Originally Posted by Meli24R
Well my mother and I are very close. She's always been loving, supportive and affectionate. Despite this, I've always had high anxiety and felt like I couldn't/can't cope. I believe there's a genetic component to my anxiety. I'm a lot like my grandmother(whose gad and panic attacks have gotten so bad that she hardly leaves ever her house)
I feel high certainty that SA is at least in part genetic because both of my parents, both of my siblings, my grandmother, and a few cousins all suffer from it.
There are just way too many people in my family (of different ages, backgrounds, socio-economic status, and even location -- some live in Mexico, aka another country as I live in the United States, born & raised here) who suffer from this for it just to be something I learned.
Then on the flip side of this, it can't be solely genetic because I also have very, very outgoing family members. For instance, my only female cousin from my mom's side has political aspirations. In college she ran a lot of goverment groups. She gets a real thrill from public speaking and debates. Meaning, she's the complete opposite of me. Yet, she's my cousin and she even looks like me...
So it can't be completely genetic.
I read something that I really liked, that said that SA is created from the same thing that creates every individual person. So what created who we are today? Just genetics? Of course not! We were also influenced by our surroundings, by our experiences, and by the people closests to us.
So, I think there are a lot of factors.
And for the record (and to keep on topic), my mother was actually VERY loving but not very affectionate because she was raised in single parent household with an absentee mother to the point of her really being criminally negligent to her kids, and just never learned to hug and kiss her loved ones and say things like "I love you"... all that didn't come until my teens and I was the driving force behind that. I began hugging my mom a lot, and kissing her on the cheek, and telling her I love you and at first it was awkward but more than 10 years later, hugging and kissing my mother on the cheek is not only a daily thing but something that feels very natural.
I'm not sure if her not being as affectionate with me growing up caused anxiety in me but definitely the fact that she herself had anxiety (and my grandmother who at the time lived with us) had anxiety. I think having two highly anxious adults in the house created a lot of anxiety in me at a very early age...