Social Anxiety Support

Secretaz · 02-25-2012, 09:04 AM

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whatevzers · 02-25-2012, 09:17 AM

I don't really have friends either, more like acquaintances. It sucks because my brothers and sisters are really outgoing and they go out almost everyday. Sometimes, I feel ashamed of myself because of this. I guess the only thing that keeps me going with this is trying to find comfort in myself. I don't know how to explain, but try to be comfortable being by yourself. Good luck!

JesseKS · 02-25-2012, 11:11 AM

I'm similar to Unvoiced. I've always been more of a loner, whereas my family is more outgoing. The only friends I have are online and even then I wouldn't necessarily call them friends. I'm not really sure how to cope with it though..

Blawnka · 02-25-2012, 12:42 PM

I have 1 friend, and he's just a drinking buddy I rarely ever see, the rest of my friends moved away. It's sucks something fierce.

msimone52 · 02-25-2012, 12:56 PM

i dont have any friends either so your not the only one i just talk to people online

Barette · 02-25-2012, 12:58 PM

At my old college I had plenty of friends/aquaintances. New college, not so much.

Gunter · 02-25-2012, 01:06 PM

Yea i don't really know if i have friends or if they are more like acquaintances. I have actually taken the initiative to invite them with me somewhere, but always gets cancelled at the last second.
I go on tumblr and listen to music, Tumblr makes me laugh and music just soothes everything. Music is my stress reliever. I''m also in my school's musical which is causing me great anxiety and I don't even know i am able to sing in front of more than 100 people. Still pretty amazed of how i got in, but i like musical theater, thats what gets me through the day knowing that I have rehearsal at the end of the day

Quinn the Eskimo · 02-25-2012, 01:43 PM

I dont have any friends

I cope with it because I love being alone and I love myself

thats not to say that I wouldnt love friends though, but it would be a big lifestyle change

dachickmagnet · 02-25-2012, 06:52 PM

Yeh, I'm a loner not by choice
And I jst deal with it the best way I can (I know that's not very descriptive but I can't explain it)
I guess I jst imagine stuff in my head like when I'm at school and at home I go for a ride on my longboard

18andLife · 02-25-2012, 07:24 PM

I prefer the term outcast.
I used to talk to people at my school but I realized they didn't give a damn about me so I did them (and myself) a favour by cutting all communication. I haven't spoken to them in two-three years and I haven't had anyone I could call a "friend" since.

Paloma M · 02-25-2012, 08:25 PM

Me! I don't have any friends either. Never had a true good friend to begin with anyway. I don't think I will ever find one. I'd rather not have any friends than have a bunch of so called "friends" who tease me and probably talk **** about me behind my back too and cause drama. I'd rather be alone.

2loveRye · 02-25-2012, 08:41 PM

I used to have real friends before I moved. Now I spend most of my free time by myself or with my family (they're great). School is miserable though. Everyone else is always talking about their plans, or laughing with their friends. Most of the time I just distract myself by reading.

dachickmagnet · 02-25-2012, 09:18 PM

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Originally Posted by Paloma M

Me! I don't have any friends either. Never had a true good friend to begin with anyway. I don't think I will ever find one. I'd rather not have any friends than have a bunch of so called "friends" who tease me and probably talk **** about me behind my back too and cause drama. I'd rather be alone.

Amen to that ****

dachickmagnet · 02-25-2012, 09:19 PM

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Originally Posted by 2loveRye

I used to have real friends before I moved. Now I spend most of my free time by myself or with my family (they're great). School is miserable though. Everyone else is always talking about their plans, or laughing with their friends. Most of the time I just distract myself by reading.

I'm the same, ecxept for the reading ( I hate books) so I write songs instead

ChrissyQ · 02-25-2012, 10:06 PM

I'm not sure if i'm a loner by choice or not.. I have several friends but no one around my age and that I spend alot of time with..

Hopeful25 · 02-25-2012, 10:24 PM

I don't cope with it, I look for solutions. Looking for solutions is my coping mechanism. When I can't do that, or when I feel like I've done that as much as I could and I just have to wait and hope for the best, I feel helpless and depressed.

But, I'm finding solutions and ways to improve and that is helping me cope with the interim loneliness while at the same time putting me on the right track.

monkeyrabbit · 02-26-2012, 12:19 AM

Meme! i have but.. not in my new school.
i just can't make friends as well as others.. they're all just classmates.
And i have only 3-4 really good and close friends.

lucyinthesky · 02-26-2012, 12:52 AM

I'm very introverted, and prefer to be alone anytime. However, this means I push people away and increase my anxiety as a result. I need to make some friends but I'm not sure if I want to, let alone if I know how to.

Asbel18 · 02-26-2012, 02:55 AM

I have no other reason but to blame life. Times change and so do people. There's reasons why I'm alone and that's because people grow apart and I'm just one of the unlucky ones with no place to go.

Ortelius · 02-26-2012, 05:48 AM

I have absolutely no friends at all, and haven't had any the past six-seven years . I'm also very introverted and have got quite used to it. I have always tried to not care that much about it, but everyday it's getting harder to cope with it that way. I'm not completely a loner by choice, even though I can live with it now. I would love to be with people but I just can't because of the anxiety.

Another problem is that I've never met anyone who shares my interests. I would like to be with people who are similar to myself. I think I somewhat can converse with people if they take the initiative and talk about something I can relate to, but they never do...

02-25-2012, 09:04 AM	#1 (permalink)
Secretaz Status: Socially retarded kitty Join Date: Sep 2011 Gender: Female Age: 17 Posts: 2,492	Is here anyone else who doesn't really have any friends? -

02-25-2012, 09:17 AM	#2 (permalink)
whatevzers Status: neurotic to the bone Join Date: Jan 2012 Location: Cali Gender: Male Age: 20 Posts: 1,166	I don't really have friends either, more like acquaintances. It sucks because my brothers and sisters are really outgoing and they go out almost everyday. Sometimes, I feel ashamed of myself because of this. I guess the only thing that keeps me going with this is trying to find comfort in myself. I don't know how to explain, but try to be comfortable being by yourself. Good luck! __________________ "If the wind will not serve, take to the oars." - Latin proverb

02-25-2012, 12:42 PM	#4 (permalink)
Blawnka Status: who cares.. Join Date: Dec 2011 Location: Canada Gender: Male Age: 20 Posts: 818	I have 1 friend, and he's just a drinking buddy I rarely ever see, the rest of my friends moved away. It's sucks something fierce. __________________ This is my sig.

02-25-2012, 01:06 PM	#7 (permalink)
Gunter Status: Wanting More Join Date: Aug 2011 Location: USA Gender: Male Posts: 172	Yea i don't really know if i have friends or if they are more like acquaintances. I have actually taken the initiative to invite them with me somewhere, but always gets cancelled at the last second. I go on tumblr and listen to music, Tumblr makes me laugh and music just soothes everything. Music is my stress reliever. I''m also in my school's musical which is causing me great anxiety and I don't even know i am able to sing in front of more than 100 people. Still pretty amazed of how i got in, but i like musical theater, thats what gets me through the day knowing that I have rehearsal at the end of the day __________________ Nerves and butterflies are fine - they're a physical sign that you're mentally ready and eager. You have to get the butterflies to fly in formation, that's the trick. ~Steve Bull

02-25-2012, 01:43 PM	#8 (permalink)
Quinn the Eskimo Status: Ancient Hellkite Join Date: Jan 2012 Location: Ohio Gender: Male Age: 20 Posts: 1,167	I dont have any friends I cope with it because I love being alone and I love myself thats not to say that I wouldnt love friends though, but it would be a big lifestyle change __________________ Behavior but flows from thought as thought flows from belief

02-25-2012, 11:11 AM	#3 (permalink)
JesseKS Status: Away Join Date: Feb 2012 Location: California Gender: Male Age: 18 Posts: 83	I'm similar to Unvoiced. I've always been more of a loner, whereas my family is more outgoing. The only friends I have are online and even then I wouldn't necessarily call them friends. I'm not really sure how to cope with it though..

02-25-2012, 12:56 PM	#5 (permalink)
msimone52 Status: SAS Member Join Date: Feb 2012 Location: Florida Gender: Female Age: 17 Posts: 168	i dont have any friends either so your not the only one i just talk to people online

02-25-2012, 12:58 PM	#6 (permalink)
Barette Status: Hermphrodte with attitude Join Date: Jan 2012 Location: Inside my brain. Gender: Female Age: 19 Posts: 4,475	At my old college I had plenty of friends/aquaintances. New college, not so much.

02-25-2012, 06:52 PM	#9 (permalink)
dachickmagnet Status: SAS Member Join Date: Jan 2012 Posts: 319	Yeh, I'm a loner not by choice And I jst deal with it the best way I can (I know that's not very descriptive but I can't explain it) I guess I jst imagine stuff in my head like when I'm at school and at home I go for a ride on my longboard

02-25-2012, 07:24 PM	#10 (permalink)
18andLife Status: Brooding Join Date: Jul 2011 Location: New Zealand Gender: Male Age: 19 Posts: 993	I prefer the term outcast. I used to talk to people at my school but I realized they didn't give a damn about me so I did them (and myself) a favour by cutting all communication. I haven't spoken to them in two-three years and I haven't had anyone I could call a "friend" since. __________________ There's a boy who fogs his world and now he's getting lazy There's no motivation and frustration makes him crazy He makes a plan to take a stand but always ends up sitting Someone help him up or he's gonna end up quitting - Green Day, "Who Wrote Holden Caulfield?"

02-25-2012, 08:25 PM	#11 (permalink)
Paloma M Status: SAS Member Join Date: Nov 2011 Location: Texas Age: 23 Posts: 2,574	Me! I don't have any friends either. Never had a true good friend to begin with anyway. I don't think I will ever find one. I'd rather not have any friends than have a bunch of so called "friends" who tease me and probably talk **** about me behind my back too and cause drama. I'd rather be alone.

02-25-2012, 08:41 PM	#12 (permalink)
2loveRye Status: SAS Member Join Date: Feb 2012 Gender: Female Posts: 12	I used to have real friends before I moved. Now I spend most of my free time by myself or with my family (they're great). School is miserable though. Everyone else is always talking about their plans, or laughing with their friends. Most of the time I just distract myself by reading.

02-25-2012, 10:06 PM	#15 (permalink)
ChrissyQ Status: speechless Join Date: Apr 2009 Location: Vancouver Island Canada Gender: Female Age: 33 Posts: 1,437	I'm not sure if i'm a loner by choice or not.. I have several friends but no one around my age and that I spend alot of time with.. __________________ http://www.youtube.com/user/ChrissyQ33 The biggest disease in the world today is the disease of ppl feeling unloved, unwanted & uncared for - Princess Diana "Ppl are not nice therefore my life sucks" -Elin Larson When shyness goes way beyond anything you could every imagine..

02-25-2012, 10:24 PM	#16 (permalink)
Hopeful25 Status: User Requested Permanent Ban Join Date: Aug 2011 Location: Queens, NY Gender: Male Age: 19 Posts: 3,567	I don't cope with it, I look for solutions. Looking for solutions is my coping mechanism. When I can't do that, or when I feel like I've done that as much as I could and I just have to wait and hope for the best, I feel helpless and depressed. But, I'm finding solutions and ways to improve and that is helping me cope with the interim loneliness while at the same time putting me on the right track.

02-26-2012, 12:19 AM	#17 (permalink)
monkeyrabbit Status: SAS Member Join Date: Feb 2012 Posts: 4	Meme! i have but.. not in my new school. i just can't make friends as well as others.. they're all just classmates. And i have only 3-4 really good and close friends.

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02-26-2012, 12:52 AM	#18 (permalink)
lucyinthesky Status: SAS Member Join Date: Mar 2009 Location: UK Gender: Female Posts: 733	I'm very introverted, and prefer to be alone anytime. However, this means I push people away and increase my anxiety as a result. I need to make some friends but I'm not sure if I want to, let alone if I know how to. __________________ "No retreat offers someone more quiet and relaxation than into his own mind, especially if he can dip into thoughts there which put him at immediate and complete ease: and by ease I simply mean a well-ordered life. So constantly give yourself this retreat, and renew yourself." Marcus Aurelius My blog (on books, anxiety, and assorted things)

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Asbel18 Status: Outer Heaven Join Date: Feb 2012 Location: California Gender: Male Age: 19 Posts: 88	I have no other reason but to blame life. Times change and so do people. There's reasons why I'm alone and that's because people grow apart and I'm just one of the unlucky ones with no place to go.

02-26-2012, 05:48 AM	#20 (permalink)
Ortelius Status: I+I=II 0_0 Join Date: Aug 2011 Location: Sweden Gender: Male Age: 19 Posts: 169	I have absolutely no friends at all, and haven't had any the past six-seven years . I'm also very introverted and have got quite used to it. I have always tried to not care that much about it, but everyday it's getting harder to cope with it that way. I'm not completely a loner by choice, even though I can live with it now. I would love to be with people but I just can't because of the anxiety. Another problem is that I've never met anyone who shares my interests. I would like to be with people who are similar to myself. I think I somewhat can converse with people if they take the initiative and talk about something I can relate to, but they never do...