Join Date: Oct 2005
Re: Overcoming feeling judged
[quote="seagreen16"]I was thinking yesterday that the way to overcome feeling judged by others is to stop letting other people judge you. That means that you no longer allow other people to judge you because you don't put yourself out for judgement. It's like saying that I don't care how you will judge me because I no longer share those judgements of myself so whatever you think of me won't hurt me anymore. You are simply no longer a person who accepts judgements from other people, especially people who (a) don't know you, (b) don't respect you, (c) don't appreciate or like you, (d) don't care about you, (e) anyone else. Just tell yourself that, "I'm no longer accepting judgements from other people", and what matters is what I think of myself and not other people who don't care about me or treat me well. I'm only accept things from people who are (a) kind to me (b) respectful to me (c) understand me (d) like or appreciate me, (e) anyone else who treats me well or makes me feel good in their presence.
I liked and whole heartedly agree with what you have said!!!! To me what you are talking about is boundaries, how I am willing to let people treat me. When I have respect for myself I don't let others dis-respect me. What comes to mind is that saying "good fences make good neighbors", in this case I would say that "good and healthy boundaries make for good and healthy relationships"??? (or at least the possibility)
Also you talked about worth coming from inside rather than from trying to prove to others our worth, yes yes and yes!!!!!!!
At the end of your post you said that you didn't think that you were going to be understood by a lot of people, I don't know if that is true, I think I understand and like I've already said I really really agree!!!!!!!
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