Social Anxiety Support

jessb · 06-04-2009, 11:04 AM

i sound really stupid but im 16, and ive just stopped going out with friends or groups of people. I used to go out regular last year with friends but now i just cant. i dunno why i cant really explain it but its really depressing me. Ive just stopped socialising even though i really want to and now im sat here while loads of people where i live are out together and ive decided not to go as usual. can anyone help? does anyone else feel like this?

nafvu38902 · 06-04-2009, 12:24 PM

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Originally Posted by jessb

i sound really stupid but im 16, and ive just stopped going out with friends or groups of people. I used to go out regular last year with friends but now i just cant. i dunno why i cant really explain it but its really depressing me. Ive just stopped socialising even though i really want to and now im sat here while loads of people where i live are out together and ive decided not to go as usual. can anyone help? does anyone else feel like this?

Hm maybe it's something to do with puberty?...It can do these things to people

jessb · 06-04-2009, 01:11 PM

yes maybe but i just feel scared around people all the time and really really shy

SOME · 07-16-2009, 04:26 PM

me too i used to be able to socialize better last year, i dont know why either i just stoped it all hit me like a ton of bricks.

gupangpang · 07-18-2009, 07:52 AM

I guess it could be a phase. If you could get back to how you were it would be great since that kind of lifestyle is not your taste. Well all i can suggest is give it more time =)
Sulking will give you wrinkles so smile smile smile hehehe
Take care =D

giggles · 07-18-2009, 09:53 AM

i'm 16 aswell and i defonitely feel lyk that too. I always avoid going out with people on the weekends but then at the same time i get so jealous of them cos theyre out doing god knows what.

Catching Fire · 07-23-2009, 04:06 PM

I feel like that right now and also don't really know why. I haven't avoided going out with me people though. I guess you just have high and low points. I would try to go out with people as hard as it is because in the short term avoidence makes you feel better but is very bad in the long term. I would look at the reasons why you feel your so anxious about going out. Do you feel your going to embarass yourself, feel like people will get a bad impression of you, don't want people to see you like that, feel like your boring, etc. Then try to challenge your beliefs and have your therapist work on them with you. Thats what I'm doing and it helps.

06-04-2009, 11:04 AM	#1 (permalink)
jessb Status: SAS Member Join Date: Jun 2009 Posts: 5	can anyone help? i sound really stupid but im 16, and ive just stopped going out with friends or groups of people. I used to go out regular last year with friends but now i just cant. i dunno why i cant really explain it but its really depressing me. Ive just stopped socialising even though i really want to and now im sat here while loads of people where i live are out together and ive decided not to go as usual. can anyone help? does anyone else feel like this?

07-18-2009, 09:53 AM	#6 (permalink)
giggles Status: !!!!!!!!!!!!! Join Date: Apr 2009 Location: ireland Gender: Female Age: 16 Posts: 59	i'm 16 aswell and i defonitely feel lyk that too. I always avoid going out with people on the weekends but then at the same time i get so jealous of them cos theyre out doing god knows what. __________________

07-23-2009, 04:06 PM	#7 (permalink)
Catching Fire Status: SAS Member Join Date: Apr 2009 Gender: Male Posts: 454	I feel like that right now and also don't really know why. I haven't avoided going out with me people though. I guess you just have high and low points. I would try to go out with people as hard as it is because in the short term avoidence makes you feel better but is very bad in the long term. I would look at the reasons why you feel your so anxious about going out. Do you feel your going to embarass yourself, feel like people will get a bad impression of you, don't want people to see you like that, feel like your boring, etc. Then try to challenge your beliefs and have your therapist work on them with you. Thats what I'm doing and it helps. __________________ No chains on my feet but Im not free- Bob Marley

06-04-2009, 01:11 PM	#3 (permalink)
jessb Status: SAS Member Join Date: Jun 2009 Posts: 5	yes maybe but i just feel scared around people all the time and really really shy

07-16-2009, 04:26 PM	#4 (permalink)
SOME Status: SAS Member Join Date: Jul 2009 Location: Southern california Gender: Male Posts: 152	me too i used to be able to socialize better last year, i dont know why either i just stoped it all hit me like a ton of bricks.

07-18-2009, 07:52 AM	#5 (permalink)
gupangpang Status: SAS Member Join Date: Jul 2009 Posts: 7	I guess it could be a phase. If you could get back to how you were it would be great since that kind of lifestyle is not your taste. Well all i can suggest is give it more time =) Sulking will give you wrinkles so smile smile smile hehehe Take care =D