Social Anxiety Support

greenchair · 06-30-2009, 11:52 AM

i often worry that people at school or friends, dislike me, i look for the little things that could signify that they might not like me. it is often small but things like; them not asking me to come to the canteen with them or not entering my name onto the list of friends in msn. Things like this often make me worry all night about the fact they might not like me.
I am one of the people in the class that makes people laugh and could be called the class clown. But worry that sometimes people are not laughing with me but at me.
Also if someone is quietly talking to someone else i always assume it is about me.
I try to be nice to everyone but if someone is not happy i always assume their bad mood is my fault and is directed at me.
There is one girl in school that is not liked very much and i worry that i could be just like her and people secretly hate me.
My school is also an all girls school so there is lots(and i mean LOTS) of *****ing.
Do any of you worry about this stuff too?

Uylsses · 06-30-2009, 02:31 PM

I can completely relate to that those little things worry me like that to the point of obssesion. and when people are in bad moods all I do is worry about them, and why their not happy, and if it's my fault; and I totally gget you on the class clown thing. I feel like that everyday.

Maandy · 09-04-2009, 10:14 PM

I do the exact same thing

everytime two people near by are laughing and talking I automatically assume it's about me. Especially when people are passing notes in class.

I think everyone secretly hates me. I think I'm boring and weird.

But, telling myself those thoughts are illogical and proving to myself that there is no actual REAL evidence that shows everyone hates me helps a lot.

Catching Fire · 09-05-2009, 09:33 AM

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Originally Posted by greenchair

i often worry that people at school or friends, dislike me, i look for the little things that could signify that they might not like me. it is often small but things like; them not asking me to come to the canteen with them or not entering my name onto the list of friends in msn. Things like this often make me worry all night about the fact they might not like me.
I am one of the people in the class that makes people laugh and could be called the class clown. But worry that sometimes people are not laughing with me but at me.
Also if someone is quietly talking to someone else i always assume it is about me.
I try to be nice to everyone but if someone is not happy i always assume their bad mood is my fault and is directed at me.
There is one girl in school that is not liked very much and i worry that i could be just like her and people secretly hate me.
My school is also an all girls school so there is lots(and i mean LOTS) of *****ing.
Do any of you worry about this stuff too?

I do the same thing I always worry people secretly dont like me. Its such a drain on me and makes me feel like an idiot because its so paranoid. Im also the funny guy in my group of friends and although I love telling jokes. I feel another reason I do it is to get some indication they like me.

Yverinrey · 09-12-2009, 12:29 AM

That is how I feel everyday at school. Paranoia is my worst problem, and I believe it is something that will never go away (and maybe I'm masochistic - but I don't WANT it to go away).

That's good that you're the class clown. This is just my opinion, but personally when there is a class clown-type person in class, when I laugh it is in a fond way. I find them interesting (unless they're the type who like to poke fun at people in a malicious way).

Me? I'm that girl that never talks to anyone, people think I'm stuck up and are creeped out by me. The end :P

So I envy you. I wish I could make people laugh sometimes. Whenever I joke around everyone is dead serious lol.

Sammy J · 09-12-2009, 02:40 AM

I was like that when i was at school ( i quit coz i had no friends, and it was relli uncomfortable and awkward)
people thought i wanted to bash everyone up.....i don't even know why, like i never said anything to anyone, i sat as far away at the back of the class as i could, i didn't have any friends, i would always make sure no1 could see my face and cover it with my hair, i never did my work coz i was to busy sketching out about thinking evry1 was staring at me and i would start to fidget alot and all tht. If someone did try to talk to me or something i was always very paranoid and suspicious about their intentions and if i ever make a joke about myself its more controlling the laughter at me than wanting to be funny.

anyone else heaps sketchy of peoples intentions?

kabby · 09-12-2009, 11:41 AM

I can totally relate. I feel the same way all the time and it always prevents me from making friends. I feel if I talk to them at all, they'll think I'm annoying or pushy. I'm trying to get over this, but it's really hard. I know exactly how you feel.

Yverinrey · 09-13-2009, 04:20 PM

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Originally Posted by Sammy J

anyone else heaps sketchy of peoples intentions?

*raises hand* That would be me! I am paranoid and untrusting of others and what they say/do no matter what the situation. If they are being nice, I think they're really laughing inside and will gossip about me later. If they are joking, I think they are putting me down. If they don't speak to me, I assume they hate me. The list goes on.

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Originally Posted by kabby

I can totally relate. I feel the same way all the time and it always prevents me from making friends. I feel if I talk to them at all, they'll think I'm annoying or pushy. I'm trying to get over this, but it's really hard. I know exactly how you feel.

That is what prevents me from getting close to others too. There are people I'd love tp talk more with, but I'm afraid I'd only be perceived as desperate, creepy, and annoying if I did. Yet I see others do the same, and no one ever publically rejects them (not in awhile at least). Logic tells me I'm exaggerating, but my mind says differently. Oh, this battle with our own selves...

greenchair · 11-08-2009, 07:02 AM

I also get worried A LOT about if I'm left out then it means people don't like me.
Most people would think why? But i already know the reason.
OK, here is my basic friendship account over the last 2 years:
My school is all girls so basically v. v. bitc*y.
My form is separated into 5 main groups; The Populars, The Stand-Out Girls, The nice girls, The funny Group, The bit*hes.
I started in the popular group which was fine but they were all over me, soi i felt uncomfortable and left. Then i went to the Standout Group, they were Ok and really nice to me but i wasn't really very much like them so left. Then i went to the Nice Girls. This was my favourite group, there were 4 of us and we were best friends and did everything together. But i for some reason which i don't understand, went off to join the funny group as i thought i would like it there to. I wanted to compare I suppose. In the funny group it was ok, but one girl, who i wasn't friendly with, left me out of a party. This was the first time i had EVER been left out so i was so upset i left. During the time at the funny group, the *****es had started to try and get me to join their group. So after i left the funny group i joined them. It has been HELL every since. they leave me out and tell each how much they hate each other all the time. The other day they said it to me for the first time. And although they say it a lot to each other it really upset me. So Yes, i hate been left out and now they said they didn't like me. Even though they brought me into the group.
In every group i have been included into it straightaway, and they were so nice. This one they are all just b*tches. WHY? Why did they say they hated me?
I bet no one else has a track record like me do they?

AshCash · 11-08-2009, 06:50 PM

I grew up in an untrusting environment,so being paranoid is natural and actually encouraged. But its extremely unhealthy to be like that because you can get to the point where your just friendless and feel like you can't connect with others anymore,it sucks meatballs.

The Stig · 11-10-2009, 10:57 AM

wow i'm exactly th same. Especially today at school, i keep on thinking my best friend doesn't like me one minute then the next thing i think "nah he does it's just my imagination". I really don't know what to think. I do it all the time to other people who i wouldn't be close friends with. Most of the time i see it's all in my mind but i'm so paranoid, it's preventin my from speaking to anyone about my problems.

I guess what has contributed to me finding it hard to trust people was during the summer when a close friend of mine went with the girl i was seeing, before that i knew i was over exagerrating and was beginning to be more trustful but once that happened it really hurt me and made it a lot worse.

Maybe i'm really paranoid

06-30-2009, 11:52 AM	#1 (permalink)
greenchair Status: SAS Member Join Date: Jun 2009 Posts: 13	Worries about friendships i often worry that people at school or friends, dislike me, i look for the little things that could signify that they might not like me. it is often small but things like; them not asking me to come to the canteen with them or not entering my name onto the list of friends in msn. Things like this often make me worry all night about the fact they might not like me. I am one of the people in the class that makes people laugh and could be called the class clown. But worry that sometimes people are not laughing with me but at me. Also if someone is quietly talking to someone else i always assume it is about me. I try to be nice to everyone but if someone is not happy i always assume their bad mood is my fault and is directed at me. There is one girl in school that is not liked very much and i worry that i could be just like her and people secretly hate me. My school is also an all girls school so there is lots(and i mean LOTS) of *****ing. Do any of you worry about this stuff too?

09-12-2009, 11:41 AM	#7 (permalink)
kabby Status: SAS Member Join Date: Feb 2009 Location: California Gender: Female Posts: 12	I can totally relate. I feel the same way all the time and it always prevents me from making friends. I feel if I talk to them at all, they'll think I'm annoying or pushy. I'm trying to get over this, but it's really hard. I know exactly how you feel. __________________ God will take you through hell just to get you to heaven.

06-30-2009, 02:31 PM	#2 (permalink)
Uylsses Status: SAS Member Join Date: Jun 2009 Posts: 22	I can completely relate to that those little things worry me like that to the point of obssesion. and when people are in bad moods all I do is worry about them, and why their not happy, and if it's my fault; and I totally gget you on the class clown thing. I feel like that everyday.

09-04-2009, 10:14 PM	#3 (permalink)
Maandy Status: SAS Member Join Date: Sep 2009 Location: Illinois Gender: Female Posts: 3	I do the exact same thing everytime two people near by are laughing and talking I automatically assume it's about me. Especially when people are passing notes in class. I think everyone secretly hates me. I think I'm boring and weird. But, telling myself those thoughts are illogical and proving to myself that there is no actual REAL evidence that shows everyone hates me helps a lot.

09-12-2009, 12:29 AM	#5 (permalink)
Yverinrey Status: SAS Member Join Date: Jun 2008 Location: Illinois, USA Gender: Female Age: 18 Posts: 57	That is how I feel everyday at school. Paranoia is my worst problem, and I believe it is something that will never go away (and maybe I'm masochistic - but I don't WANT it to go away). That's good that you're the class clown. This is just my opinion, but personally when there is a class clown-type person in class, when I laugh it is in a fond way. I find them interesting (unless they're the type who like to poke fun at people in a malicious way). Me? I'm that girl that never talks to anyone, people think I'm stuck up and are creeped out by me. The end :P So I envy you. I wish I could make people laugh sometimes. Whenever I joke around everyone is dead serious lol.

09-12-2009, 02:40 AM	#6 (permalink)
Sammy J Status: SAS Member Join Date: Jul 2009 Location: Adelaide, SA Gender: Female Age: 17 Posts: 37	I was like that when i was at school ( i quit coz i had no friends, and it was relli uncomfortable and awkward) people thought i wanted to bash everyone up.....i don't even know why, like i never said anything to anyone, i sat as far away at the back of the class as i could, i didn't have any friends, i would always make sure no1 could see my face and cover it with my hair, i never did my work coz i was to busy sketching out about thinking evry1 was staring at me and i would start to fidget alot and all tht. If someone did try to talk to me or something i was always very paranoid and suspicious about their intentions and if i ever make a joke about myself its more controlling the laughter at me than wanting to be funny. anyone else heaps sketchy of peoples intentions?

11-08-2009, 07:02 AM	#9 (permalink)
greenchair Status: SAS Member Join Date: Jun 2009 Posts: 13	I also get worried A LOT about if I'm left out then it means people don't like me. Most people would think why? But i already know the reason. OK, here is my basic friendship account over the last 2 years: My school is all girls so basically v. v. bitcy. My form is separated into 5 main groups; The Populars, The Stand-Out Girls, The nice girls, The funny Group, The bithes. I started in the popular group which was fine but they were all over me, soi i felt uncomfortable and left. Then i went to the Standout Group, they were Ok and really nice to me but i wasn't really very much like them so left. Then i went to the Nice Girls. This was my favourite group, there were 4 of us and we were best friends and did everything together. But i for some reason which i don't understand, went off to join the funny group as i thought i would like it there to. I wanted to compare I suppose. In the funny group it was ok, but one girl, who i wasn't friendly with, left me out of a party. This was the first time i had EVER been left out so i was so upset i left. During the time at the funny group, the ****es had started to try and get me to join their group. So after i left the funny group i joined them. It has been HELL every since. they leave me out and tell each how much they hate each other all the time. The other day they said it to me for the first time. And although they say it a lot to each other it really upset me. So Yes, i hate been left out and now they said they didn't like me. Even though they brought me into the group. In every group i have been included into it straightaway, and they were so nice. This one they are all just btches. WHY? Why did they say they hated me? I bet no one else has a track record like me do they?

11-08-2009, 06:50 PM	#10 (permalink)
AshCash Status: SAS Member Join Date: Oct 2009 Gender: Female Posts: 57	I grew up in an untrusting environment,so being paranoid is natural and actually encouraged. But its extremely unhealthy to be like that because you can get to the point where your just friendless and feel like you can't connect with others anymore,it sucks meatballs.

11-10-2009, 10:57 AM	#11 (permalink)
The Stig Status: SAS Member Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: Ireland Gender: Male Age: 16 Posts: 27	wow i'm exactly th same. Especially today at school, i keep on thinking my best friend doesn't like me one minute then the next thing i think "nah he does it's just my imagination". I really don't know what to think. I do it all the time to other people who i wouldn't be close friends with. Most of the time i see it's all in my mind but i'm so paranoid, it's preventin my from speaking to anyone about my problems. I guess what has contributed to me finding it hard to trust people was during the summer when a close friend of mine went with the girl i was seeing, before that i knew i was over exagerrating and was beginning to be more trustful but once that happened it really hurt me and made it a lot worse. Maybe i'm really paranoid