Social Anxiety Support

PrinceNASeem · 10-23-2009, 02:38 PM

So I FINALLY got the courage to go to an interview and, although I walked out thinking "great I blew YET ANOTHER OPPORTUNITY in my pathetic life", I GOT THE JOB! Getting the job was the first hurdle, now I have to actually show up and communicate with a bunch of new ppl in a new/awkward situation! I start Monday and I am SOOOO nervous! I have to make sure to network with as many ppl as possible at this job and make as many positive references as possible so that when I move on It wont be as hard to find a job. BUT HOW AM I GONNA DO THAT WITH MY SAD?

TorLin · 10-23-2009, 02:56 PM

YEAYYYYY!

you might laugh at the idea but put SAD outside your mind and don't think about it.

jellybelly · 10-24-2009, 03:07 AM

Congrats! Well done on getting the job and I hope it all goes great! You can do it

fruit loop · 10-24-2009, 04:01 AM

well done on getting the job and good luck I hope it goes okay.

mind_games · 10-24-2009, 04:01 AM

Well done, I hope things go well for you

leonardess · 10-24-2009, 04:23 AM

Fantastic news!!
concentrate on the fact that YOU DID THIS. You went to the interview, you got the job. YOu. If you can do that, then you can do this next step.
Focus outward, on the people around you. Really listen.

Congrats!

CrashMedicate · 10-24-2009, 04:58 AM

Congrats on landing the job!

Make an effort to extend yourself. Say Hello to everyone you pass who makes eye contact with you. Extend a handshake, a smile, and introduce yourself. If you can do this things will start to fall in place.

PrinceNASeem · 10-24-2009, 09:31 AM

Thanx everyone for your support and advice!

I recently found this forum and though I usually dont respond (due to my SAD) It has really helped me just reading what other ppl have to say and knowing that Im not alone. Its crazy how some of my difficulites have been so identical to what others have gone through.

Ive been in this downward spiral for so long, with no self-confidence/self-esteem but getting this job has helped me believe in my self a little more and If I can be succesful here and make friends at the job it'll really help me as well.

Lex Love · 10-24-2009, 09:32 AM

Congratulations on getting the job!

Its really good to hear peoples successes.

Breakfast0fChampions · 10-24-2009, 10:02 AM

Congrats.

STKinTHEmud · 10-24-2009, 01:05 PM

Good work! Remember that they hired you for a reason. This doesn't mean that you HAVE to network with everyone the first day you get there, but you COULD network with whoever you want to over the course of the few months that they expect it will take for you to get into the groove (try not to think in all-or-none terms).

PrinceNASeem · 10-25-2009, 12:43 PM

Tomorrow is the big first day and Im having SOOOO much anxiety right now! I know this is gonna be a sleepless night. Everyone that I have told is always like "OMG you must be soo excited" and Im just like yaaaaa" while on the inside im dying of anxiety. I wish I was just excited like all of the normal ppl out there :o(

Girl_Loner · 10-25-2009, 12:58 PM

Oooooooo that is great news! I'm so happy for you. It must be very scary but just keep on saying to your self they chose youu

millenniumman75 · 10-25-2009, 08:43 PM

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Originally Posted by PrinceNASeem

So I FINALLY got the courage to go to an interview and, although I walked out thinking "great I blew YET ANOTHER OPPORTUNITY in my pathetic life", I GOT THE JOB! Getting the job was the first hurdle, now I have to actually show up and communicate with a bunch of new ppl in a new/awkward situation! I start Monday and I am SOOOO nervous! I have to make sure to network with as many ppl as possible at this job and make as many positive references as possible so that when I move on It wont be as hard to find a job. BUT HOW AM I GONNA DO THAT WITH MY SAD?

We'll be here for that.....don't worry....enjoy being in the present moment and celebrate your new job! Congratulations!

cnj123 · 10-26-2009, 11:13 AM

Awesome. Just remember, as your getting acquainted with your new job and the dreaded co-workers, as you start to feel that anxiety, your mind is YOUR own, and you CAN control it with proper thoughts. Another thing I always try to remember is: "this too shall pass." Anything that helps, right?

metalgirl · 10-26-2009, 04:38 PM

Don't doubt yourself! Remember that there is obviously a reason why you got the job in the first place... Whoever interviewed you liked you and knows you can do the job!

Rixy · 10-26-2009, 04:48 PM

Hooray! Well done on getting a job

It'll get easier after a few weeks. I'm sure you'll be able to fit in

10-23-2009, 02:38 PM	#1 (permalink)
PrinceNASeem Status: ForeverLonely Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: Maryland, USA Gender: Male Posts: 7	I DiD it! So I FINALLY got the courage to go to an interview and, although I walked out thinking "great I blew YET ANOTHER OPPORTUNITY in my pathetic life", I GOT THE JOB! Getting the job was the first hurdle, now I have to actually show up and communicate with a bunch of new ppl in a new/awkward situation! I start Monday and I am SOOOO nervous! I have to make sure to network with as many ppl as possible at this job and make as many positive references as possible so that when I move on It wont be as hard to find a job. BUT HOW AM I GONNA DO THAT WITH MY SAD?

10-23-2009, 02:56 PM	#2 (permalink)
TorLin Status: MayTheForceBeWithYou Join Date: Nov 2006 Location: California Gender: Male Posts: 17,058	YEAYYYYY! you might laugh at the idea but put SAD outside your mind and don't think about it. __________________ MTFBWU (May The Force Be With You) - TORLIN AIM, MSN, YIM: T0RL1N Skype: Tor_Lin Visit me at; ToryLing.com \| LivingAnxious \| Facebook \| Myspace \| Last.fm

10-24-2009, 04:01 AM	#5 (permalink)
mind_games Status: dances, like a fridge Join Date: Nov 2008 Age: 23 Posts: 1,570	Well done, I hope things go well for you __________________ "this is not me, this is me reacting to your perception of me"

10-24-2009, 04:58 AM	#7 (permalink)
CrashMedicate Status: Racing through life Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: Riiiight here. Gender: Male Age: 24 Posts: 205	Congrats on landing the job! Make an effort to extend yourself. Say Hello to everyone you pass who makes eye contact with you. Extend a handshake, a smile, and introduce yourself. If you can do this things will start to fall in place. __________________ A man has to have goals. A man without goals is like a car without steering. You're going to crash.

10-24-2009, 10:02 AM	#10 (permalink)
Breakfast0fChampions Status: Resist. Unlearn. Defy. Join Date: Feb 2009 Location: In My Tree Gender: Female Age: 21 Posts: 674	Congrats. __________________ I'mma do the things that I wanna do I ain't got a thing to prove to you - Weezer, Pork and Beans Had my eyes peeled both wide open, and I got a glimpse Of my innocence... got back my inner sense... Baby got it, still got it - Pearl Jam, In My Tree Facebook - SuperBetter! A multi-player way to beat SA - Writerly

10-24-2009, 03:07 AM	#3 (permalink)
jellybelly Status: SAS Member Join Date: May 2009 Location: uk Gender: Female Posts: 270	Congrats! Well done on getting the job and I hope it all goes great! You can do it

10-24-2009, 04:01 AM	#4 (permalink)
fruit loop Status: SAS Member Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: essex, england. Gender: Female Posts: 18	well done on getting the job and good luck I hope it goes okay.

10-24-2009, 04:23 AM	#6 (permalink)
leonardess Status: wheresthefire?inmyeye! Join Date: Jun 2009 Location: WILL you people please leave me alone?I'm supposed to be working lol Gender: Female Age: 45 Posts: 1,231	Fantastic news!! concentrate on the fact that YOU DID THIS. You went to the interview, you got the job. YOu. If you can do that, then you can do this next step. Focus outward, on the people around you. Really listen. Congrats!

10-24-2009, 09:31 AM	#8 (permalink)
PrinceNASeem Status: ForeverLonely Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: Maryland, USA Gender: Male Posts: 7	Thanx everyone for your support and advice! I recently found this forum and though I usually dont respond (due to my SAD) It has really helped me just reading what other ppl have to say and knowing that Im not alone. Its crazy how some of my difficulites have been so identical to what others have gone through. Ive been in this downward spiral for so long, with no self-confidence/self-esteem but getting this job has helped me believe in my self a little more and If I can be succesful here and make friends at the job it'll really help me as well.

10-24-2009, 09:32 AM	#9 (permalink)
Lex Love Status: SAS Member Join Date: Oct 2009 Posts: 31	Congratulations on getting the job! Its really good to hear peoples successes.

10-24-2009, 01:05 PM	#11 (permalink)
STKinTHEmud Status: SAS Member Join Date: Jun 2009 Location: CA Gender: Male Age: 27 Posts: 357	Good work! Remember that they hired you for a reason. This doesn't mean that you HAVE to network with everyone the first day you get there, but you COULD network with whoever you want to over the course of the few months that they expect it will take for you to get into the groove (try not to think in all-or-none terms).

10-25-2009, 12:43 PM	#12 (permalink)
PrinceNASeem Status: ForeverLonely Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: Maryland, USA Gender: Male Posts: 7	Tomorrow is the big first day and Im having SOOOO much anxiety right now! I know this is gonna be a sleepless night. Everyone that I have told is always like "OMG you must be soo excited" and Im just like yaaaaa" while on the inside im dying of anxiety. I wish I was just excited like all of the normal ppl out there :o(

10-25-2009, 12:58 PM	#13 (permalink)
Girl_Loner Status: SAS Member Join Date: Mar 2009 Location: Cardboard Box Gender: Female Posts: 524	Oooooooo that is great news! I'm so happy for you. It must be very scary but just keep on saying to your self they chose youu

10-26-2009, 11:13 AM	#15 (permalink)
cnj123 Status: SAS Member Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: High Point, NC Gender: Male Posts: 3	Awesome. Just remember, as your getting acquainted with your new job and the dreaded co-workers, as you start to feel that anxiety, your mind is YOUR own, and you CAN control it with proper thoughts. Another thing I always try to remember is: "this too shall pass." Anything that helps, right?

10-26-2009, 04:38 PM	#16 (permalink)
metalgirl Status: SAS Member Join Date: Oct 2009 Posts: 3	Don't doubt yourself! Remember that there is obviously a reason why you got the job in the first place... Whoever interviewed you liked you and knows you can do the job!

10-26-2009, 04:48 PM	#17 (permalink)
Rixy Status: Falling into Guru Muhk Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: UK Gender: Male Age: 17 Posts: 217	Hooray! Well done on getting a job It'll get easier after a few weeks. I'm sure you'll be able to fit in __________________ Will you say hello to my ma? Will you pay a visit to her? She was an artist just as you were I'd have introduced you to her She would take me out on Sundays We'd go laughing through the garbage She repaired legs like a doctor On the kitchen chairs we sat on She was unhappy just as you were unhappy just as you were unhappy just as you were unhappy just as you were... -Jane's Addiction (Then She Did...)