Social Anxiety Support

VistaKai · 08-11-2009, 02:39 PM

Does anyone here have parents that don't believe they have SA, or you get in serious trouble for freaking out in public? The other day, I was in pacsun and just starting panicking in the middle of the store (it always makes me nervous, because everyone in there seems so well put together.)

The whole way home, I was lectured about "throwing temper tantrums" and how "embarrassed we were that we had to leave like that". They refuse to believe that there is something wrong with me. Does anyone else have the same problem with people not accepting SA as a legit reason that needs to be fixed, and just pass it off as you being difficult

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N3XT2NON3 · 08-11-2009, 03:07 PM

my mom gives off the impression she knows something isnt right with me. she knows i'm shy and things are hard but i guess she doesnt want me to feel something is wrong with me (well too late). her boyfriend is annoying and think i'm not looking for work cuz i'm lazy and un-motivated. he doesn't understand me at all. my dad doesn't see that i have a problem cuz he's not there all the time like he should. i never been officially diagnosed with SA but i know within my mind & heart i have it. I fear so many things and i wish my mom & dad understood that fully. My mom's bf i can care less for.

epril · 09-03-2009, 06:46 PM

I can recognize SA in my kids because I have it. One of them is on meds, and she says it helps. I'm the flip side parent. I fear I may not push my kids enough. I want them to be able to succeed and navigate through this messed up world. I feel very anxious because there's not much time left. Ironically, their cocooning at home allows me to have more quality time with them, which is nice, but I wish I could get them out more often!

Ok all you SA teens. What can us moms do to help you?

Iced Soul · 09-03-2009, 09:48 PM

Not a teen anymore, but I get that from my entire family. They don't really think I has SA. They think it's some weird phase that I won't snap out of and it's annoying.
I keep thinking, if it's annoying to you, just think how annoying it is to me.
I remember when my SA was really bad, to the point I would literally have an all out break down if I had to go out. My family would just tell me to stop acting out and then treat me like I'm completely insane for the next few days.

zomgz · 09-03-2009, 09:52 PM

yeah my mom and sis think i should just "fix it" lol xD. they don't really understand how hard that is imo lol.

outcast69 · 09-03-2009, 10:00 PM

Yes,I have ignorant parents,leaving them behind was the best decision I ever made.

Catching Fire · 09-07-2009, 03:03 PM

They did at first but overtime they understood.

solasum · 09-07-2009, 07:34 PM

No, not anymore. My dad's always understood because he's a lot like I am. My mom used to not tolerate it, but over the years, she's accepted me and has become more open-minded and supportive. I'm sure you've tried explaining why you have social anxiety, but it takes people time to understand certain things.

kenny87 · 09-08-2009, 05:16 PM

they don't really know, I can be normal around people I have known awhile(ex: them) and when I am not at school I am usually around them and no one else so they don't really notice I guess. They do seem agitated that I stay in my room alot, I'm surprised they haven't seemed to show any concern that I am not normal and going out doing things.

rawrboy64 · 09-08-2009, 06:01 PM

My parents don't seem to really understand how hard it is for me to get over SA and how desperately I need friends. I feel like they still treat me like I'm 14.

sssig · 09-10-2009, 07:51 PM

My dad knows i have it and is awesome about it. I recently told him that I think its getting Worse and its time to see a pyschologist again and he made an apointment immediatly

fade2black · 09-11-2009, 09:40 AM

I'm obviously not a teen anymore but yes my father doesn't think I have SA or depression or anything like that. More or less he blames me for my non-outgoing ways and scorns me for it.

kabby · 09-12-2009, 11:45 AM

I have the same problem. My parents think I'm just overly shy and I can get over this. My WHOLE family are all little social butterflies, and none of them understand that I don't know how to talk to people. Whenever I get really upset over a bad day and I try to talk to my mom about it, she's like you have got to get over this, you're not that shy! I know how you feel...

SAgirl · 09-12-2009, 08:04 PM

I think my father's outlook is this. How come most university student's work three jobs and you didn't even work this Summer. What's wrong with you that you didn't work this Summer.

Nothing's wrong, dad. You know me, I'm just lazy...blah, blah, blah

sdmk · 09-27-2009, 02:05 PM

Yeah my dad is a little too old fashion to actually beleive there is such a thing, but I don't take anything he says seriously to be honest because I know that it's real and plenty of people are suffering from it luckily my mom is there to even everything out

Just hang in there

blackrainbow · 09-29-2009, 01:59 PM

yeh at first they were all like "whats wrong with you?" and "what have i done to make you emmabrass me like that?"

but now that they know its actually SA and deppression there all defensive about it,...but i hate the way they referer it to as a 'condition' as if it'll be treated and thats that. they really dont take it seriouse. if im having a bad day they'll either ignor me or tell me i need to go to the theropist again:\. what i really need is them to be supportive, and sorry that sucks your still being wrongly accused

mabey if you showed her these comments or a site that explains SA to parents she'll understand better. i did this with a depression site and it really works. good luck buddeh

girlwiththehair · 11-19-2009, 01:23 PM

We must be sisters, because your parents sound exactly like mine.

08-11-2009, 02:39 PM	#1 (permalink)
VistaKai Status: Vedi Vidi Vici Join Date: Aug 2009 Location: New Jersey Gender: Female Posts: 15	Parents? Does anyone here have parents that don't believe they have SA, or you get in serious trouble for freaking out in public? The other day, I was in pacsun and just starting panicking in the middle of the store (it always makes me nervous, because everyone in there seems so well put together.) The whole way home, I was lectured about "throwing temper tantrums" and how "embarrassed we were that we had to leave like that". They refuse to believe that there is something wrong with me. Does anyone else have the same problem with people not accepting SA as a legit reason that needs to be fixed, and just pass it off as you being difficult?

09-03-2009, 09:48 PM	#4 (permalink)
Iced Soul Status: Dancing on Rainbows Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: Calilalaland Gender: Female Age: 21 Posts: 1,775	Not a teen anymore, but I get that from my entire family. They don't really think I has SA. They think it's some weird phase that I won't snap out of and it's annoying. I keep thinking, if it's annoying to you, just think how annoying it is to me. I remember when my SA was really bad, to the point I would literally have an all out break down if I had to go out. My family would just tell me to stop acting out and then treat me like I'm completely insane for the next few days. __________________ I scraped my knees while I was praying And found a demon in my safest haven. Seems like, it's getting harder to believe in anything Than just to get lost in all my selfish thoughts. I wanna know what it'd be like To find perfection in my pride To see nothing in the light Just turn it off In all my spite, in all my spite, I'll turn it off. - Turn It Off - Paramore http://twitter.com/MissEerie

09-03-2009, 09:52 PM	#5 (permalink)
zomgz Status: Wherever The Winds Fly Join Date: Aug 2009 Location: Washington Gender: Male Age: 19 Posts: 600	yeah my mom and sis think i should just "fix it" lol xD. they don't really understand how hard that is imo lol. __________________ Chained to the bottom of the ocean floor, it's like running underwater. Feel free to add me to: Myspace \| Facebook \| Mindviz

09-07-2009, 03:03 PM	#7 (permalink)
Catching Fire Status: SAS Member Join Date: Apr 2009 Gender: Male Posts: 454	They did at first but overtime they understood. __________________ No chains on my feet but Im not free- Bob Marley

09-12-2009, 11:45 AM	#13 (permalink)
kabby Status: SAS Member Join Date: Feb 2009 Location: California Gender: Female Posts: 12	I have the same problem. My parents think I'm just overly shy and I can get over this. My WHOLE family are all little social butterflies, and none of them understand that I don't know how to talk to people. Whenever I get really upset over a bad day and I try to talk to my mom about it, she's like you have got to get over this, you're not that shy! I know how you feel... __________________ God will take you through hell just to get you to heaven.

08-11-2009, 03:07 PM	#2 (permalink)
N3XT2NON3 Status: Waiting 4 The Sky To Fall Join Date: Aug 2009 Location: NJ Gender: Male Age: 19 Posts: 313	my mom gives off the impression she knows something isnt right with me. she knows i'm shy and things are hard but i guess she doesnt want me to feel something is wrong with me (well too late). her boyfriend is annoying and think i'm not looking for work cuz i'm lazy and un-motivated. he doesn't understand me at all. my dad doesn't see that i have a problem cuz he's not there all the time like he should. i never been officially diagnosed with SA but i know within my mind & heart i have it. I fear so many things and i wish my mom & dad understood that fully. My mom's bf i can care less for.

09-03-2009, 06:46 PM	#3 (permalink)
epril Status: sa challenger Join Date: Mar 2009 Location: arizona Gender: Female Age: 45 Posts: 2,654	I can recognize SA in my kids because I have it. One of them is on meds, and she says it helps. I'm the flip side parent. I fear I may not push my kids enough. I want them to be able to succeed and navigate through this messed up world. I feel very anxious because there's not much time left. Ironically, their cocooning at home allows me to have more quality time with them, which is nice, but I wish I could get them out more often! Ok all you SA teens. What can us moms do to help you?

09-03-2009, 10:00 PM	#6 (permalink)
outcast69 Status: Comfortably Numb Join Date: Aug 2009 Location: Philly Gender: Male Posts: 230	Yes,I have ignorant parents,leaving them behind was the best decision I ever made.

09-07-2009, 07:34 PM	#8 (permalink)
solasum Status: SAS Member Join Date: Nov 2008 Location: Louisville, Kentucky Posts: 914	No, not anymore. My dad's always understood because he's a lot like I am. My mom used to not tolerate it, but over the years, she's accepted me and has become more open-minded and supportive. I'm sure you've tried explaining why you have social anxiety, but it takes people time to understand certain things.

09-08-2009, 05:16 PM	#9 (permalink)
kenny87 Status: SAS Member Join Date: Feb 2009 Location: Louisville, Kentucky Gender: Male Age: 20 Posts: 625	they don't really know, I can be normal around people I have known awhile(ex: them) and when I am not at school I am usually around them and no one else so they don't really notice I guess. They do seem agitated that I stay in my room alot, I'm surprised they haven't seemed to show any concern that I am not normal and going out doing things.

09-08-2009, 06:01 PM	#10 (permalink)
rawrboy64 Status: trying to survive college Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: la la land, CA Gender: Male Age: 19 Posts: 149	My parents don't seem to really understand how hard it is for me to get over SA and how desperately I need friends. I feel like they still treat me like I'm 14.

09-10-2009, 07:51 PM	#11 (permalink)
sssig Status: SAS Member Join Date: Mar 2009 Posts: 93	My dad knows i have it and is awesome about it. I recently told him that I think its getting Worse and its time to see a pyschologist again and he made an apointment immediatly

09-11-2009, 09:40 AM	#12 (permalink)
fade2black Status: SAS Member Join Date: Sep 2009 Gender: Female Age: 25 Posts: 26	I'm obviously not a teen anymore but yes my father doesn't think I have SA or depression or anything like that. More or less he blames me for my non-outgoing ways and scorns me for it.

09-12-2009, 08:04 PM	#14 (permalink)
SAgirl Status: SAS Member Join Date: Nov 2003 Location: Northwestern Ontario, 20 hour drive from TO Gender: Female Age: 30 Posts: 3,037	I think my father's outlook is this. How come most university student's work three jobs and you didn't even work this Summer. What's wrong with you that you didn't work this Summer. Nothing's wrong, dad. You know me, I'm just lazy...blah, blah, blah

09-27-2009, 02:05 PM	#15 (permalink)
sdmk Status: SAS Member Join Date: Aug 2009 Gender: Male Age: 18 Posts: 25	Yeah my dad is a little too old fashion to actually beleive there is such a thing, but I don't take anything he says seriously to be honest because I know that it's real and plenty of people are suffering from it luckily my mom is there to even everything out Just hang in there

09-29-2009, 01:59 PM	#16 (permalink)
blackrainbow Status: SAS Member Join Date: Sep 2009 Gender: Female Posts: 8	yeh at first they were all like "whats wrong with you?" and "what have i done to make you emmabrass me like that?" but now that they know its actually SA and deppression there all defensive about it,...but i hate the way they referer it to as a 'condition' as if it'll be treated and thats that. they really dont take it seriouse. if im having a bad day they'll either ignor me or tell me i need to go to the theropist again:\. what i really need is them to be supportive, and sorry that sucks your still being wrongly accused mabey if you showed her these comments or a site that explains SA to parents she'll understand better. i did this with a depression site and it really works. good luck buddeh

11-19-2009, 01:23 PM	#17 (permalink)
girlwiththehair Status: SAS Member Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: Miami Gender: Female Age: 18 Posts: 147	We must be sisters, because your parents sound exactly like mine.