Social Anxiety Support

CrystalMaid · 03-16-2010, 12:16 AM

Heya,

The past 3 weeks have been amazing. Kinda everything I've longed for for so long, and it's pretty much going well!

1. Met a genuine person with so many similar values and interests, who's also looking for a real relationship with a caring person, that can go somewhere... (Friday Week 0) AND after a week of chatting online he asked me out.

2. Had an amazing first date after chatting for a week every day (Friday Week 1). He liked me and asked me on the second date during the date. We laughed and talked easily and held hands. And it was comfortable.

3. I spontaneously invited him for a swim (Monday night) although after traffic we knew it would have to be a twilight or evening swim. It was brief and romantic, yet nothing happened except it was really beautiful. Then we hung out having drinks and holding hands again and playing darts and laughing with other people.

4. Tuesday, Week 1: Although he'd invited me to a concert that coming Saturday, he asked me what I was doing Wednesday, cos he said he wanted to ask me to dinner or drinks. Luckily I was busy with a course every Wed night, so we arranged to meet up for drinks before my course.

5. Meet for drinks on Wednesday, Week 1. It was incredibly romantic and again very comfortable and fun. He's still happy to see me and by now has told me he likes me many times (starting at the first date). It's so awesome that someone can show feelings and not play games and that it's ME who's on the receiving (and giving) end of this...

6. So now I"m not only going from a first date to a 2nd date a week later, but now he's asked me out to a 3rd date AND then also says he wants to see me on the Friday, so that's most of the week

And we are still chatting online every day.

7. We end up hanging out the entire weekend and I meet his cousin and she likes me. I'm very happy about that. Saturday, week 1: He meets some of my friends, that goes really well. Then we go to an amazing concert and I meet his friends there. They like me and I like them.

8. I can't even remember the next week but pretty much: Tuesday, Week 2: we hang out on my side of the world. Wednesday: we hang out on his side of the world and again meet with my friends for drinks. Thursday to Sunday we are together every evening and the whole weekend. The weekend was epic.

9. Friday night, Week 2: We meet his friends and cousin at a cool pub and just chill chatting there. Later we go to a small place where we can all chill and stuff. The friends tell me how much he likes me and what a good guy he is, and that they also like me and so on. This makes me really happy. I actually manage to be funny and playful and stuff around so that there are even a few stories to tell from the evening. In fact I had a lot to do with us going out to the 2nd place. =)

10. Saturday, Week 2: After getting to bed around 05h00 on Fri night / sat morning, then hanging out watching series and stuff on Saturday, his friends come round on Sat eve for a barbeque, and we hang out talking sh*t and listening to music (much of it mine).

11. Sunday, Week 2: I'm invited to meet some of his family. Wow. To his nephew's birthday party. He's great with kids. Although I have very little experience of them I love to see someone being warm and playful and treating them like the little people they are. His mother and brother seem to like me and I like them.

Then we meet his friends to see a movie. I also invited two of my friends so now the friends are meeting the friends. This made me very happy. Not only did they all get along great, but it turned out he was related to my friend's boyfriend's sister, whose fiance is his cousin.

This is like this wondrous alternate sociable life I've always longed for!!!

Truly it's amazing to me to be part of stuff like this after being isolated for so long.

After the movie we all go for drinks and end up hanging out there for ages, again just chatting and laughing.

12. Monday, Week 3: We hang out on his side of the world, and again it is good. This is someone I can be really comfortable with who seems to share my feelings.

----------

So to like and be liked, it is wondrous.

I hope I can keep it together and stay focused on others' feelings and making others happy and being brave enough to show myself. Even though I don't have a job yet and I have a lot of problems and pressures and I still have rampant SA.

Because my god this is everything I want.

Neptunus · 03-16-2010, 12:38 AM

That's great, CrystalMaid! Sounds like everything is moving along smoothly.

Best of luck to you!

WineKitty · 03-16-2010, 12:42 AM

Congrats to you, sounds like its going great! I truly hope it continues on a great course for you and you sound very happy. Good for you!

haikupoet · 03-16-2010, 10:06 AM

Sounds like you are making progress!

leonardess · 03-16-2010, 10:18 AM

that is amazing, I'm so happy for you! that's really wonderful, you're doing so well.

Indigo Flow · 03-16-2010, 10:32 AM

Thats so cool, i loved reading about everything your doing, sounds like a good guy

03-16-2010, 12:16 AM	#1 (permalink)
CrystalMaid Status: SAS Member Join Date: Feb 2010 Gender: Female Posts: 68	Love and Friendship seem really near! Heya, The past 3 weeks have been amazing. Kinda everything I've longed for for so long, and it's pretty much going well! 1. Met a genuine person with so many similar values and interests, who's also looking for a real relationship with a caring person, that can go somewhere... (Friday Week 0) AND after a week of chatting online he asked me out. 2. Had an amazing first date after chatting for a week every day (Friday Week 1). He liked me and asked me on the second date during the date. We laughed and talked easily and held hands. And it was comfortable. 3. I spontaneously invited him for a swim (Monday night) although after traffic we knew it would have to be a twilight or evening swim. It was brief and romantic, yet nothing happened except it was really beautiful. Then we hung out having drinks and holding hands again and playing darts and laughing with other people. 4. Tuesday, Week 1: Although he'd invited me to a concert that coming Saturday, he asked me what I was doing Wednesday, cos he said he wanted to ask me to dinner or drinks. Luckily I was busy with a course every Wed night, so we arranged to meet up for drinks before my course. 5. Meet for drinks on Wednesday, Week 1. It was incredibly romantic and again very comfortable and fun. He's still happy to see me and by now has told me he likes me many times (starting at the first date). It's so awesome that someone can show feelings and not play games and that it's ME who's on the receiving (and giving) end of this... 6. So now I"m not only going from a first date to a 2nd date a week later, but now he's asked me out to a 3rd date AND then also says he wants to see me on the Friday, so that's most of the week And we are still chatting online every day. 7. We end up hanging out the entire weekend and I meet his cousin and she likes me. I'm very happy about that. Saturday, week 1: He meets some of my friends, that goes really well. Then we go to an amazing concert and I meet his friends there. They like me and I like them. 8. I can't even remember the next week but pretty much: Tuesday, Week 2: we hang out on my side of the world. Wednesday: we hang out on his side of the world and again meet with my friends for drinks. Thursday to Sunday we are together every evening and the whole weekend. The weekend was epic. 9. Friday night, Week 2: We meet his friends and cousin at a cool pub and just chill chatting there. Later we go to a small place where we can all chill and stuff. The friends tell me how much he likes me and what a good guy he is, and that they also like me and so on. This makes me really happy. I actually manage to be funny and playful and stuff around so that there are even a few stories to tell from the evening. In fact I had a lot to do with us going out to the 2nd place. =) 10. Saturday, Week 2: After getting to bed around 05h00 on Fri night / sat morning, then hanging out watching series and stuff on Saturday, his friends come round on Sat eve for a barbeque, and we hang out talking sh*t and listening to music (much of it mine). 11. Sunday, Week 2: I'm invited to meet some of his family. Wow. To his nephew's birthday party. He's great with kids. Although I have very little experience of them I love to see someone being warm and playful and treating them like the little people they are. His mother and brother seem to like me and I like them. Then we meet his friends to see a movie. I also invited two of my friends so now the friends are meeting the friends. This made me very happy. Not only did they all get along great, but it turned out he was related to my friend's boyfriend's sister, whose fiance is his cousin. This is like this wondrous alternate sociable life I've always longed for!!! Truly it's amazing to me to be part of stuff like this after being isolated for so long. After the movie we all go for drinks and end up hanging out there for ages, again just chatting and laughing. 12. Monday, Week 3: We hang out on his side of the world, and again it is good. This is someone I can be really comfortable with who seems to share my feelings. ---------- So to like and be liked, it is wondrous. I hope I can keep it together and stay focused on others' feelings and making others happy and being brave enough to show myself. Even though I don't have a job yet and I have a lot of problems and pressures and I still have rampant SA. Because my god this is everything I want.

03-16-2010, 12:38 AM	#2 (permalink)
Neptunus Status: Makin' Waves Join Date: Oct 2007 Location: In a Sea of Emotions. Gender: Female Posts: 6,974	That's great, CrystalMaid! Sounds like everything is moving along smoothly. Best of luck to you! __________________ "The past is just that - the past. What point is there in being unhappy, just because once you were unhappy?" "Click" the smilies <---------> "You only get what you give!" * http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vbMMF3IJgJ4

03-16-2010, 10:06 AM	#4 (permalink)
haikupoet Status: awake at midnight Join Date: Feb 2010 Location: Where four sushi bars meet on a corner Gender: Male Posts: 362	Sounds like you are making progress! __________________ Awakened at midnight by the sound of the water jar cracking from the ice -- Basho (Hamill) "People see me / I'm a challenge / to your balance" -- Wonder, Natalie Merchant

03-16-2010, 10:32 AM	#6 (permalink)
Indigo Flow Status: Super M0derator Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: Garden of Eden Gender: Female Posts: 916	Thats so cool, i loved reading about everything your doing, sounds like a good guy __________________ I was a child and she was a child In this kingdom by the sea But we loved with a love that was more than love I and my Annabel Lee Formspring "when in doubt, whip it out" - sda0 "Noodz plz" - flyingspatula so, how about them dodgers?...

Similar Threads
Thread	Thread Starter	Forum	Replies	Last Post
Add me on msn - for friendship or love perhaps.... LOL.	kathy903	Social Anxiety Friends and Connections	4	12-01-2008 07:38 PM
I can't do this any more (friendship)	Gerard	Frustration	4	07-24-2008 03:01 PM
Friendship	Amelia	General Discussion	1	02-06-2008 07:07 AM
I love social anxiet it feels good an u love it too!	aka dru	Just For Fun	40	07-15-2007 04:50 AM
What is a friendship like?	Molydeus	Secondary Disorders	10	05-21-2007 08:27 PM

03-16-2010, 12:42 AM	#3 (permalink)
WineKitty Status: Permanently Banned Join Date: Nov 2004 Posts: 10,985	Congrats to you, sounds like its going great! I truly hope it continues on a great course for you and you sound very happy. Good for you!

03-16-2010, 10:18 AM	#5 (permalink)
leonardess Status: User Requested Ban - Temporary Join Date: Jun 2009 Location: a palace made of cheese in Monterey, Jack Gender: Female Age: 46 Posts: 4,912	that is amazing, I'm so happy for you! that's really wonderful, you're doing so well.