Social Anxiety Support

Paper Samurai · 10-29-2009, 04:44 PM

Well that's what is feels like anyway progress wise.

I attended the anime society at my university (geeky I know

) and although I was bricking myself before entering the room - it took me a couple of minutes to actually build up the courage to enter, I actually overcame it for once and enjoyed myself. After some akward moments initially conversation wise, I managed to have some quite good small talk with a few people. I even managed to have a long conversation with quite a cute girl there too - which for me is unheard of. The cuter the girl, the worse my anxiety.

I'm really pleased that I managed to maintain eye contact alot during this as well.

Straight away afterwards, a friend that I know from back home invited me to a random movie night at his flat. He had a friend of his own there, but thankfully 2 people, dark room, one of which I know very well meant my anxiety was minimal. I was able to crack some jokes and really enjoy myself there as well.

All in all, a great evening, I haven't felt this happy in ages to be honest. If you guys get an opportunity to socialise, please take it no matter how many doubts you have. I was really debating with myself whether to even bother this evening, but I'm glad I did in the end. This quote that I read recently sums it up:
'If you don't play the game; you can't lose, but you also can't win.'

Thank you for reading.

gold132 · 10-29-2009, 06:45 PM

well done

millenniumman75 · 10-29-2009, 07:09 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Paper Samurai

'If you don't play the game; you can't lose, but you also can't win.'

Thank you for reading.

True.
....and thank you for posting!

JMX · 10-29-2009, 07:13 PM

Very nice. I find this post inspirational. I recently did something similar to this (minus the cute girl part, so more power to you lol) by going to the "Taste of Japan" event held by a university club. I was eating by myself, but a couple guys sat in front of me at the same table, and I managed to start the conversation myself. It's easy, really. The only bad part of it is thinking about having the conversation before actually having it.

marenubium87 · 10-29-2009, 11:48 PM

First, congrats! Sounded like an awesome night. And y'know, so maybe anime is geeky. Who cares? It's something you enjoy and in the end, it's all that matters. Geeks are awesome - because they're passionate about things. Better than the alternative.

Quote:

Originally Posted by Paper Samurai

'If you don't play the game; you can't lose, but you also can't win.'

Reminds me of Wayne Gretzky: "You miss 100% of the shots you don't take."

papaSmurf · 10-30-2009, 01:25 AM

WHOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO......*cough*...*choke*...*blarg* ....WHOOOOOOOOOOOOO!

Breakfast0fChampions · 10-30-2009, 01:38 AM

Congrats to you.

Meee · 10-31-2009, 02:06 PM

Awesome. I actually went to the anime society when i was Uni for a bit.. yeah, geeky lol. Was pretty cool even if most people there voted to watch ridiculously bad series... they showed some horrible dubbed rubbish instead of Death Note ffs lol.

Kinda wish i was still at Uni, i think i'd try to join more societies etc... not really sure where to go to find groups that do stuff like that now.

Anyway, glad it went well

10-29-2009, 04:44 PM	#1 (permalink)
Paper Samurai Status: SAS Member Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: UK Gender: Male Age: 20 Posts: 126	I've Done more this evening than I've done this entire month. Well that's what is feels like anyway progress wise. I attended the anime society at my university (geeky I know ) and although I was bricking myself before entering the room - it took me a couple of minutes to actually build up the courage to enter, I actually overcame it for once and enjoyed myself. After some akward moments initially conversation wise, I managed to have some quite good small talk with a few people. I even managed to have a long conversation with quite a cute girl there too - which for me is unheard of. The cuter the girl, the worse my anxiety. I'm really pleased that I managed to maintain eye contact alot during this as well. Straight away afterwards, a friend that I know from back home invited me to a random movie night at his flat. He had a friend of his own there, but thankfully 2 people, dark room, one of which I know very well meant my anxiety was minimal. I was able to crack some jokes and really enjoy myself there as well. All in all, a great evening, I haven't felt this happy in ages to be honest. If you guys get an opportunity to socialise, please take it no matter how many doubts you have. I was really debating with myself whether to even bother this evening, but I'm glad I did in the end. This quote that I read recently sums it up: 'If you don't play the game; you can't lose, but you also can't win.' Thank you for reading. __________________ Sweet is sleep to me and even more to be of stone, While the wrong and shame endure. To be without sight or sense is a most happy change for me, therefore do not rouse me. Hush! Speak low.

10-30-2009, 01:38 AM	#7 (permalink)
Breakfast0fChampions Status: Resist. Unlearn. Defy. Join Date: Feb 2009 Location: In My Tree Gender: Female Age: 21 Posts: 671	Congrats to you. __________________ I'mma do the things that I wanna do I ain't got a thing to prove to you - Weezer, Pork and Beans Had my eyes peeled both wide open, and I got a glimpse Of my innocence... got back my inner sense... Baby got it, still got it - Pearl Jam, In My Tree Facebook - SuperBetter! A multi-player way to beat SA - Writerly

10-31-2009, 02:06 PM	#8 (permalink)
Meee Status: SAS Member Join Date: Oct 2005 Location: England Gender: Male Age: 24 Posts: 1,422	Awesome. I actually went to the anime society when i was Uni for a bit.. yeah, geeky lol. Was pretty cool even if most people there voted to watch ridiculously bad series... they showed some horrible dubbed rubbish instead of Death Note ffs lol. Kinda wish i was still at Uni, i think i'd try to join more societies etc... not really sure where to go to find groups that do stuff like that now. Anyway, glad it went well __________________ [Last.FM] [AnimeList]

10-29-2009, 06:45 PM	#2 (permalink)
gold132 Status: SAS Member Join Date: Mar 2009 Gender: Male Age: 19 Posts: 154	well done

10-29-2009, 07:13 PM	#4 (permalink)
JMX Status: SAS Member Join Date: Feb 2008 Location: Indiana Gender: Male Age: 23 Posts: 299	Very nice. I find this post inspirational. I recently did something similar to this (minus the cute girl part, so more power to you lol) by going to the "Taste of Japan" event held by a university club. I was eating by myself, but a couple guys sat in front of me at the same table, and I managed to start the conversation myself. It's easy, really. The only bad part of it is thinking about having the conversation before actually having it.

10-30-2009, 01:25 AM	#6 (permalink)
papaSmurf Status: Adrift Join Date: Jun 2008 Gender: Male Age: 20 Posts: 139	WHOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO......cough...choke...blarg ....WHOOOOOOOOOOOOO!