I'm new here, and I'm surprised by how many of the teen SA-suffers have a bf/gf

[bamboo]

It seems strange. Lots of the posters here even say they have no friends, and yet many have a boyfriend or girlfriend. (And I'm guessing there's at least some overlap between these groups.) Can someone please explain how it happens? I always thought getting a bf/gf would only be easy with enough friends to hook you up with one.

Also, this is my first post. I guess I might post something in the proper newbies section later...

[Braxietel]

I was surprised when I managed to get a girlfriend, so was.. well.. everybody, I think that was partly because I can be an unlikeable ******* and also because some were fairly certain I was gay. However it wasn't due to me having friends, I don't have many and a lot of these the friendship can be pretty tenuous, so what's my point? I don't know.

[Infexxion]

I had a girlfriend last summer, but I only got to know her through the internet. My communication with her in real life was about 80% less than what it was online. It was pretty pathetic. But, to explain it, I only feel well, not nervous, communcating over the internet.

[TheB0a]

Yae well...i'm more of the online dater type a person, though i have been asked out a few times, i'm just more of the online type

[dirty rich]

i'm 16 and i've never had one ...it surprises me too

the only way i would ever be able to get one is to go out with a random guy who approached me in the street seeing as i don't have a "social network" but all the random guys who have approached me have been creeps...not that i get approached very often especially since i don't go out that often because i have no friends

[Hypnos]

Originally Posted by Infexxion

I had a girlfriend last summer, but I only got to know her through the internet. My communication with her in real life was about 80% less than what it was online. It was pretty pathetic. But, to explain it, I only feel well, not nervous, communcating over the internet.

I was the same, we communicated a lot more online than in person, it s just so much easier to open up that way, even though i wish it wasn t.

And in my experience, friends are a hindrance when it comes to dating. They get in the way and cause a lot of problems. Because of that, i preferred keeping my relationships private from them because they re impossible to talk to about that.

Friends don t help in the creation of a relationship, but destroying one seems to come naturally to them.

[polardude18]

well i have a girlfriend, but i never in my life expected to have a girlfriend at 17 with my social anxiety

we meet on the internet, i dont think i could ever actually meet a girl in real life lol, but it turned out we only lived about 45 minutes away, so we decided to meet at a mall, even thought we had talked for about a month before we first met, it was kind of akward, i mean talking face to face is very different than over the night, and even though the date was akward for both of us, we talked as we walked around the mall and went to different stores, and eventually we got more comfortable with each other, we have been going out every week, for about a month and a half now, and even now its still a little scary, i mean there is still the occasional silence, but as time goes by, it gets easier

it was a lot easier sense even though we were meeting for the first time, we already kind of knew each other, i guess what im saying is, sometimes you just have to go against your fear of meeting someone, and just meet them, as sometimes it can work out well

[shyprettygirl]

well i have a boyfriend, we meet in a chat room on aim and we juss seemed to click. its weirdwen you think about havin a boyfriend/ girlfriend wen you have social anxiety buhh acctually its really easy for me. i got to know him on aim for about two weeks before we met in real life. so he got to know the real me and not the self-concoius shy one. it was a lil awkward wen we met and i do still get a lil nervous wen we hang out buh he makes me feel so comfortable and he acecpts me for who iam and so that make me feel so good that all those anxious and negative thoughts juss go out the window!! ilove him so muchh and i really do think he is helping me by keepin my mind off the sa ( even though he doesnt know i have it ) and gettin me out into the world and meeting new people!

[ruinMYlife]

i met a girl on the internet 4 or 5 years ago who lives in the same city as me, i want to meet her but i think she doesnt want to meet me, how sad

[sarah22]

Im 15 and ive never had a bf. It just takes a lot of confidence I think, confidence which i do not have.

[mcsboy8]

mean either, im also 15, sa gets in my way alot

[N3XT2NON3]

last when i had a gf was a year & a half ago. around that same time was when I realized i had social problems (hence taking online classes). I miss the feeling of being there for someone else. less emphasis on myself