conversation about her. It worked.

What this teaches me: You have to give an inch to get two inches. Extend yourself to enough people and a friend will pop up before you know it.

This is by no means a monumental achievement, but as a beginner I take a lot of pride in this small step.

rcapo89 · 10-19-2009, 07:06 AM

Hey its great to hear that you're attempting to overcome your anxiety.

Makaveli · 10-19-2009, 08:37 AM

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Originally Posted by CrashMedicate

At work today I said Hi to a few people (before they said hi to me).

Some people will say hi back, some people won't acknowledge that your greeting was directed at them, and some people will make small talk with you.

One lady I said Hi to kept chatting with me all day and being very friendly. I avoided a lot of anxiety during the conversations by remembering to smile, laugh, and keep the conversation about her. It worked.

What this teaches me: You have to give an inch to get two inches. Extend yourself to enough people and a friend will pop up before you know it.

This is by no means a monumental achievement, but as a beginner I take a lot of pride in this small step.

Congrats.

It's great that you remembered to smile, laugh and maintain interest. Good on you! Was this a practice task from therapy by any chance?

jellybelly · 10-19-2009, 11:02 AM

That's a great baby step

moxosis · 10-19-2009, 11:34 AM

Good for you, thats shows that it is important to practice these thing to get control of anxiety. Good news

CrashMedicate · 10-19-2009, 01:34 PM

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Originally Posted by Makaveli

Congrats.

It's great that you remembered to smile, laugh and maintain interest. Good on you! Was this a practice task from therapy by any chance?

Actually this is something I learned by watching some videos on Youtube about social skills and communicating.

From what I've learned, smiling shows the other person that you're comfortable around them, and they'll in turn be comfortable around you. Laughing does this even more. Also, it's always good to take a sincere interest in the other person, because people love to talk about themselves. If you can do this you'll notice that they do most of the talking and you just have to listen and respond. It makes it really easy sometimes.

I watched a video called "how to make friends." They ask: what is a friend? Someone who takes interest in who you are. So to make a friend you have to be a friend. Take interest in the other person and be very sincere about it. If you fake it they will know and will resent you for it.

Girl_Loner · 10-19-2009, 07:39 PM

Very brave, good work

Makaveli · 10-21-2009, 09:05 AM

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Originally Posted by CrashMedicate

Actually this is something I learned by watching some videos on Youtube about social skills and communicating.

From what I've learned, smiling shows the other person that you're comfortable around them, and they'll in turn be comfortable around you. Laughing does this even more. Also, it's always good to take a sincere interest in the other person, because people love to talk about themselves. If you can do this you'll notice that they do most of the talking and you just have to listen and respond. It makes it really easy sometimes.

I watched a video called "how to make friends." They ask: what is a friend? Someone who takes interest in who you are. So to make a friend you have to be a friend. Take interest in the other person and be very sincere about it. If you fake it they will know and will resent you for it.

I guess that's why I'm good at making friends because I initiate the convos but the r'ships dissipate once I don't follow through with meet ups and being myself.

10-19-2009, 06:11 AM	#1 (permalink)
CrashMedicate Status: Racing through life Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: Riiiight here. Gender: Male Age: 24 Posts: 205	Took some baby steps today At work today I said Hi to a few people (before they said hi to me). Some people will say hi back, some people won't acknowledge that your greeting was directed at them, and some people will make small talk with you. One lady I said Hi to kept chatting with me all day and being very friendly. I avoided a lot of anxiety during the conversations by remembering to smile, laugh, and keep the conversation about her. It worked. What this teaches me: You have to give an inch to get two inches. Extend yourself to enough people and a friend will pop up before you know it. This is by no means a monumental achievement, but as a beginner I take a lot of pride in this small step.

10-19-2009, 07:06 AM	#2 (permalink)
rcapo89 Status: Exploring the moon Europa Join Date: Jun 2009 Location: Georgia (northeast of Atlanta) Gender: Male Age: 20 Posts: 840	Hey its great to hear that you're attempting to overcome your anxiety. __________________ I see the world being slowly transformed into a wilderness, I hear the approaching thunder that, one day, will destroy us too. I feel the suffering of millions. And yet, when I look up at the sky, I somehow feel that everything will change for the better, that this cruelty too shall end, that peace and tranquility will return once more. - Anne Frank

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moxosis Status: Lone Wolf Join Date: Aug 2009 Location: ''' Gender: Male Posts: 137	Good for you, thats shows that it is important to practice these thing to get control of anxiety. Good news __________________

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jellybelly Status: SAS Member Join Date: May 2009 Location: uk Gender: Female Posts: 270	That's a great baby step

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Girl_Loner Status: SAS Member Join Date: Mar 2009 Location: Cardboard Box Gender: Female Posts: 524	Very brave, good work