Social Anxiety Support

rawrguy · 04-09-2012, 12:53 AM

Eh. A short article but still...tl;dr. I guess I'm lazy today, sorry. Being an only child, both my parents would give me anything I wanted and even sheltered me when I was a kid. So yeah, I got lots of love from both parents (too much in fact) but I still developed SA.

Xmsbby · 05-11-2012, 03:18 PM

I'll make sure I'll give my kids, if I ever decide to have kids, lots of hugs, kisses and expressive declarations of love!

. My mom has been great but she's probably more shy than me. I don't remember her giving me hugs and kisses when I was younger but later on she would when I would complain to her about it. lol!

Insanityonthego · 05-11-2012, 06:56 PM

I had motherly love till I was like 10. After I moved back to the states my parents divorced and she changed completely with me. She was more distant and cold. As a single mother with two other children to bare I guess that took a toll on her. I don't blame her, but she was pretty unexistent in my teenage years. She'd be working all day and never have the time to talk. After she remarried, she started another family. I felt kind of left out for awhile since I didn't get along with my stepdad much. Being here right now these couple of days with my stepdad and mom reminds me when I was 16. Except this time, I'm not that immature teenager anymore. I'm not gonna argue with my stepdad when I know my *** will be outta here in a couple of days. Four people in a studio, not cool at all. :/ Thank God I'm moving out. I feel very uncomfortable right now staying with them. We're packed up like freaking sardines. Being broke is no fun.

John316C · 05-11-2012, 10:20 PM

imbalance of parenting

Estival · 05-17-2012, 05:15 PM

My mom has always been supportive of me, but at the same time she doesn't accept mistakes. She's always been very shy and intolerant of people; I'm definitely worse than she is, but perhaps her modeling didn't make the idea of talking to be people any more appealing.

Luka92 · 05-17-2012, 05:36 PM

That doesn't apply to me. Me and my mother are very close and she always loved me and gave me good advices...but I'm still messed up.

TigerRifle1 · 05-17-2012, 06:54 PM

I don't think mothers should be singled out

Foh_Teej · 05-17-2012, 10:13 PM

The researchers said: "It is striking that a brief observation of level of maternal warmth in infancy is associated with distress in adult offspring 30 years later"

Im gonna call bull**** on this whole study. Whether or not this is even true can't be assessed with such inadequate methods. I cant believe they even publish this sort of crap.

Ashley1990 · 05-17-2012, 10:16 PM

Beautiful thread...

frenchie · 05-18-2012, 08:49 PM

I was very fortunate to grow up in a very stable and loving family so this can't account for my SA at all. I was never bullied at school either. My anxiety first started at about age 14, which I put down simply to genetic factors. This is also consistent with the fact that medication has all but cured me.

Nibbler · 05-19-2012, 03:29 PM

So true as unfortunately I was separated from mine at such an early age and it deffaintly contiubted to the way I turned out

Invisigirl · 05-19-2012, 05:35 PM

My mom has always loved me. I have no confidence.

iEquanimity · 05-20-2012, 03:49 PM

I'm fortunate enough to have such an amazing Mum. I don't know what I'd do without her.

I hope one day if I ever had children, I'd be as good as a Mother my Mum was to me.

FabledHero · 05-21-2012, 04:22 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Sindelle

She said it was just opening up for molestation. I still have issues with ANYONE touching me. I don't get hugged or anything by my family and when a stranger touches me it bothers me a lot.

Geez for her sake I hope she was molested. Ok that sounded bad what I meant was that's the only thing that would give her somewhat of an excuse to have raised you so poorly. I had issues with people touching me for a long time too. I think because my family never showed affection, it always felt so awkward, weird and violating.

WintersTale · 05-22-2012, 10:26 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by frenchie

I was very fortunate to grow up in a very stable and loving family so this can't account for my SA at all. I was never bullied at school either. My anxiety first started at about age 14, which I put down simply to genetic factors. This is also consistent with the fact that medication has all but cured me.

Same here. I grew up in a very supportive and loving family, generally, so I can't really understand where my SA came from.

MobiusX · 05-23-2012, 02:54 PM

I don't even hug my own mom

ryobi · 05-26-2012, 11:55 AM

My mum was good. My dad was good too. Although, I probably inherited my SA from my mom...

WhoDey85 · 05-26-2012, 07:19 PM

"The hand that rocks the cradle rules the world."

strugglingforhope · 05-27-2012, 03:49 PM

My parents we're distant to me with affection. I can see how that has an effect on a person feeling they're not of value. Affection can signify at least to another person that you are important to them on an emotional level. If you don't have it it doesn't mean you'll be shy, it just makes having low confidence (feeling of self-worth) more likely. People can be shy for a host of different reasons.

GameGuy · 05-31-2012, 08:59 PM

My parents divorced when I was 4. And now, 20 years later, my mother still holds a grudge against my father. And he never did anything wrong.

04-09-2012, 12:53 AM	#81 (permalink)
rawrguy Status: キングダムハーツ Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: Somewhere in Las Vegas, NV Gender: Male Age: 22 Posts: 5,621	Eh. A short article but still...tl;dr. I guess I'm lazy today, sorry. Being an only child, both my parents would give me anything I wanted and even sheltered me when I was a kid. So yeah, I got lots of love from both parents (too much in fact) but I still developed SA. __________________ “Courage does not always roar. Sometimes courage is the quiet voice at the end of the day saying, 'I will try again tomorrow.'”

05-11-2012, 10:20 PM	#84 (permalink)
John316C Status: SAS Member Join Date: Apr 2011 Posts: 958	imbalance of parenting __________________ *John*

05-17-2012, 06:54 PM	#87 (permalink)
TigerRifle1 Status: SAS Member Join Date: Jan 2012 Gender: Male Posts: 355	I don't think mothers should be singled out R91 likes this.

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Ashley1990 Status: Its dawn here Join Date: Aug 2011 Location: INDIA Gender: Female Age: 23 Posts: 6,078	Beautiful thread... __________________ I have a heart 14 years old!!!!!

05-18-2012, 08:49 PM	#90 (permalink)
frenchie Status: SAS Member Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: Canberra, Australia Gender: Female Posts: 140	I was very fortunate to grow up in a very stable and loving family so this can't account for my SA at all. I was never bullied at school either. My anxiety first started at about age 14, which I put down simply to genetic factors. This is also consistent with the fact that medication has all but cured me. iEquanimity likes this.

05-11-2012, 03:18 PM	#82 (permalink)
Xmsbby Status: SAS Member Join Date: Aug 2008 Location: NY Gender: Female Posts: 69	I'll make sure I'll give my kids, if I ever decide to have kids, lots of hugs, kisses and expressive declarations of love! . My mom has been great but she's probably more shy than me. I don't remember her giving me hugs and kisses when I was younger but later on she would when I would complain to her about it. lol!

05-11-2012, 06:56 PM	#83 (permalink)
Insanityonthego Status: User Requested Permanent Ban Join Date: Jul 2010 Location: Panama City Gender: Female Age: 21 Posts: 1,315	I had motherly love till I was like 10. After I moved back to the states my parents divorced and she changed completely with me. She was more distant and cold. As a single mother with two other children to bare I guess that took a toll on her. I don't blame her, but she was pretty unexistent in my teenage years. She'd be working all day and never have the time to talk. After she remarried, she started another family. I felt kind of left out for awhile since I didn't get along with my stepdad much. Being here right now these couple of days with my stepdad and mom reminds me when I was 16. Except this time, I'm not that immature teenager anymore. I'm not gonna argue with my stepdad when I know my *** will be outta here in a couple of days. Four people in a studio, not cool at all. :/ Thank God I'm moving out. I feel very uncomfortable right now staying with them. We're packed up like freaking sardines. Being broke is no fun.

05-17-2012, 05:15 PM	#85 (permalink)
Estival Status: Shy Join Date: Jun 2011 Location: Wonderland Gender: Female Posts: 88	My mom has always been supportive of me, but at the same time she doesn't accept mistakes. She's always been very shy and intolerant of people; I'm definitely worse than she is, but perhaps her modeling didn't make the idea of talking to be people any more appealing.

05-17-2012, 05:36 PM	#86 (permalink)
Luka92 Status: User Requested Permanent Ban Join Date: Dec 2011 Gender: Male Posts: 2,235	That doesn't apply to me. Me and my mother are very close and she always loved me and gave me good advices...but I'm still messed up.

05-17-2012, 10:13 PM	#88 (permalink)
Foh_Teej Status: SAS Member Join Date: May 2004 Location: DFW Gender: Male Age: 33 Posts: 1,077	The researchers said: "It is striking that a brief observation of level of maternal warmth in infancy is associated with distress in adult offspring 30 years later" Im gonna call bull**** on this whole study. Whether or not this is even true can't be assessed with such inadequate methods. I cant believe they even publish this sort of crap.

05-19-2012, 03:29 PM	#91 (permalink)
Nibbler Status: SAS Member Join Date: Nov 2010 Location: England Gender: Male Age: 24 Posts: 336	So true as unfortunately I was separated from mine at such an early age and it deffaintly contiubted to the way I turned out

05-19-2012, 05:35 PM	#92 (permalink)
Invisigirl Status: Why are you so loud? Join Date: Oct 2011 Location: NY Gender: Female Age: 25 Posts: 724	My mom has always loved me. I have no confidence. __________________ Estoy cansada de esta pinche misera

05-20-2012, 03:49 PM	#93 (permalink)
iEquanimity Status: SAS Member Join Date: May 2012 Location: England Gender: Female Posts: 9	I'm fortunate enough to have such an amazing Mum. I don't know what I'd do without her. I hope one day if I ever had children, I'd be as good as a Mother my Mum was to me.

05-23-2012, 02:54 PM	#96 (permalink)
MobiusX Status: SAS Member Join Date: Nov 2008 Location: Long Island, New York Gender: Male Posts: 4,114	I don't even hug my own mom

05-26-2012, 11:55 AM	#97 (permalink)
ryobi Status: User Requested Permanent Ban Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: x Posts: 2,400	My mum was good. My dad was good too. Although, I probably inherited my SA from my mom...

05-31-2012, 08:59 PM	#100 (permalink)
GameGuy Status: GameGuy Join Date: Oct 2011 Location: Lat: 29.371345 ; Lon: -100.867558 Gender: Male Age: 24 Posts: 6,637	My parents divorced when I was 4. And now, 20 years later, my mother still holds a grudge against my father. And he never did anything wrong. __________________ "Anxiety weighs down the heart, but a kind word cheers it up." Proverbs 12:25. "To succeed, your desire for success should be greater than your fear of failure." Bill Cosby "Your children will be the greatest source of Joy and Grief for you. For those two emotions are the standards of Love." My Grandfather "Friendship with yourself is important. Without it, you cannot be friends with anyone else in this world." Eleanor Roosevelt "Life is best valued by quality, not length." Abraham Lincoln

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05-26-2012, 07:19 PM	#98 (permalink)
WhoDey85 Status: SAS Member Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: Ohio Gender: Male Age: 28 Posts: 1,269	"The hand that rocks the cradle rules the world." __________________ God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.

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strugglingforhope Status: SAS Member Join Date: Jun 2009 Location: Montana Gender: Male Age: 29 Posts: 187	My parents we're distant to me with affection. I can see how that has an effect on a person feeling they're not of value. Affection can signify at least to another person that you are important to them on an emotional level. If you don't have it it doesn't mean you'll be shy, it just makes having low confidence (feeling of self-worth) more likely. People can be shy for a host of different reasons.