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Mehitabel · 06-27-2007, 07:10 AM

I am finally making some progress! My psychologist is my hero. He told me to disassociate myself from my sister. Basically disown her. She's very verbally abusive and can be physically abusive, so just being around her makes me feel super vulnerable. Then I try to socialize while I feel crazy vulnerable, and it just doesn't work. I spent about a week avoiding my sister at all costs. Only talking to her when completely necessary, leaving the room when she comes in... I was being civil, just not friendly.

And holy crap I felt so much better! After doing this I actually spontaneously went outside in the rain. With no makeup, no music, messy hair, clothes I just randomly grabbed without even thinking about, and splashed in puddles! I only gave a momentary thought to what people might be thinking about me. It just went "I wonder if people are looking through that window... does it matter? I don't know who they are, I'm never going to meet them."

And then walking back to my house, completely soaked, hair and clothes all ruffled up, I said hi to someone before they even acknowledged I was there! It amazed me how if you do one thing, it gives you the confidence to do more and more.

This is the best I've felt in a LONG time!

winduptoy · 06-27-2007, 08:03 AM

That's so awesome! Playing in the rain is fun.

I'm glad you're making progress.

mindfulgirl · 06-27-2007, 06:04 PM

That's awesome! Congratulations!!!

millenniumman75 · 06-27-2007, 10:12 PM

Way to go, Mehitabel!

vold · 06-30-2007, 05:16 PM

I'm glad your'e making progress

keep up the good work

Noca · 07-01-2007, 03:37 AM

Way to go Bent!

06-27-2007, 07:10 AM	#1 (permalink)
Mehitabel Status: SAS Member Join Date: Oct 2006 Location: NS, Canada Posts: 917	Progress! Sweet progress! I am finally making some progress! My psychologist is my hero. He told me to disassociate myself from my sister. Basically disown her. She's very verbally abusive and can be physically abusive, so just being around her makes me feel super vulnerable. Then I try to socialize while I feel crazy vulnerable, and it just doesn't work. I spent about a week avoiding my sister at all costs. Only talking to her when completely necessary, leaving the room when she comes in... I was being civil, just not friendly. And holy crap I felt so much better! After doing this I actually spontaneously went outside in the rain. With no makeup, no music, messy hair, clothes I just randomly grabbed without even thinking about, and splashed in puddles! I only gave a momentary thought to what people might be thinking about me. It just went "I wonder if people are looking through that window... does it matter? I don't know who they are, I'm never going to meet them." And then walking back to my house, completely soaked, hair and clothes all ruffled up, I said hi to someone before they even acknowledged I was there! It amazed me how if you do one thing, it gives you the confidence to do more and more. This is the best I've felt in a LONG time!

06-27-2007, 08:03 AM	#2 (permalink)
winduptoy Status: SAS Member Join Date: Jun 2005 Location: CA Age: 27 Posts: 297	re: Progress! Sweet progress! That's so awesome! Playing in the rain is fun. I'm glad you're making progress. __________________ Don't miss your chance to swim in mystery.

06-27-2007, 06:04 PM	#3 (permalink)
mindfulgirl Status: SAS Member Join Date: May 2007 Location: Toronto, ON Age: 33 Posts: 449	re: Progress! Sweet progress! That's awesome! Congratulations!!! __________________ "Our greatest glory is not in never falling, but in rising every time we fall." ~ Confucius "What if we allow our fear to provoke us into action? Can facing our fear be what walks us to somewhere better?" ~ Jessica Simpson, May 25, 2007

06-27-2007, 10:12 PM	#4 (permalink)
millenniumman75 Status: Mentor Join Date: Feb 2005 Location: Dayton, OH Gender: Male Age: 37 Posts: 91,697	Way to go, Mehitabel! __________________ millenniumman75 You are a success story waiting to happen! Live and let live VACUUMS more than a Hoover.... Live and HELP live is better! TROLL ALERT STATUS: CHAT -> BERT FORUMS -> ERNIE (troll activity on the increase) WATCH WHAT YOU TYPE!

06-30-2007, 05:16 PM	#5 (permalink)
vold Status: SAS Member Join Date: Jul 2006 Location: 24/m/Planet Earth Age: 30 Posts: 63	I'm glad your'e making progress keep up the good work __________________ We are all put to the test, but it never comes in the form or at the point we would prefer. (From the movie, The Edge)

07-01-2007, 03:37 AM	#6 (permalink)
Noca Status: Spectacular Member Join Date: Jun 2005 Location: Ontario Gender: Male Age: 26 Posts: 15,068	Way to go Bent! __________________ I is/was Dr. House, hi! “There is a cult of ignorance in the United States, and there has always been. The strain of anti-intellectualism has been a constant thread winding its way through our political and cultural life, nurtured by the false notion that democracy means that "my ignorance is just as good as your knowledge."” --Isaac Asimov Very soon what will be considered news in America, is a day without a spree shooting.

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