Social Anxiety Support

ChildOfGod · 02-04-2009, 09:48 AM

and it sucks =(( i want to participate more in church but my social phobia backs me up from all the things i want to do. i only go to church with my bf and im too terrified to go alone. i only go alone on sundays because i go to 2 differnt churches, 1 big and one small, i go to the big one alone because nobody notices me there. i would love to help people and teach others about God but my social phobia does not let me do none of those things. im currently in college but i go very fearfully. im just scared of people and i dont know how to act around them. i get lost for words when its time to talk and people just look at me like if i have serious issues

rachelynn · 02-04-2009, 10:56 AM

I can relate to how you feel. I can't even go to church and sadly my faith isn't really there anymore

er52 · 02-04-2009, 11:42 AM

I am in the exact same boat as you, I really want to have a sunday school class of my own but I don't know how I will do that. My only advice would be try to get more involved with someone you know and then maybe you will meet people and can go by yourself and not only when your bf goes

Noca · 02-04-2009, 01:19 PM

Try going to your doctor and explaining what you told us here. Start on the SSRI he will give you and ask if you can to try a drug called "Clonazepam". Also ask to be refered to a CBT therapist. A combination of CBT exposure therapy and medication is the strongest treatment available for SA

Wish you luck!

JCMiller23 · 02-04-2009, 06:12 PM

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Originally Posted by Optimisticman

Can I ask you a question? And I don't mean to be a jerk when I say this, but why are you on this website? If you have a boyfriend and you are christian, why are you TRULY on here? Are you on here just to help people, cause if you are I respect that. Fortunately I don't need any help. Unfortunately, I don't like god, I think he is totally lacking of a sense of humor.

I don't understand how having a bf and being a Christian means she can't be on here? Just because she's a Christian doesn't mean she has everything figured out and is better than everyone

Gordon2108 · 03-31-2009, 12:17 AM

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Originally Posted by JCMiller23

I don't understand how having a bf and being a Christian means she can't be on here? Just because she's a Christian doesn't mean she has everything figured out and is better than everyone

My only guess is he is saying she could get help from her religious belief (in the form of praying I suppose) and from her boyfriend. Otherwise I have no idea.

Jerzy007 · 03-31-2009, 12:57 AM

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Originally Posted by ChildOfGod

and it sucks =(( i want to participate more in church but my social phobia backs me up from all the things i want to do. i only go to church with my bf and im too terrified to go alone. i only go alone on sundays because i go to 2 differnt churches, 1 big and one small, i go to the big one alone because nobody notices me there. i would love to help people and teach others about God but my social phobia does not let me do none of those things. im currently in college but i go very fearfully. im just scared of people and i dont know how to act around them. i get lost for words when its time to talk and people just look at me like if i have serious issues

The greatest assest of our faith for me is that it perfectly makes sense out of suffering..Check out a crucifix, its not a pretty picture, my main man Christ was abandoned by most of his closest friends, although he let them know before hand that he was not alone..foreseeing that they would not be with him during the brutality of the Passion...that His and Our Father would be with him. With Christ as the head of the church and we being his members, a.k.a. the body of Christ..St. Paul stated that we take up what was lacking in our suffering (Col 1:24) hehe a Catholic that qoutes the bible...The clarity there for me is that suffering holds a great deal of signifigance in the mysteriousness all seeing eyes of God which saves souls if offered up for their intentions.
Or for my secular mainstream brethren...There was two sets of footprints in the sand..Then there was 1 set of footprints in the sand, When times get tough and **** hits the fan, God don't walk with me he carries me man"-50 cent G..g...g....GUnit. Peace be with youz-JErzy accent

Jerzy007 · 03-31-2009, 12:59 AM

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Originally Posted by ChildOfGod

and it sucks =(( i want to participate more in church but my social phobia backs me up from all the things i want to do. i only go to church with my bf and im too terrified to go alone. i only go alone on sundays because i go to 2 differnt churches, 1 big and one small, i go to the big one alone because nobody notices me there. i would love to help people and teach others about God but my social phobia does not let me do none of those things. im currently in college but i go very fearfully. im just scared of people and i dont know how to act around them. i get lost for words when its time to talk and people just look at me like if i have serious issues

One more thing...Preach the Gospel, and use words if you have too..-St. Francis. That is a powerful message u shared with us today. Thank you!

hecknotechno · 06-25-2009, 11:21 PM

THANK YOUUUU. FINALLY. Someone who feels the same way! I'm not really involved in my church either (but I want to be). I grew up going to a really crappy church, and the way the youth group and Sunday school worked there didn't really give fire to seek a deeper relationship with God..if that makes sense. We switched churches when I was in 7th grade, and it definitely is better than the other church. BUT, I'm not involved in the youth group really because no one my age is there and it's awkward to make friends with kids younger than you (and I'm a Senior in high school).

I know the feeling. Every Sunday. The congregation itself is probably intimidating, as it is for me, too. Everyone already knows everyone, and you're still trying to fit in somewhere. I'm shy and it's hard for me to talk to new people, especially with my SA harboring me.

I don't have a boyfriend, and I go with my family every week. I do it for myself really and not for anyone else. I just pray for strength.

02-04-2009, 09:48 AM	#1 (permalink)
ChildOfGod Status: SAS Member Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: Brooklyn Gender: Female Posts: 2	im an 18 year old Christian with social phobia and it sucks =(( i want to participate more in church but my social phobia backs me up from all the things i want to do. i only go to church with my bf and im too terrified to go alone. i only go alone on sundays because i go to 2 differnt churches, 1 big and one small, i go to the big one alone because nobody notices me there. i would love to help people and teach others about God but my social phobia does not let me do none of those things. im currently in college but i go very fearfully. im just scared of people and i dont know how to act around them. i get lost for words when its time to talk and people just look at me like if i have serious issues

02-04-2009, 10:56 AM	#2 (permalink)
rachelynn Status: Daydreaming Join Date: Sep 2008 Location: USA Gender: Female Age: 20 Posts: 362	sigh I can relate to how you feel. I can't even go to church and sadly my faith isn't really there anymore

02-04-2009, 11:42 AM	#3 (permalink)
er52 Status: SAS Member Join Date: Aug 2008 Location: Kansas Gender: Female Posts: 307	I am in the exact same boat as you, I really want to have a sunday school class of my own but I don't know how I will do that. My only advice would be try to get more involved with someone you know and then maybe you will meet people and can go by yourself and not only when your bf goes

02-04-2009, 01:19 PM	#4 (permalink)
Noca Status: Permanently Banned Join Date: Jun 2005 Location: Ontario Gender: Male Age: 23 Posts: 14,079	Try going to your doctor and explaining what you told us here. Start on the SSRI he will give you and ask if you can to try a drug called "Clonazepam". Also ask to be refered to a CBT therapist. A combination of CBT exposure therapy and medication is the strongest treatment available for SA Wish you luck!

06-25-2009, 11:21 PM	#9 (permalink)
hecknotechno Status: SAS Member Join Date: Jun 2009 Location: Illinois Gender: Female Age: 18 Posts: 27	THANK YOUUUU. FINALLY. Someone who feels the same way! I'm not really involved in my church either (but I want to be). I grew up going to a really crappy church, and the way the youth group and Sunday school worked there didn't really give fire to seek a deeper relationship with God..if that makes sense. We switched churches when I was in 7th grade, and it definitely is better than the other church. BUT, I'm not involved in the youth group really because no one my age is there and it's awkward to make friends with kids younger than you (and I'm a Senior in high school). I know the feeling. Every Sunday. The congregation itself is probably intimidating, as it is for me, too. Everyone already knows everyone, and you're still trying to fit in somewhere. I'm shy and it's hard for me to talk to new people, especially with my SA harboring me. I don't have a boyfriend, and I go with my family every week. I do it for myself really and not for anyone else. I just pray for strength.